Does life have to be like this? (because this is not fun)

SailorSam

Go in and look at the kids when their asleep, and think how beautiful they look and how lucky you are.
Then a bit of mess around the house means nothing.

pigpen

Ooh.. one for you to laugh at.. just before christmas we went to buy a new car.. ordered and ready all we had to do was pick it up and pay the pennies.. I had the forms, OH's licence and paper bit, the money transferred from the savings account the ISOfix base for the car seat.. checked baby bag for everything (nappies, bibs, wipes, toys, slobber cloth, sudocrem, anbesol, nappy sacks, spare outfit.). everything sorted.. my mother took us so OH could drive it back.

We get there..


erm...


I've left my purse at home with my cards in... oops!

pigpen

jinky67 wrote: »

No you are an evil mum:p:p:p:p

but that doesn't make me less competent or wonderful It just means I stand for no crap either.

jinky67

Like others have said, I always had the baby bag filled with anything I may need, always replenished after a day out.
Always made sure there were some quiet toys in the bag to amuse the kids

I also got mine to help do the housework. My son loved dusting, he always asked to do it, I let him
He always put his toys and books away, made it for them, "lets see who can tidy more things away in 5 mins" that kind of thing.

My daughter loved helping choose things in shops to keep her amused, be it tins of beans or a pair of shoes for mum to try on

BUT most of all, remember they are only young once

ab7167

Another one to make you feel less incompetent - I not only locked my keys in the car this morning, just as we were about to leave in-laws to drive home, but I locked my 1 year old son in with them. AA couldnt break in, I ended up having to borrow MIL's car, drive home to get the spare set and drive back again. 90 minute round trip, so poor babe had been incarcerated for over 2 hours before we got him out. Fortunately, he slept for a lot of it, but my poor OH had borderline hypothermia from standing outside for 2 hours watching a baby sleeping in the car...

Apart from that, your day could have been one of mine very easily. Mine are 1 and 3, and the house is a tip. You sound like you're doing just fine...

Sessie

I've had a dreadful day with my twins - a boy and a girl aged 2.5.

From the get-go Girlchild was in "one of those moods". Whined at her breakfast, whined at her milk, whined at her toys, whined when we put the TV on (which she ASKED for, it's not just a standby thing), whined again when we turned it off.

So we all trouped upstairs to have a nice bubbly bath. As soon as we pulled the plug out she started again, struggled through nappy change and getting dry and dressed, whined whilst we tidied up the bathroom, put the towels and toys away etc.... whined whilst we tidied up their bedroom and cots. She then pulled all the freshly folded blankets off the side of the cots (numerous times!), pulled LOADS of loo roll off and ran around with it then went nuts when we had the temerity to take it from her.... culminating with her sitting halfway down the stairs SCREECHING her head off whilst we finished tidying up upstairs. Gave her juice, cuddles, a dummy even, but nope, she was going to whine and that was that.

Went to Mr Sessie's grandmother's (she's 87!) later in the day where she (Girlchild not the grandmother!) kept picking up delicate ornaments (never does it in anyone else's house, has been brought up to know better), did the loo roll thing again (slipped out of the room whilst I was making a drink) and then put loads in her mouth and spat it everywhere, pulled all the teatowels off the kitchen radiator and flung them around (many times), crying every time I told her off.

Boychild, whilst nowhere NEAR as bad as his sister at the moment, currently wakes the whole house (and most likely the neighbours) at 5.20 am EVERY MORNING with this screeching noise he likes to make. He's not crying, or even upset, it's just the current noise he makes. He does this over and over again, waking Girlchild who then cries as she's been jolted out of sleep and the only thing to stop him is to get him up and take him in with me. Believe me I've tried leaving him thinking he'll get fed up. He doesn't.

I have been writing a housework to-do list for a few weeks now as slotting tasks in when they are in a good mood just isn't getting the jobs done. It's nearly finished but the chances I'll ever find the time to do it are so slim at the moment and having an untidy (not dirty but not as tidy as I'd like it) house gets me down.

