Less than 12 weeks pregnant club! 2

mrsj28

rumfeeble wrote: »

Girls, I am having a little freak-out!

Again today I am feeling great, no MS, no tiredness, even DH's coffee smell didnt bother me. I will be 9 weeks this weekend. I am now completely paranoid about a missed misscarriage, que me googling and freaking myself out even more. I had my booking in appointment yesterday and told the MW I was concerned I wasnt feeling as rough as I expected and she just said I must be lucky.

Someone slap me, it doesnt help that I am on my own in the office today and its quiet so I have too much time on my hands to think.

I would slap you... but I was exactly the same as you so it would be a bit hypocritical. It is SO hard not to worry in the early weeks, but try to remember that the majority of pregnancies do work out ok, the odds are in your favour. Try to stay away from Google, it definitely doesn't help the worrying!

I think it's very hard to find the balance between being happy and excited but at the same time being cautious. To be honest, my view was (having had a miscarriage before) that I'd be devastated if something went wrong whether I'd been positive and happy or negative and worried, so if you can be positive and happy...

That's a bit of a waffle, but just to say I understand how you feel, as do most people on this board!

Derby2

Hi rumfeeble!

I usually post on the TTC 12m+ thread and haven't quite brought myself to moving over here yet!

I'm 10 weeks tomorrow and have no symptoms apart from bloating (which I could cynically say is too much eating over Christmas) and I'm as worried as you are about a MMC. The only difference is I've never had any symptoms at all! If I hadn't had an early scan and see a blob, I would very easily believe I'm not pregnant at all.

I know it's hard not to worry, but I agree with mrsj28; I figure I'm going to be devastated if I've miscarried, but in the hope all goes well (fingers crossed), I don't want to regret not enjoying this time. So most of the time I choose to put it all to the back of my mind (apart from the middle of the night when I can't sleep and decide I'm going to book a private scan the very next day! I've not gone through with it yet).

To indulge my paranoia, I allow myself 1 internet search a day and the rest of the time I try to think happy thoughs (I find belly rubbing to try to bond with the baby helps (that's a guilty confession and feel silly even saying that!)) and think of how fantastic it's going to be when the midwives put that baby in my arms.

rumfeeble

Thank you bodge ...... my DH thinks I am being a bit bonkers over panicking about everything..... you seem like a super supportive OH. I did go back through this thread and see plenty of people worrying over no symptoms, or dissapearing symptoms.

Mrs J - thank you (and its lovely to see you pop back on here to soothe my worries) I will stop googling, it does not help! You are right the odds are in my favour so I need to chill abit

Derby - big fat squishy hugs and welcome to the board, I saw you had got your bfp ( I spent a little time on the 12m + board) and then you like dissappeared completely. I did wonder if you were ok. Massive congratulations and now that you have posted in here, you cant leave LOL Thank you for your advice - I too do the belly rub thing and talk to the little bean when no one is around. I look forward to hear how your getting along

Metranil_Vavin

Rum - I'm another one having the odd quiet freak out for exactly the same reasons.

I had a bit of off and on nausea a couple of weeks back, obviously had a second early scan last Friday and saw my baby's heartbeat so was reassured for..oooh maybe 24 hours!

Now all my symptoms appear to have gone, I haven't felt sick in weeks and not a sore boob in sight!

In fact the only thing I am feeling is desperately tired and craving salty food, but to be honest I'm normally tired in the evenings and prefer salty food to sweet anyway!

I'm scared of a mmc too, and just can't bring myself to believe that I am lucky enough to actually be preggers again.

I was chatting to a pregnant lady earlier at a toddler group I take my DS to, and even though I am pregnant myself, I felt soooo envious that not only does she already have a sweet little bump, she is 16 weeks and had her 12 week scan and all is well.

Auuuigh!

If it's any consolation to you rum (or anyone else feeling the same), I had virtually no symptoms through my pregnancy with my son, and only really felt uncomfortable with it right towards the end when I looked like I had swallowed a large basketball!!

