MSE Pregnancy Club 21

digitalphase

alwayspuzzled wrote: »

All I can say is if my oldest had been this bad to carry then he would be an only child!

I've had a very 'unenjoyable' pregnancy so seriously wonder if I would be able to do all this again. I know there are chances I could have it easy next time, or I could get SPD even earlier and worse than now. Can't imagine it being worse TBH.

I am an only child and always wanted two kids, but seriously doubt I'll do it again... Have to see how I feel after this one. I feel bad moaning as the poor little guy has no idea the pain he's causing his mummy :rotfl: I am so impatient to meet him now.

mrsspendalot

digitalphase wrote: »

...or I could get SPD even earlier and worse than now. Can't imagine it being worse TBH.

It probably would be

I didn't let SPD last time put me off doing it again this time, but there is no way I could put myself through it again. This was always going to be the last one anyway, but I couldn't cope again. This for me is definitely worse than last time already, and I haven't even got to the point yet where it started last time! That said, I don't regret being pregnant again as it will all be worth it in 12 weeks time when I have my baby.

I would say it depends how badly you want another baby. If you desperately want another one after, then it will be worth going through it again. You just go into it better prepared and knowing what limitations you'll have, so you can plan around it.

supermaiden

Just posting to say that my little guy has livened up and been kicking. The ice cream might have helped wake him up lol and he is kicking me at this moment the little tinker :T It is reassuring to feel though

digitalphase

mrsspendalot wrote: »

It probably would be

I didn't let SPD last time put me off doing it again this time, but there is no way I could put myself through it again. This was always going to be the last one anyway, but I couldn't cope again. This for me is definitely worse than last time already, and I haven't even got to the point yet where it started last time! That said, I don't regret being pregnant again as it will all be worth it in 12 weeks time when I have my baby.

I would say it depends how badly you want another baby. If you desperately want another one after, then it will be worth going through it again. You just go into it better prepared and knowing what limitations you'll have, so you can plan around it.

Are you on your 4th? Did you get SPD with all of them?

Yeah I'll have to see how I feel. If I get a major desire to have another maybe I'd consider it, but would have to talk it over with OH seriously first as he has had to do so much extra to compensate for what I haven't been able to do. It's been worse with moving house though. That's worse enough anyway, without being pregnant and then chucking SPD into the mix. Never felt so frustrated and useless in my life. I just think it's so unfair to get it this bad on my first

Certainly if I did have a funny turn and decide to do it again, it would need to be when bubs is of an age where he is at nursery or school most of the day as not fair on him if I can't do anything. Just going to enjoy my little boy when he turns up, I'm sure he will be worth every moment of pain

alwayspuzzled

digitalphase wrote: »

I've had a very 'unenjoyable' pregnancy so seriously wonder if I would be able to do all this again. I know there are chances I could have it easy next time, or I could get SPD even earlier and worse than now. Can't imagine it being worse TBH.

I am an only child and always wanted two kids, but seriously doubt I'll do it again... Have to see how I feel after this one. I feel bad moaning as the poor little guy has no idea the pain he's causing his mummy :rotfl: I am so impatient to meet him now.

In a couple of months it won't seem so bad, its amazing how quickly the bad memories fade. Apparently our brains are physically incapable of remembering pain. I have had relatively big babies with very small bumps and small amounts of ammio fluid so their movements and kicks are really distinct and actually hurt yet I remember telling people that I miss the feeling after birth - definately won't be saying that this time little horror never stops moving, I swear it even twitches its sleep:) AND I've been sick to the point of losing weight with each pregnancy and even now for the 4th time its taken me by surprize how bad the sickness feels :eek::rotfl:.

mrsspendalot

digitalphase wrote: »

Are you on your 4th? Did you get SPD with all of them?

Yeah I'll have to see how I feel. If I get a major desire to have another maybe I'd consider it, but would have to talk it over with OH seriously first as he has had to do so much extra to compensate for what I haven't been able to do. It's been worse with moving house though. That's worse enough anyway, without being pregnant and then chucking SPD into the mix. Never felt so frustrated and useless in my life. I just think it's so unfair to get it this bad on my first

Certainly if I did have a funny turn and decide to do it again, it would need to be when bubs is of an age where he is at nursery or school most of the day as not fair on him if I can't do anything. Just going to enjoy my little boy when he turns up, I'm sure he will be worth every moment of pain

Yes it's my 4th. I had 'perfect' pregnancies with #1 and #2 and then #3 was hard. I had 20 weeks of constant sickness, and then the last 10 weeks I was incapacitated with SPD. I wouldn't have had anymore after #3, but I divorced and remarried, and we wanted one together. I explained to DH about the SPD, what it would mean physically for me, what I wouldn't be able to do etc. and we decided it was worth the struggle to have our baby.

I feel so useless and also very guilty for knowing I would be like this, and doing it anyway, given the impact on the other children. But they will love their little brother when he's here. My youngest was crying the bedroom this morning because I said I couldn't take them to the beach. Very guilty.

He will be worth every bit of pain, and yes, if you decide to do it again then having the older on in nursery or school certainly makes it easier. I had a 2.5 year old last time, and I was having to struggle changing nappies whilst suffering. This time has been easier as they are all old enough to do most things for themselves.

digitalphase

Thanks both of you

AlwaysPuzzled - I have a very compact bump and his squirms and wriggles etc do actually hurt sometimes, so maybe I have the same as you. Quite a big baby with not so much fluid. Both of us are tall, with tall genes, so reckon the baby will be big.

MrsS - aw that must have felt bad when your boy was crying, but I understand why you wanted to have a baby with your new DH. I guess you do forget the pain as well.

I won't dwell on it too much, will enjoy this little one when he comes and hopefully my pain will go shortly after I've had him. I don't know how I will feel in the future. The labour itself may be enough to put me off anymore anyway :rotfl:

mrsspendalot

digitalphase wrote: »

Thanks both of you

MrsS - aw that must have felt bad when your boy was crying, but I understand why you wanted to have a baby with your new DH. I guess you do forget the pain as well.

I won't dwell on it too much, will enjoy this little one when he comes and hopefully my pain will go shortly after I've had him. I don't know how I will feel in the future. The labour itself may be enough to put me off anymore anyway :rotfl:

It did make me feel sooo bad, and all he kept saying was why couldn't I use my crutches to go. It's really hard trying to explain to him (he's only 5) how hard it is to walk with or without the crutches, and it's really hard to sit down in one place for too long as well. He cheered up in the end, as I said if I was able to manage it later we would drive to the field and he could have a kick about with the football instead. We managed that for about 15mins and then I needed to go home. It's going to be a long Easter holiday!:o He keeps asking what day the baby is coming, so I think he is desperate for me to just get it over and done with and get back to normal. The older 2 are being really understanding (11 and 7).

Labour .... hmmmmm .... well it will help you forget about your SPD for a while at least :rotfl: I actually find labour, as painful as it is, really really nice. It's just so exciting. I had a long, hard and tricky first labour, but I never left the delivery room thinking 'I'm never ever doing that again'. It just didn't put me off. I think it's because you know that every pain is a pain closer to seeing your baby, and it just makes it all worthwhile.

I'm really hoping my SPD goes as quickly as it did last time. That would be good!

digitalphase

mrsspendalot wrote: »

It did make me feel sooo bad, and all he kept saying was why couldn't I use my crutches to go. It's really hard trying to explain to him (he's only 5) how hard it is to walk with or without the crutches, and it's really hard to sit down in one place for too long as well. He cheered up in the end, as I said if I was able to manage it later we would drive to the field and he could have a kick about with the football instead. We managed that for about 15mins and then I needed to go home. It's going to be a long Easter holiday!:o He keeps asking what day the baby is coming, so I think he is desperate for me to just get it over and done with and get back to normal. The older 2 are being really understanding (11 and 7).

Labour .... hmmmmm .... well it will help you forget about your SPD for a while at least :rotfl: I actually find labour, as painful as it is, really really nice. It's just so exciting. I had a long, hard and tricky first labour, but I never left the delivery room thinking 'I'm never ever doing that again'. It just didn't put me off. I think it's because you know that every pain is a pain closer to seeing your baby, and it just makes it all worthwhile.

I'm really hoping my SPD goes as quickly as it did last time. That would be good!

Bless him

Yeah that's the way I am trying to look at labour - as a 'good' pain, every step towards having my baby. Though when I start getting proper contractions I'll probably have a bit of a panic :eek:

I just hope the pain does go quickly, keep reading horror stories from people where it didn't I know I am not hypermobile, that seems to have a link with even worse pain and lasting pain as well.

nic2075

Morning all

I had a terrible sleep, I had a headache all night and it kept me awake. It was one of those that start at your neck and go over the top to you eyes. I had no paracetemol in the house.
It's still lurking so need to go soon to get some painkillers.

I'm glad it's to be cooler today. I enjoyed the few days of sunshine but I've felt hot and uncomfortable.

Feel bad moaning about silly wee pains when so many of you are suffering with SPD, I feel ver lucky not to get that or any sickness.

Digi- my friend had it bad with her 3rd baby, she was on crutches for most of her pregnancy. Her pelvic pain went at about a week after birth. She had a 16 month old and a 3yr old to run after too.