How would you respond to this email, Brothers wedding invite?

belfastgirl23

Not seeing what the problem is at all with this...

rachbc

The message isn't underlying - its there in black and white - we don't want kids at our wedding. Its fairly common, not what I chose but its their day.

SandC

I agree, there is no underlying message there. You are simply being given lots of notice of an important date for your diary and being notified in a more casual manner.

Tell me, if you had a posh invite plop onto your doormat with a simple note at the bottom saying 'sorry no children' wouldn't that be a lot worse than being given a heads up like this?

I'm sure they had a blast at your wedding but they're doing theirs differently. They are acutely aware of the time of year - but it's on 23rd. You go there, you have a great time, you drive home on Xmas Eve morning ready for children time in the evening - simples.

Don't make an issue out of something that could make next Xmas one of your most memorable! The children will be all consumed by Xmas Eve and Xmas day - 23rd won't mean much to them at all, just another day to get past before the biggies!

elvis86

dizziblonde wrote: »

The no kids at weddings thing - they're paying, their wedding, their rules. Go if you want to, don't go if you don't want to but don't go down the hysterical bullying/armtwisting/emotional blackmail thing some consider to be perfectly acceptable to those arranging weddings (and don't bring a baby along to a no-kid wedding knowing that the bride and groom won't be able to make a scene and turn you away on the day like a relative did at mine). They're under no obligation to revolve their entire universe around your family and some people don't want kids at their wedding - that's life - no one's forcing you to go.

This is absolutely outrageous, I would've been tempted to politely ask them to leave. How dare someone show such blatant disregard to your requests on your big day?!:mad:

Norma_Desmond

Ditto to all the above; our wedding was child free and all the better for it.
Your brother's email was polite, well worded and specific; where's the problem?

Torry_Quine

I agree that the e-mail is very clear and it is their wedding so their rules. Am I the only one who thinks it very strange to get a text asking for your e-mail address followed by an e-mail from your brother who surely has your address? Why do people feel it necessary to contact intended guests so far in advance?

minerva_windsong

I can understand sending such an email for that time of year, as people may be going to relatives for Christmas, have work dos etc - my sister got married in early December and she was ringing round the people she most wanted at the wedding when they set the date in early February.

I agree with everyone else that there's no underlying message. It's their wedding and if they want it child free then that's entirely up to them. If you don't want to go without the kids I'd cite distance as the reason why.

onlyroz

Agree with others - there is no sinister message. They just don't want kids at their wedding, which is their choice. If you can't/don't want to leave your kids behind then politely decline the invite.

DUKE

What a lovely & tactful email I thought.

Come on let your hair down without the kids for once!

My nephew & his partner have 3 kids & they never take them to wedding's. They frequently take off for an entire weekend to attend a wedding whilst my sister enjoys having her grandkids.

Mme.Hibou

elvis86 wrote: »

This is absolutely outrageous, I would've been tempted to politely ask them to leave. How dare someone show such blatant disregard to your requests on your big day?!:mad:

If one of my brothers announced they were getting married, and they stipulated no children, if I was to attend (which I would) I would take my child with me. I'd be devastated if my brothers (or my sister) didn't want their nephew there.

Oh and everyone knows for it to be a lawful wedding any member of the public should have free entry to the service.

I realise I might not be invited to the reception afterwards though