new nanny how often visit the baby?

GobbledyGook

LilacPixie wrote: »

just shows how it changes..i delivered 7am last wednesday and at 3pm could of went home. I chose to stay as dd sounded a bit mucusy but she puked that up so i was out 11am next morning... Saturday we were at a restraunt for a family birthday celebration.. With dd2 i went right from hospital to Mr T for shopping. :rotfl:

I did that after DD2. She was born at 11pm at home and by 3pm the next day I'd gone for a walk to Tesco because I wanted to get out the house and wanted a few bits n bobs.

There's no advice given to keep babies inside for days or anything, in fact my MW at my second homebirth recommended getting out for a walk with the pram every day as soon as you felt up to it to stop you feeling trapped in.

I was very strict with visitors though - smokers had to have a clean top with them, wash their hands and no holding the baby for 1 hour after a smoke. If the baby cried or anything the whoever had them had to pass them back to me instantly. And no-one got a cuddle without first making me a cup of tea or a sandwich :rotfl:None of this running about after visitors went on in my house :rotfl:

Mojisola

Saint_Chris wrote: »

I've always popped in 3 times a week, and i've always received a text from her during the day, just saying what's she's been doing or how work was going.

I think if I had had this routine prior to the birth and I'd been round and helped with bits of shopping, etc, since the birth, I would be feeling very upset that my daughter had time for, it seems, everyone else rather than me!

Poly,put_the_kettle_on

Advice has definately changed in recent years- when eldest was born in 1990, it was standard for you to be kept in for 4 days with your first child. Just before christmas, when DD2 had her first, she was told anything from 6 hours, and she could go.

I remember going for a walk into town hours after having one of my middle two to register the birth.

JC9297

Poly,put_the_kettle_on wrote: »

Advice has definately changed in recent years- when eldest was born in 1990, it was standard for you to be kept in for 4 days with your first child. Just before christmas, when DD2 had her first, she was told anything from 6 hours, and she could go.

I remember going for a walk into town hours after having one of my middle two to register the birth.

I think it varied between hospitals, some probably took longer to realise that mothers are not ill than others. I had my first in 1992 (in a major teaching hospital) and it was expected you would go home the next day, we ended up staying in a few days because of problems with my son otherwise would have gone next day. My second in 1997 ended up being born at home so never made it to hospital, by then it was common to leave later in the day if born in the morning.
If mother and baby are fine there is less risk of infection etc at home than in hospital. I was never told to keep babies at home in the early days, common sense means you don't take them anywhere where there are ill people but really the need to stay at home is more for the mother to rest than anything else.

jackieb

poet123 wrote: »

Really? it must be area/hospital dependent, my youngest is 14 in May and I was home 24 hours after he was born, just as I was with my second and third babies.

After number two was born I was hosting a birthday party in McDonald's for the eldest two days later:eek:. I was in longer with baby number one though as he had complications at birth.

It was like a holiday. I gave birth to all mine in a big maternity hospital out of town and hated it, but after a day or so i'd get transferred back to the cottage hospital. They couldn't do enough for you.

You'd get to go out for the evening the day before you were discharged. You could have a quiet night at home getting everything ready, or go out for a meal as it might be the last time for a while, and the staff in the hospital looked after the babies. I think we might've been a bit spoilt but it really was lovely.

skintchick

I'm a big believer in a babymoon, where you stay in with baby. i did this with DD apart from the odd short walk and it was lovely.

http://www.thegreenparent.co.uk/articles/read/benefits-of-a-babymoon/

RebekahR

I can seriously feel your pain and I want to cry for you. This is something very close to my heart. My sister had a baby last AUGUST and my mum has still NOT seen the baby. Completely different reasons to you though but I think this is something you need to talk to her about. My mum hasn't spoken to my sister but then my sister's boyfriend has banned mum from seeing the baby as he hates her. And my sister says she agrees with him but we know that if he was not around things would be different.My sister is very easily led. Anyway I digress. Just to say I really feel for you. *Hugs*

Saint_Chris wrote: »

thanks it was a baby girl.

Hubby feels a bit like me, a bit left out, with our work commitements we can only visit them certain times.

I'm probably being and feeling stupid, but you cant' help how you feel, and i didn't want to be a pushy nanny, but i feel like a left out nanny, as i've seen her for 2 hours since she was born on sunday, yet his mum, has been there everyday and they visited them today.

I don't want to have to say anything as it's a hard time being a parent for the 1st time, but i did hope for a bit more....probably being selfish.

JC9297

jackieb wrote: »

It was like a holiday. I gave birth to all mine in a big maternity hospital out of town and hated it, but after a day or so i'd get transferred back to the cottage hospital. They couldn't do enough for you.

You'd get to go out for the evening the day before you were discharged. You could have a quiet night at home getting everything ready, or go out for a meal as it might be the last time for a while, and the staff in the hospital looked after the babies. I think we might've been a bit spoilt but it really was lovely.

Presumably this was a very long time ago? NHS stopped having funds to provide a hotel and childminding service many years ago!

Bennifred

JC9297 wrote: »

Presumably this was a very long time ago? NHS stopped having funds to provide a hotel and childminding service many years ago!

Well, I don't know what you class as a very long time ago, but I had a very similar experience to jackieb - that was 18 years ago.....:p

scottishchick27

I had my daughter at 9 in the morning and was discharged at 3 in the afternoon, then drove us all home 60 miles as I didn't trust my partner driving with our DD . My daughter got a certificate for being MacDonalds youngest customer at 7 hours old. I was starving as hospital food was so bad I didn't eat for 2 days (I was induced) so we stopped at the drive thu on the way home