So, you're SO not alone. I know EXACTLY how you're feeling. I'm just telling myself over and over that spring and summer are coming SOON and we'll be able to get them out more, into the fresh air to burn off all that negative energy, see something other than these four walls (which I know is a big part of it with all this cold weather, they're a bit fed up, but so am I and do I scream my head off all day? Hmm.... not EVERY day.... ).

I waited 15 years for these children and went through two rounds of expensive and painful IVF so be in no doubt I adore them. That doesn't mean there aren't days when you could just walk out of the house and keep going. What I've recently realised is... it's OK to think that (just... uh... don't actually DO it yeah??!), it's OK to admit you're having a bad day or a bad time and whilst you love your children you don't like their BEHAVIOUR. It's not THEM you don't like, it's the behaviour.

Course, I have no advice on how to change it so... what good am I?? :rotfl:

x

dawn_rose

hiya i can sympathise i have a 5 year old a 3 year old and an 8 month old life is hectic, we tend to start with the most needed jobs done and the rest get in a que. as long as we have our basic needs met and are clean and presentable its not too bad. my house resembles a toy shop come monday you cant see the floor for toys, the washing basket is always ovewrflowing, i always have jobs to do e.g. wash up put away.

* i have a changing bag ready to go at all times.
*i do an online shop once a week.
* i keep a diary off all appointments, house work to be done, kids activities ect each week.

these are my main organisation things. i make sure everything is washed dried and folded, iron once or twice a week, the kitchen and bathroom are clean. i chuck the hoover round every other day and swipe over with a damp cloth once a week. i mainly do jobs when lil one is asleep or put her in high chair if in the kitchen.

itll all pass and what you worry about today will be done with and forgotten tomoz. massive hugs it can seem like forever at the time but your not alone tons of mums feel like this. always here to chat.

Counting_Pennies_2

PS - my friend once phoned her health visitor up and said I just can't stop the urge inside me to beat my twins. I am going crazy.

(Extreme, but true)

The health visitor came out, sat down with her and worked out what was going on. The twins were playing up big time.

She said what she noticed was a common thing.

You are so caught up in your day to day chaos you don't actually spend proper time with the children.

She said spend 10 minutes with tv, telephone, radio switched off. Don't do any jobs or sorting out around the house, and go to the loo first. Then sit down and spend 10 minutes solely with the children. Do an activity they want to do, don't enforce your views on the task.

Then say you have your jobs to do.

I have to say it is so true. Just 10 minutes of complete one to one attention, without a dishwasher, a phone call, a clean of a loo, writing of a cheque. They really are satisfied after this and then it allows you to do some jobs, and then an hour later do the same.

hth

Lalaladybird

While I wouldn't wish these sorts of days on anyone I am glad I am not alone in all this. Since my last post my toddler has stuck her little alien toys in her dinner (cottage pie) so I gave her a bucket of soapy water to clean them herself and she accidentally spilled this all over the kitchen floor and she decided to pee on her bed while I was feeding the baby a bottle (through jealous attention seeking I suppose) so she didn't get her bedtime cartoon.

Now I have a few hours of serious cleaning and tidying to do so I don't start off tomorrow even worse than today boo hoo!

jinky67

Counting_Pennies wrote: »

PS - my friend once phoned her health visitor up and said I just can't stop the urge inside me to beat my twins. I am going crazy.

(Extreme, but true)

The health visitor came out, sat down with her and worked out what was going on. The twins were playing up big time.

She said what she noticed was a common thing.

You are so caught up in your day to day chaos you don't actually spend proper time with the children.

I actually notice this with my friend, she says her DD age 2 is the devil on wee short legs:rotfl:she is so busy thinking and doing stuff, that she doesnt sit down with her and read or play or anything. Child is a perfect angel when I am babysitting cos I take the time to mess around, rather than clear mess up;)
She used to spend loads of time playing with her eldest and I think this is why she thinks wee one is hell, not enough time in the day