Less than 12 weeks pregnant club! 2

Plans_all_plans

Hi Laura, yeah I intend to take a year off. I'll get 6 months on near enough full pay (just works out that way, because of my pay , the policy and me already being part time etc) and then the other 6 months unpaid.

After that time, I'm hoping to give up work until the baby's 3 or just over, and then I'll go part time again, if I can find a job that fits around the little one.

It'll be a struggle financially, but we did it before and so we'll just have to do it again!

Charli82

Im hoping to take about 9 months off and then come back to work 3 days a week. My boss is ok with that but we'll just have to see what the MD says, I have a feeling he wont be keen on me being part time. We shall see! If not I will look for something with part time hours. We probably could just about afford to live on OH's salary but I love my career and want to keep my hand in.
Scan day on Tuesday. Im half excited and half nervous. I just want to know that all is ok and Im not just getting fat (and sick and sleepy!!) for no reason! hehe!

lisa26_2

I'm very lucky as DH earns alot more than me and we have no mortgage so a very nice position to be in. Although the constant threat of redundancy for the last 2 years with no end in sight does ruin that a bit!!! DH and I work in the same place too so we're both affected! Anyway, I will be saying that I might go back after the 12 months but I probably won't unless I find I really miss the place.....which right now I can't imagine!!! Also, when I do go back to work i'd want to be part time and that would be very difficult to do where I am and not really financially viable due to the distance I have to travel so I will probably end up looking for a part time job elsewhere just so I can earn a bit of my own money to help out!

lisa26_2

Forgot to say, I had my booking in appointment earlier, how boring is that?! Had MIL on the hpone after desperate to know how I'd got on then disappointed when I said there was nothing to tell......I've told her hundreds of times that its only filling in forms!!!

She couldn't do my bloods (mw not MIL!!) as it was too late on Fri afternoon so they would go off before they'd get done on Monday so I have the forms to take with my scan and got to ask them nicely to take them there!

skintchick

snoopytweety wrote: »

I told my work really early on as I have a great boss, and she has been fab about time off, was going to keep it secret from colleagues until next Thursday after scan, but have total baby brain and just started talking to someone about bump as if they had known all along, and typically it was the one person in the office with the biggest mouth!!!

11 + 1 today and so excited for next week's scan, but also very very nervous and scared! Have been considering getting a doppler so I can try to listen to baby's heartbeat, but think that might scare me even more if I cannot find it! x

I got an Angelsounds doppler and used it with DD. I liked it. Even if I couldn;t get her heartbeat, because she was breech and always ran away from the doppler lol, I could listen to my placenta whooshing, or the kicks she was making, so I liked it and found it reassuring, and when I could ifnd the heartbeat it was a nice bonus.

I think if you know that it is hard to find the heartbeat, then you wont worry so much. You can listen to everything else!

Bit too early to use a home doppler yet though, think it is more like 16 weeks when you can get something on a home one.

lovecrafting

skintchick, i just noticed on your sig you are a brestfeeding peer helper thingy, i wonder if you could help me with something please. when i had dd3 i had really painfull nipples and ended up giving up on breastfeeding at six weeks when she came out of special care. but i remember one nipple being more painfull than the other and she wouldnt feed on that side. I want to try again with this one and am wondering if i should think about getting some of those sheild things or something to stop them being painfull and encorage the baby to feed on that side?

skintchick

lovecrafting wrote: »

skintchick, i just noticed on your sig you are a brestfeeding peer helper thingy, i wonder if you could help me with something please. when i had dd3 i had really painfull nipples and ended up giving up on breastfeeding at six weeks when she came out of special care. but i remember one nipple being more painfull than the other and she wouldnt feed on that side. I want to try again with this one and am wondering if i should think about getting some of those sheild things or something to stop them being painfull and encorage the baby to feed on that side?

Yes I am, I'm with the Breastfeeding Network.

It would be better if you could get some help with positioning and attachment (P&A). Most pain is caused by poor P&A and usually only a very minor adjustment is needed in the way you hold baby or the position to make feeding pain-free.

Shields can be useful, but they interfere with the transfer of hormones between mum and baby, and can cause problems of their own, so it's best to try all other options first.

If you log onto the Breastfeeding Network website you can search for a local group you can go to to get information and help. You can go before baby is born to talk about your past experiences, and obviously once baby is born to get specific help.

There is also a helpline open every day from half nine to half nine, and you can get help over the phone with positioning and attachment, as well as other issues.

I'd suggest that you talk through your past experience with someone trained, as they might be able to help you understand what caused the pain, and that you seek help as soon as you experience any problems with breastfeeding, by calling the helpline and/or by going to a local drop-in.

In some cases you can get a home visit, but that does depend on where you live as some areas aren;t able to offer that service.

Babies can refuse a breast for a number of reasons, among them being poor attachment and positioning causing them to struggle to get milk out, or to be in pain due to an awkward position.

A qualified person can help you work out what it is, and come up with ideas to solve the problems. It is very rare that a problem cannot be overcome, but it is vital to get help sooner rather than later, as the longer you leave sore nipples the worse they get.

Breastfeeding should not hurt, as the nipple should be deep within the baby's mouth and their gums should be milking your actual breast, not your nipple, so if there is pain, then there is a problem.

Hope that helps.

MrsH...2B

Hi ladies,

Sounds like everyone is getting on well!
I told my boss today (7 weeks) which is earlier than I had planned but have been feeling really sickly the last couple of days an keep disappear so didn't want him to think I was skiving! (sp?) he took it really well considering I work in a VERY busy branch an we already have one girl off on mat leave with whom I'll more than likely over lap. It's such a relieve to have told him.
Just need the midwife to get back with a date for my booking in appointment now but it's not looking like it will be till about 26th!!!! must admit I getting really impatient for that now will just be nice once iv spoke to some for reassurance I suppose!
Any hope everyone has a fab weekend x

lovecrafting

Thank you for your help skintchick, i will log onto thee and take a look.

well today i need to do the packing, moving is becoming a total nightmare so i have decided that if i pack up the small stuff it can be taken over to the new place and then all i need to find a van for is the big stuff.

Amymo

House party at a friends tonight and I'm waaaaay overthinking not drinking as she's super observant so I'm headed to town to get some non alcoholic cider and I'll just have to subtly peel the label off and hope no-one else drinks it!

Good luck with the move lovecrafting, take it easy and have frequent breaks x