MSE Pregnancy Club 21

sparkle76

dustystar02 wrote: »

I'm also hoping this baby brings me closer to my mum. she is fab and will make a great nanna and I love her dearly but i do take her for granted and I'm mean to her sometimes (moan when she wants a lift anywhere, rarely go round to visit, always moan when she tries to offer me advice).

I am a spoilt only child and can be a complete b1tch to her sometimes. I'm very much me, me, me (as you may tell) - this may also be a reason why I'm worried about bonding with bubs, i'm just thinking at the moment about ghow much disruption will be brought to my door.

I'm hoping this baby makes me realise how bl00dy brilliant my mum is and I stop taking her for granted (well until I need a babysitter obvs )

Same here to some extent Dusty - though I wasn't an only child I guess it's hard to always see what their life was like when they were bringing you up and what they had to give up. As you get further along in pregnancy your feelings will probably soften as mums are a fountain of knowledge - even if we did not realise it before

mrsspendalot wrote: »

When I had my first baby it definitely brought me and my mum closer. I had been a nightmare teen in her eyes (not sure why, I really wasn't awful) and we had never had those 'girly' mum to daughter chats or anything. I just didn't feel we had a close relationship. Being pregnant living at home (I was only 19 when I fell pregnant) definitely made a difference. I was young and nervous, and had no idea what to expect. She was great. Now we speak every day - couldn't do without her!

My mum says the same - that I was a nightmare but erst of my family don't agree, I was forced to get a job at 15 which would have been fine just for pocket money, but it wasn't just for that, I was told to pay my last 3 years of high school. This is harsh but harsher still as she chose not to work and made me feel guilty about us having 'no money for school'! Needless to say my bro never got this... After the 3 years of part time work and finishing school at 18 I also paid my own way to move to the UK and go to uni never asking for anything. She now complains I am independent

We never had the close girly chats either, and I am sure she bemoans this to her friends too as if it's my fault, so we're prob blaming eachother Like you I think that a baby will change things, I already notice it already in the way we speak to eachother *but* I am not looking forward to when she is here 24/7 before baby arrives as we really get on eachothers nerves normally - maybe it will be different this time when I am a beached whale :rotfl:

madbird_2

Are they boys names - Henry Dyson Vax?! lol!!

Sammy_Girl

Crikey, you ladies have been chatty today. Not got any work to do lol ?!!

Am I the only one who prob isn't going to bother with a birthing plan? Maybe I'm just too laid back - but I haven't really got any strong likes or dislikes. If I can use a pool and G&A then fab. If I need to have an epidural and be pinned to the bed then so be it. I've not had any issues with the MWs or hospital, so have no reason to question their medical opinions. I think I will just go with the flow - peace man Mind you, how spaced out did that lady look on OBEM on the pethadine???

My office is like a sun trap today. I am so happy that I'm not going to be pregnant in the summer - don't think I could cope!

Charlie1978

Sammy i'm not doing a birth plan but I'm having a C Section so how hard can it be? Cut mummy open, get baby and placenta out. Stitch mummy back up! Put baby on mummy whilst stitching for skin to skin cuddles. If mummy can't do it... daddy does it. Simples right?!

I do have one stipulation and that's that I don't want to be knocked out. Personal preference but i've an appointment with the GA at the beginning of April so will deal with then. Otherwise it 'should' be pretty straight forward! Something tells me it won't be though!

Sammy_Girl

Oooh, actually I've changed my mind - I think I will have your birth please Charlie Sounds nice and straightforward!



Please, if anyone sees me on here tonight - please can you remind me that I have to dig out 3 payslips for my Maternity Allowance application. I need to send it off this week and I ned to photocopy my stuff tomorrow! Please don't let me forget - I have serious baby brain!!! Ta

Krystaltips

SusanC wrote: »

Can they do a ventouse on a breech baby? My hospital prefers the ventouse to forceps but I would have thought the ventouse wouldn't work quite the same on a baby's bottom as it does on the head.

Seeing as forceps and ventouse are methods emplyed when the mother can't push the baby out, and the head is the thickest part of the baby... I imagine a breech baby in distress would be a straight to CS seeing as if the mother can't push the bottom out, then she's going to be in trouble with the head...

LabLover

O Sammy I will be pregnant in the summer and my office has 3 glass sides , its like a sauna in the summer :eek: Im not looking forward to that. Is anyone else getting back and bottom pain? Not like I have sore bottom , but the muscles in my bum cheeks are sore (sorry for TMI) I would see through it if I had a big bump to cart around but I dont

galvanizersbaby

Charlie1978 wrote: »

Sammy i'm not doing a birth plan but I'm having a C Section so how hard can it be? Cut mummy open, get baby and placenta out. Stitch mummy back up! Put baby on mummy whilst stitching for skin to skin cuddles. If mummy can't do it... daddy does it. Simples right?!

I do have one stipulation and that's that I don't want to be knocked out. Personal preference but i've an appointment with the GA at the beginning of April so will deal with then. Otherwise it 'should' be pretty straight forward! Something tells me it won't be though!

The only troublesome thing I had with my first c section was that the spinal didn't take effect properly so they ended up having to do it twice - other than that it was much as you describe - also they couldn't do skin to skin contact while they are closing up (takes longer than opening) so babies went to daddy. This was 8 and 7 years ago so they may have found a way you can have cuddles while you are being stitched.

One thing I've wondered recently is if they still dry shave the section area beforehand with an electric razor?!
They did this with DS and DD and though very immature of us it did make myself and my ex HB giggle a bit - very childish but rather amusing at the same time!

Charlie1978

My spinal didn't work either hun and it took 3 attempts! This is why i've got to have an appointment with the GA as I have back problems that they want to avoid making worse. Either way i'm still against a GA and therefore seems pointless to me. Meh... will go along and at least hear what they have to say. Can't see me agreeing to it but I do on occasion listen and change my mind!

Hmmm didn't know that about skin to skin as I saw a pic of someone being sewn up and bubs was on her belly. Maybe that was just for the poster but I figured it would be possible. Guess I need to speak with hubby and see if he is up for skin to skin!

annibee

SusanC wrote: »

I think she was just thrown by having a non compliant patient.

Guarantee you wont have been first person to decline stuff hun, unless shes only just become a midwife!!!! Most people are a lot more particular 2nd time around and midwifes usually respect that.

I was particular first time around and declined a lot of stuff and had my home birth against their advice and everything was fine lol

regarding birth plans: my birth plan this time is pretty much same except I am thinking this baby might be early so Im gonna hold off buying the liner for birth pool till last minute - dont wanna spend £50 if I end up going too early to have home birth.

Im going to write a list tonight for a hospital bag etc as a just in case. Wouldnt wanna be having to worry about that during a contraction baby brain is bad enough now :rotfl: