new nanny how often visit the baby?

JC9297

Bennifred wrote: »

Well, I don't know what you class as a very long time ago, but I had a very similar experience to jackieb - that was 18 years ago.....:p

I was expecting to hear 60s or 70s! When I had my 18 yo the norm was next day discharge if no probs and mums looked after the babies themselves.

squirrelchops

It sounds to me that new Mum is going to run herself into the ground if she doesn't take it a bit easier instead of going to parties/visiting etc in the first few weeks.

I'm not saying she has to be holed up inside, far from it but doing too much and not having time to relax or living up to what others want is a factor in PND for example.

It may just be that new mum is so excited about new baby she wants to be 'showing him off' to everyone though.

*Louise*

It;'s funny how discharge times vary for differnt people. With my first I was kept in for 2 days (forceps delivery) but with my 3rd she was born at 7pm and I was discharged at 11pm, a record 4 hours due to NO bed spaces - my mum 'popped round' to visit the baby as soon as we got home lol


OP - I hope you have managed to have a chat with your daughter by now. So many family rifts are caused by one person feeling offended/left out/hurt etc and the other doesn't even realise there is a problem until is escalates

rachbc

4 yrs ago with dd was discharged after 3 and a bit hours - would have been sooner but had to wait for some paperwork. I think I was somekind of record, admitted for induction at 3, baby born at 6, home quaffing champagne by 10... I then holed up at home, limiting visiters for 2 weeks for my 'babymoon'

ds was a homebirth 12 yrs ago, but I was at tesco 2 days later (me came early, had planned to do my big shop the day he was born!)

Lunar_Eclipse

jackieb wrote: »

I'm always surprised when I see new mum's out really soon after giving birth. The least amount of time I was hospital after having a baby was 5 days, and every afternoon the curtains were closed in the ward and we'd have to lie on our stomach and nap for an hour. That sounds positively Draconian but my youngest is only 15, so not that long ago.

Wow. Did you have a caesarian? I know they require a 5 day stay in hospital. Beds are in short supply where I had my babies that they don't expect you to stay if you have a straightforward birth.

My eldest is (very almost!) 11, so born only 4 years after your youngest. I was planning to go home on the day of her birth, but in the end needed to stay in overnight because of a delivery complication.

I didn't stay overnight with the second and she came to music class with me at just 48 hours old (because I was breastfeeding, otherwise she could have stayed with DH.) Not sure what I was thinking; I just thought life should carry on for the toddler I suppose, and it was only for an hour.

If I had one now, they'd have to kick me out!:D

jackieb

JC9297 wrote: »

Presumably this was a very long time ago? NHS stopped having funds to provide a hotel and childminding service many years ago!

I have 4 and my youngest is 15.

Lunar Eclipse, no caesarian, although I had hard births with my 1st and 4th. Had a keillands forceps with the first and had a placenta abruption with the youngest and lost 2 litres of blood. But even with my middle 2, I got the same treatment and they were straightforward births. My stays after giving birth varied from 5 to 8 days.

zoesmummy_2006

Both mine were c sections, 1st cos dd was breech and 2nd was elective cos (now ex) hubby put fear into me that if i was to try natural delivery he mite not get back in time. Was lorry driver n only worked in local areas lol but hey whats dones done. With both mine i went in in wed, had the sections at 2pm, and was home by 4pm on the fri despite almost being taken back to theatre after having ds and nearly requiring transfusion. Hated being in hospital, was horrible and i just wanted to get home to my bed!!!!

onlyroz

One night in hospital each time for me - but I'd have left sooner if I could. Both times I was sent home but told to go back in the next day so that baby could have some test or other - better that they had the bed available than have me using it just so baby could have a routine test the next day.

AnnaV

Perhaps she doesn't want the inlaws visiting that often but it's difficult for her to say anything.

TBH, I think your feelings should take a back seat for a while - she's only had the baby a week, it's difficult enough remembering your own name let alone worrying about how everyone else is feeling.

I am sure things will settle down soon enough, but I wouldn't risk hurting her by saying anything - these first few days with your baby are so precious it would be a huge shame to spoil it.

POPPYOSCAR

OP does not appear to have been around for a while so hopefully she is too busy with her daughter and granddaughter to be posting on here!