How would you respond to this email, Brothers wedding invite?

lindseykim13

Me personally i wouldn't go. Their choice to have no kids at the wedding but for us as a family we come as a unit. Mind you i'm unsocial anyway!
To be honest having a younger brother i would be offended if he said his own nephews and neices weren't welcome to at least part of the wedding. I can see the ceremony being as issue for some but what difference does it make in the evening when it's loud and noisy anyway.

AnnaV

Mme.Hibou wrote: »

If one of my brothers announced they were getting married, and they stipulated no children, if I was to attend (which I would) I would take my child with me.

How rude and inconsiderate of you!

elvis86

Mme.Hibou wrote: »

If one of my brothers announced they were getting married, and they stipulated no children, if I was to attend (which I would) I would take my child with me. I'd be devastated if my brothers (or my sister) didn't want their nephew there.

Then I'm afraid you're very disrespectful and pig ignorant. If, in this hypothetical situation, your brother/sister sent you an invite stipulating no children, it would be quite clear that for whatever (perfectly legitimate) reason, he/she did not want the nephew there. How much clearer need they be?

"Dear Mr and Mrs Mme.Hibou excluding Mme.Hibou Jnr, Please attend our wedding on..."..?!

Mme.Hibou wrote: »

Oh and everyone knows for it to be a lawful wedding any member of the public should have free entry to the service.

This may be true, but what a silly argument. Presumably you'd be happy if your worst enemy turned up at your's then? It would be their right, after all.

Mme.Hibou wrote: »

I realise I might not be invited to the reception afterwards though

You'd be lucky to ever be invited anywhere again if you pulled a stunt like that on me.;)

victor2

My sister planned a child-free wedding a number of years ago and invited my wife and I. I had two step-children via my wife so they of course were not invited. My wife was a bit hurt as we were one of the few potential guests with children. I politely declined the invitation stating we couldn't get a baby-sitter for a whole day - it wasn't near Christmas or any other event like that.
My Dad was upset we couldn't make it and asked me as a special favour to him if we could go, without the children of course. In the end we found someone to take the children for the day and attended. Glad we did - it was their special day, we were family and the invitation was nothing personal, it was just that the place holding the reception had a no children policy.
I can see how it would be much more difficult so close to Christmas, and probably would decline, hoping they wouldn't take it personally.

peachyprice

Mme.Hibou wrote: »

If one of my brothers announced they were getting married, and they stipulated no children, if I was to attend (which I would) I would take my child with me. I'd be devastated if my brothers (or my sister) didn't want their nephew there.

Oh and everyone knows for it to be a lawful wedding any member of the public should have free entry to the service.

I realise I might not be invited to the reception afterwards though

You wouldn't have any respect for your brother's wishes then then? Charming.

poet123

I also don't think there is an underlying message and if it was not a close relative would be quite happy to attend without kids.

However, I think I would be hurt if my brother excluded his nephews, even if they were the only kids there, although I suppose it depends on how many nieces/nephews there are on both sides, as to whether that would be feasible. It seems they have made their decision though, and provided I could get mum or mil to babysit then I would go.

*Louise*

I think that's one of the most tactful 'no children please' wedding invites I have heard about

Their wedding, their choice. If a guest doesn't like it then they have ample opportunity to turn down the invite.

Personally, I would be a little miffed if my own brother did that, but I would be fine as long as I didn't leave my ids with a babysitter only to get there to find that there were maybe young children there from the other side of their family.

geri1965_2

I find this whole idea of weddings without kids weird. I can understand not wanting all and sundry to bring their kids, but excluding their own nieces and nephews? I wouldn't have dreamed of not inviting my nephew and nieces to my wedding. I love them and I wanted them to be there.

Mathew

I'm in the process of planning a wedding for next year and wondered how to tackle this as I don't was kids there nor does the bride to be.

I would have gone for something far less subtle, but I'll cut and paste that!

Don't take it personally!

treetrunks

Nelski wrote: »

Is it me or is it odd/sad that your brother doesn't know your address (cross posted Mr Cow )

Anyway I see nothing wrong with it and personally it would probably be my choice too - if you don't approve don't go - a polite its too near to christmas to be away from the family would do I am sure

i dont know my brother or sisters address, i visit often and know exactly where they live but couldnt tell you the house number of street name to be honest. Think thats reflective of the modern age.