I worried all the way through as I had, had a mc previous, and all it did was stress me, so if you can try and stay optimistic, then it's probably for the best. Worrying and stressing isn't going to stop anyone having an mc.

Girlzmum

Sparkles87 wrote: »

Board hopping from the 12-24 thread but could you give into some maternity jeans already? I've been wearing mine since 8 weeks as I live in jeans and they are practical for work so gave in as soon as the bloat hit and so glad I did because at 15 weeks now I need them so I've got an extra couple of months wear from them!

It's a very tempting thought but I don't even have any! It's been 7 years since I was last pregnant and I gave mine away, I don't want to tempt fate by buying before my scan on Tuesday. I'm absolutely fine in the mornings and most of the afternoon, I just bloat up in the evenings for some reason.

To everyone who is worrying about lack of symptoms, I think it's completely normal - you hear all about how sick you're going to be so when it doesn't hit then you're convinced something is wrong. I've been very lucky, only a bit of nausea, no sickness - just the bloat and my boobs are definitely fuller (they are big enough without that!) Please step away from Google, you can go on Google for an itchy finger and end up with terminal cancer - you're not settling your mind at all.

nutshell82

Rum,

I'm another vote for having a quiet freak out. I've also got next to no symptoms; no sickness, cravings, bloating (my tight trousers are down to scoffing my face too much) or anything else. The only thing telling me I'm pregnant is the little + sign on the tests and slightly tender boobs, but this is only if I lie on my front at night and for about 2 minutes after taking my bra off. I am just over 8 weeks now.

The first appointment I could get to see my Dr was on Wednesday at 5pm. She said it was wonderful that I was having such an easy time and it's nothing at all to worry about. The midwife only comes to the surgery on a Thursday afternoon, so it will be next week before my booking appointment. I've no idea when I'm getting my scan.

My DH is also freaking me out as it's the first time for either of us. To stop him asking questions that I don't know the answer to I've bought him a book for Dad's. Last night he was much more helpful saying things like "Did you know that only 50-75% of women get morning sickness" If it keeps him busy...

I know there is no way I can get remotely excited in any way until I have my scan and see something there. I would just be too devestated if it was a MMC.

Here's keeping my fingers crossed for everyone's scans however close or far away they are.

gizmodo_2

Rumfeeble - I feel the same. Aside from being exhausted, but that could be down to the fact that DD is keeping me up at night :mad: and bloat - which could be just down to the fact that I'm constipated. I have no more nausea I checked my diary from my last pregnancy and all my symptoms ceased overnight at 9 weeks. So trying to take comfort in that.

Also some MMC are missed because nothing changes and women still have the symptoms...(or so I've been reading). So I guess the horrible thing is none of us will know until we see that scan

Such a stressful time. I wish you all a quick few weeks to whizz by

Anyway, I'm 9 weeks today! :j It's nice changing over to a new week

MV - did you get your results for the chicken pox test? Or did I make that up?

Metranil_Vavin

Congrats on 9 weeks Giz I'll be 8 weeks on Sunday.

No you didn't make it up, I was meant to be getting blood tests done to see if I had the pox antibodies. I intended to go the day I had my scan last week as it is the same hospital, but having sat in EPU for 2.5 hours, I then went to the blood dept and the queue there was HORRENDOUS. I just couldn't be bothered, I would have been there all day and OH had to go to work.

Naughty of me I know, but I'm pretty sure I have had the pox and DS is over t now so hopefully all is well.

KarrieBee

Another one with crazy symptoms paranoia here. 10 weeks tomorrow and woke up not feeling sick, boobs not so huge and painful and panicking like you wouldn't believe.
According to Dr Google the easing of symptoms about now is normal as we approach 2nd trimester but this has not stopped me weeping over DP twice already.
His theory is that if I am that hormonal and weepy all is well with the bumpling!
I just want to get to 12 weeks have my scan and see him there, I just have no idea how I will cope if anything has gone wrong. This is my first and I'm not as young as I could be so it all feels a bit last chance saloon

mishkanorman

just running in to post, 9 weeks is classic for symptoms to disappear, happened in all my 4 pregnancies they all returned at 10 ish weeks !