How would you respond to this email, Brothers wedding invite?

TonyDebs

Hi ya,

got a text message - number not known to me - saying "Hey , Its Christine - long time no see - how is everything? Would you be able to let me have your email address so Bob and I can send one about the wedding. thanks!x"

So I texted back - "our email address is......."

This is the email we just recieved.

Evening,

We are getting married on December 23rd and would love you to be able to attend. We have decided to make the wedding adults only so that you can don your dancing shoes and keep your hands full with glasses of bubbly in an adult-only zone (we're sure your little ones would prefer to stay in waiting for father christmas!).

Please would you be able to reply to this with your postal address so that we can pop your invite in the post )

Love

C & B x

What do you think?? Nothing stranger than families is there??

Bearing in mind that they were invited and attended our wedding last year with our children age 6 and 10, and we thought that they enjoyed themselves.
They seem to be very busy people that are always out making money, we live one end of the country and they live the other.
As far as we know we have said nothing unkind about them, we dont have much contact.Because we have children and they seem to enjoy the good life, no kids etc.
What do you think the underlining message of this email is???, and how should we respond??

Thanks

a very confused couple...lol

Raksha

I don't think there is any underlying message - as you say, they have a different lifestyle to yours, and it doesn't include children at a wedding.

littlemissfrugal

I dont think there is any hidden message - they are just having a child free wedding, that is their choice. They may have come to your wedding and had a great time but they are doing theirs differently

nervousftb_3

TonyDebs wrote: »

What do you think the underlining message of this email is???, and how should we respond??

I think they want to invite you to their wedding....Not sure I really understand what you are asking. Lots of people choose not to have children at weddings (their wedding=their choice) and they have sent you a nice polite email inviting you but explaining it's adults only. So not sure why you are confused?

pigpen

I think you should respond whether you and you spouse can go to the wedding.. they don't want children there however much they love them and you have to respect that... you don't have to like it but it isn't your decision.

AnnaV

Woohoo! Great excuse to get a babysitter and have a fun evening. That's what I'd be thinking anyway.

Apricot

I don't see anything wrong with the email - if they have your kids at their wedding they would probably have to have other kids there which is an unecessary expense perhaps or maybe they just want a child free wedding - it's common these days.

Do you want to go the wedding? If so respond with your address for the proper invite. Im not entirely sure what's upsetting you tbh?

mrcow

So is the wedding at the other end of the country? On Christmas eve? If so, then you can't go.

Personally, I'd just leave it for now. Wait until you speak to your brother in person and send a formal excuse after you'd told him why you can't go.

Don't reply to the email.

Why doesn't your own brother know your address? Or are they just being weird?!

lauren_1

Its their wedding, they've paid for it.

Nothing much else to say.

POPPYOSCAR

I don't see what the confusion is.

They want a child free adult only wedding. It is their wedding their choice.I personally like children at weddings but it is their choice.

I really can't see what your problem is here.

bap98189

I don't think there is any underlying message. They are inviting you to their wedding. They are letting you know that they are not inviting kids to the wedding, which is a fairly common occurrence and entirely their choice.

Not everyone likes children at social events. You had your children at your wedding, and that was your choice. They have clearly decided to keep the wedding reception for adults only - that is their choice. She's letting you know about the no-children at the wedding thing to avoid any confusion. Perhaps it could have been worded a little better, but I don't think there is any underlying message here, other than the fact they don't like kids.