Less than 12 weeks pregnant club! 2

BeNiceToMySelf

LOL I'm still a bit excited. I'm only telling my 2 best mates and someone I work closely with at the moment. I also have to tell fitness instructors as I do a lot of classes per week.

an9i77

I'm terrible at keeping secrets, already I've told one friend, my boss and my parents. Last time I just about managed to keep it private til 9 weeks before everyone knew. I'm staying with a friend at the weekend, she knows we've been trying, I don't think I'll manage to keep it in.
Mind you I found out about her ages before she went public and then had to feign suprise when she told me.

BeNiceToMySelf

well there only a handful more that know we are trying/ I was keen to get preggers. If they ask I'll tell them. I'm hoping I don't get obvious symptoms like all-the-time sickness.

an9i77

I'm just going see what happens on my birthday - we're all going out for tapas/cocktails/more drinks. Its inconceivable that I would forgoe cocktails for any other reason than being up the duff and I can't be arsed to come up with a pathetic excuse no one will believe anyway.

I'm not going to say anything - just let them realise. Shame really as I'll only be 6 weeks then and don't really want to let the cat out of the bag, at least not before I've at least seen a heartbeat. Its just the thought of having to get the message out to everyone if it goes wrong, to avoid them thinking I still am if I'm not.

I can't even have mocktails due to my diabetes, all that fruit juice would not be good, so it's not like I can pretend I am drinking. Also rather than spend money on expensive taxis I may as well make advantage of my situation and drive the car into town!

What would you do???

BeNiceToMySelf

just come clean if they ask if you are a rubbish liar like me!

you could drink diet coke and pretend it has vodka in it?

an9i77

BeNiceToMySelf wrote: »

just come clean if they ask if you are a rubbish liar like me!

you could drink diet coke and pretend it has vodka in it?

That may work if it wasn't my birthday - but as everyone will be buying me drinks they will know! Also i've been banging on about this new cocktail at the cocktail bar telling everyone I need one on my bday and they all have to try it. Its going to be obvious - after not being able to TTC last year due to medical probs the minute I could I told everyone so it really won't take much for them to put 2 and 2 together. I think I'll just let them guess and sod it, if fate is tempted then so be it.

pigpen

I wouldn't be celebrating my birthday so it wouldn't be an issue I hate my birthday I don't evwn fess up when it is unless I have to. If I had an event to go to I would just drink lemonade (no ice or lemon) and pretend to myself it contained vodka. Most people are used to me drinking just lemonade anyway so it wouldn't be an issue.

Then again, I look like a whale from 10 seconds after conception so couldn't hide it if I wanted to.

BeNiceToMySelf

I'm going out in a week so I might try that antibiotics trick x

an9i77

Good luck! I found myself itching to tell everyone in my last pregnancy, I accidentally blurted it out to a couple of friends but then managed to at least see a heart beat before I told the rest of the world.
Make sure none of your friends are doctors - I think you can drink on most modern antibiotics now so that excuse is a bit of a giveaway!

abis21

I think it really depends on who you feel comfortable with knowing in case things do go wrong.

Last time I told quite a few people as I was very very sick, which a) I thought was a really good sign that everything was going ok and b) I couldn't really hide! I lost a stone in 3 weeks and was bordering on having to go in to hospital for dehydration as I couldn't keep water down or anything. It turned out it was a partial molar pregnancy and the baby had died at around 6 weeks but the placenta grows uncontrollably and the HCG in your system is about triple the normal - hence exagurating sickness symptoms etc.

In hindsight - I am glad a lot of the people I told knew as they were an amazing support to me and I would have struggled without them. However, certain friends just didn't know what to do/say and distanced themselves which upset me, and there was some people I had to email and share the news with that quite frankly I felt daft doing it. I wouldn't have ever shared bad news with some of the people I had told intentionally - but obviously I didn't want the next time I saw them for them to be asking questions like when was I due etc etc.

I told my DD last time (6) and I felt so guilty for putting her through the upset of it all - but I think either way with that one it would have been hard. She wouldn't have understood why I was so ill, or why I had to go to hospital for an operation, or why I cried a lot afterwards etc - and kids think very differently from adults so she might have thought I was dying or something and been very frightened.

This time - its early days, so noone knows apart from DH. Everyone knows we had the miscarriage, and have had problems conceiving since then - so I imagine some people will sort of be expecting an announcement at some point. I was undergoing tests through the doctor for irrregular cycles etc.

I imagine my mum will be the hardest person to keep from knowing. We have been doing zumba together since the new year and I don't want to continue doing this whilst pregnant. This week I was full of cold - so had a legitimate excuse. I think I am going to say I'm in the 2ww and daren't risk it next week and the week after.

I will be entitled to an early scan due to last time - so am hoping to have had that done before telling people - and even then it will be more selective on those who I tell - probs just my mum/dad, my boss (who is also my brother), and probs my best friend. I think everyone else can wait until after the 12 week scan realistically - but obv it will depend on how things go symptom wise etc.

Possible excuses for not drinking are:

Diet / losing weight
You are in the 2ww already and don't want to risk it (if people are aware you are trying)
Antibiotics
Something on early the next day
Volunteer to drive
Try to fake it - buy your own diet coke n pretend theres vodka in it or whatever.
Saying you have a bet with yr DH/work colleagues/friends (whoever you aren't out with) on who can abstain from alcohol the longest and make up that the winner gets £100 or whatever

I'm going out on a works do tomorrow and volunteered to drive. My brother was very surprised and said won't you be drinking, and I said I'd be in the 2ww and didn't want to risk it - at which point I think he went lalalala and put his fingers in his ears and left it at that :rotfl::rotfl: