Does life have to be like this? (because this is not fun)

emerald21

bromleymum wrote: »

I had three close together and there were some awful days when I can honestly say, everything went wrong.

I too have locked my youngest in the car, but even worse, the engine was running while I was scraping ice off the windows. I had to put a brick through a window!!! Five minutes later when I'd stopped crying and got back in the house to calm down I remembered I had a spare key in the kitchen.

My absolute worse day which I can laugh about now... just ... was in an airport (what was I thinking!!!) trying to get all three on a plane. My OH took the toddlers and all I had to do was collapse the pushchair and get on the plane with the baby. I kept trying to close this pushchair one handed and it kept getting stuck. I couldn't figure out what was stopping the blooming thing from closing. I was getting really frustrated and as I apologised for holding up the queue a flight attendant pointed out that I would probably have more luck if I actually removed my son from the pushchair first.

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

mwa

No practical advice to add but just sympathy, this could have been me 12 months ago but it does get easier I promise!!! My DD is 4 and DS now 16 months and I look back and wonder how I stayed sane!!!

Oh maybe one tip - have you tried Berocca? I discovered that it really helped me to stay alert and positive somehow, well worth trying!

wildfrog

lalaladybird, I feel like you've been spying on me then have composed this thread about me! Seriously, a lot of stuff I could relate to.

Please don't feel alone in this, somehow I always feel a bit better seeing things like this that I'm not the only one.

There are times when they are both so sweet and lovely that I wish I could freeze time; then there are other days when I feel I am wishing the days away until they start school.

How old is toddler? Does she have the "over 3 year pre school place thing" yet? (I never know the right name)

Hope things improve
WFx

PS. I propose bath, wine and chocolates in the evening, sounds like you deserve it!

bylromarha

Counting_Pennies wrote: »

The health visitor came out, sat down with her and worked out what was going on. The twins were playing up big time.

She said what she noticed was a common thing.

You are so caught up in your day to day chaos you don't actually spend proper time with the children.

She said spend 10 minutes with tv, telephone, radio switched off. Don't do any jobs or sorting out around the house, and go to the loo first. Then sit down and spend 10 minutes solely with the children. Do an activity they want to do, don't enforce your views on the task.

Sorry, have I read correctly? A health visitor giving a mum some time in their home and actually being useful...first one I've heard of I think. :rotfl:

OP- Anther one here who has been there, 2 22 months apart. Some of my tips:

-stuff and I mean STUFF the car full of juice cartons, breadsticks, raisins, wet wipes, jar of baby food/toddler meal that last forever, spare nappies and changes of clothes in both sizes. Think I even kept the freeby disposable changing mats in there too. A toy and book bag. And a spare pair of shoes. Everytime I forgot to bring something there was a spare in the car.

-I took them out every morning. Tesco was my friend in the winter as they loved being there! Once a week we had a car picnic too. Meant we weren't in the house creating mess.

-had a buggy board. Eldest was well trained to stay on the board and had to ask to get off. When he did he was trained to hold on to the frame.

-Did lots of playing with them and made sure the tidying up was part of the playing with them.

-give the elder a wet wipe or 2. There is so much cleaning they will love to do.

-know when you want to leave and add an extra 20 minutes onto the time you think you'll need to leave.

-be assured that your children are a wonderful blessing and keep telling yourself this when you're having a day from hell.;)

FreeBee00

There are going to be days like this, of course! That happens no matter lifestyle you are living - kids or no kids - things go wrong and from there on out it feels like everything is awful. I would suggest finding something that is your own. Pick up a weekly yoga class. Find a group of ladies to go on a walk with at a specific time one night a week. Start a craft project and a time/place you can work on it each week. You need something that is all yours and enjoyable to you!

Sessie

*UTTERLY echoes FreeBee's comment about a hobby*

I have been massively down for the last few months, partly due to having twin two year olds and the havoc that comes with that, never finding the time to keep my house right, having nightmares when going shopping and, mostly, because I have a long-standing back problem that drains me as I was in constant pain.

A few weeks ago I had my back done - it cost me a FORTUNE as I had to have it done privately because the NHS had no funds to cover it but it was worth EVERY penny.

I am now in a much better place mentally - sure I have days (such as the other day when I posted) where the kids drive me insane but I have been buying card making mags which usually have a big kit free with them and bits and bobs like ribbon, tissue paper etc... when I see it cheap and am going to set aside one if not two nights a week once the children are in bed where I'm going to sit at the kitchen table and "get creative". I'm really excited about it - I'm sure my creations will look like they were made by the children not a grown adult but it will be something for ME.

Hoping to start doing this from next week as every night bar one this week is taken (mostly with boring stuff like ironing and batch cooking but hey....).

I do feel that I have kinda "lost my identity" since I had the children - especially as I do a simpler job now, part-time. I used to be "Sessie the PA" or just "Sessie" to people but for the last couple of years I've been "Boychild and Girlchild's mum" "Mr Sessie's wife" etc... and whilst I'm not sure how to reclaim myself (WOW this post sounds so American psychology, sorry about this!!) I think having something FOR ME is a step in the right direction.

Hope everyone is coping, we seem to be forming quite the support group here which is lovely to see!

Be back soon!

x

Lalaladybird

This is a really nice thread! What a lovely lot you are The kids have been really nice today but I'm having a night off the housework as I seem to have a bladder infection (been to the doc today and got antibiotics to take) OH is doing the dishes ...yippee:j

How are you all?

pupsicola

Bennifred wrote: »

This too will pass...............:cool:

So, so true. Your day sounds like how my life was. I thought it would never end. Both of mine are at school now thank the lord. It does get easier. Your toddler will start nursery in the next year or so. Hang on in their it will soon pass

sjc3

I admire you. It must be hard going coping with two children who are so young and close in age. I struggled just with my one child. Getting anywhere seemed an uphill struggle and I would feel like I could only go to child-friendly places. My dad turned round and said to me why dont you start making dd fit in with your plans. They have to learn that mummy/daddy have adult things they need to do and a trip to a library, garden centre etc etc wont kill them. After that dd fitted in with my plans and life had some more balance.

Once they start nursery and school etc life gets a whole lot easier. Keep smiling

sassyblue

Lalaladybird wrote: »

This is a really nice thread! What a lovely lot you are The kids have been really nice today but I'm having a night off the housework as I seem to have a bladder infection (been to the doc today and got antibiotics to take) OH is doing the dishes ...yippee:j

How are you all?

Ah bless you, you know what l even thought about starting a thread for everyone for support/advice or just to vent on the bad days of motherhood, maybe this thread could be for all us mummies?

Glad you got a night off albeit because you're ill ! :cool: Get well soon x