MSE Pregnancy Club 21

SusanC_2

Teenie_D wrote: »

Also came in today and because I am showing the person who is replacing me, my job, I had very little work to do. I am just not one for sitting around twiddling my thumbs at work, I really need to be kept going the whole time, so that hasn't helped. Just silly things I suppose Feel exhausted now which hasn't helped by me being sick a couple of times so far. Poor me boo hoo hoo LOL Sorry ladies what a moan I'm being!

Are there things you could do which are useful but rarely get done because there's not usually enough time? When I did maternity cover as a school science technician, I took over fully a week before the other person left so she spent time doing things lots of non routine things like checking for broken equipment, making sure we had full supplies of all the solutions and that all the bottles were topped up, thoroughly cleaning dissection boards etc.

Teenie_D

annibee wrote: »

Lol you are pregnant too hun so if you do shout it is because of the emotional carp running round your body....plus kids get over it quite easily imho shes prob forgotten all about it 2 seconds after lol however parents can feel guilty about these encounters for weeks after ......as they get over i think kids use that to their advantage :rotfl:

Sorry youve had a carp day ((hugs))

Thanks hun, I feel so much better now I have let it all out LOL really should have done it this morning!!! I was fine as well and it really did hit me like a sledgehammer!

SusanC wrote: »

Are there things you could do which are useful but rarely get done because there's not usually enough time? When I did maternity cover as a school science technician, I took over fully a week before the other person left so she spent time doing things lots of non routine things like checking for broken equipment, making sure we had full supplies of all the solutions and that all the bottles were topped up, thoroughly cleaning dissection boards etc.

Yeah see what you mean, we don't have much to do here as I was mega organised and have tidies up computer files and put things in place for the coming year. Will speak to the other girls ands see if there is some really boring stuff I can do for them, I don't mind if a job is tedious, just as long as I'm doing something!

SmlSave

Hi everyone

Had my 20 week scan yesterday and bubs is fine. I may not have eaten for 2 days but at least I know that its not hurting the baby.

dustystar02

Ladies, I'm stressing about my mum. I am an only child and she is way too excited about her first grandchild. I'm really excited for her (more than I am for myself) but I'm quite bothered about how I'm going to keep her at bay once bubs is here.

She will be at the birth, I asked her to be there when I first got PG as OH was so scared of it all (although after these classes he is being much better) - I doubt I still need her there now but I would never tell her she can't be there, I know it would break her heart. so I sent her an email this morning syaing I was writing a birth plan and had put that I wanted her to leave us alone for an hour after baby is here so that we can bond as a family and she can go off ringing the rest of the family to share the news.

she replied saying 'you won't bond immediately, you will only bond a few hours later when you have come down off cloud 9. I was only going to hang around to take pics, I was also taking a week off work to help you with cleaning etc at home, it feels like you want my help to buy the pram and decorate the nursery but once the baby is here it's so long Nanna, it's just us now'

I know I may not bond immediately - I just used the term 'bond' but I meant I wanted time as a family, bonding or not.

I replied saying 'Well, yes, it is like that i'm afraid. I expect you to be there for me as and when I need you, you are my mum, but other than that I expect to be left alone. If i need you at the house every day then I'll ask you to be. And I don't think asking for an hour as a new family is too much to ask. Plus I don't want loads of pics taking straight after the birth. I am grateful for everything you have done but that shouldn't mean I should be obliged to involve you in every step. And I won't be made to feel guilty for asking you to leave us alone or to back off'

Am I a horrible person? - I needed to set her straight as I want as much help as I need once bubs is here and not to be smothered.

things are always much worse written down aren't they?

She hasn't replied.

Chopsie&Chelvis

galvanizersbaby wrote: »

I hate the questions I get from work colleagues who I hardly know on a personal basis - things like 'was it planned?' and questions about the birth and suchlike.
Everybody has an opinion too whether they have kids or not.

I tend to be a bit cagey too - but the less you volunteer you more questions you get asked :mad:

I've had this too - really quite intimate questions from male colleagues I only know to say 'Hello' to! There's one man who, if he asks 1 more question, I'm going to complain about as he's making my skin crawl.

I was meant to have had my 20 week scan today, but I rescheduled for next Friday so my husband could come. Really wish I hadn't now, I really want to see the baby again and know they're ok. I wish it would start kicking, then I can relax a bit - well, relax in one way, probably won't be relaxing to get a foot in the ribs, lol!

digitalphase

Glad baby is OK SS, did you get a pic? My 20 week one was carp as bubs was facing towards us, and I think he moved as she pressed 'print'

mrsspendalot wrote: »

My GP told me not to drive She said if it was hurting to place my foot on the clutch to change gear, then my reactions wouldn't be good or quick enough to stop in an emergency, and to think about how I would feel if it was one of my children running out in front of someone's car if the driver wasn't quick enough to react. I'm gutted about it really, as I couldn't drive last time as I hadn't done my lessons. I thought this time the one positive would be that I would be able to drive, so less need to walk!

I'm still waiting for my physio appointment to come through.

I also hate being stuck in all day - it's so boring!

I'm not so bad that my reactions are impaired I don't drive much, but if I have a MW appointment, and for my physio, I will need to drive or else I won't get there. OH does all the driving when he is off, but he works all day so can't help me if he's at work.

It is more the getting in and out of the car that hurts, but I'd have that whether I'm driving or not. I only do local journeys, wouldn't be up to driving very far now unfortunately Absolutely hate loosing my independence, but I suppose I will anyway once bubs is here.

Hope your appointment comes through soon. I just rang the number GP gave me and arranged an appointment there and then. It's a joke that it's a 3 week wait. There is a physio nearer to me, but they are booked up until mid-March :eek:

Chopsie&Chelvis

dustystar02 wrote: »

Ladies, I'm stressing about my mum. I am an only child and she is way too excited about her first grandchild. I'm really excited for her (more than I am for myself) but I'm quite bothered about how I'm going to keep her at bay once bubs is here.

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<<Hugs>> It's so hard saying these things, but they need to be said. I think you have been really fair ... I mean, she's going to be at the birth, that's really involving her, she doesn't need to be permanently at your side for weeks on end. I hope she comes around soon.

babyboysmommy

I think you have handled it well. You need to start as you mean to go on & your request is in no way unreasonable. She needs to remember this is your baby, you are the mum. I wont even let my mum at the birth, it's just me & DH. No one can come to the hospital unless I phone & ask them to. No one can see the baby before DS.

SusanC_2

dustystar02 wrote: »

Am I a horrible person? - I needed to set her straight as I want as much help as I need once bubs is here and not to be smothered.

No you are not a horrible person. To be honest I think you are being very generous in only specifying she has to leave for an hour and she should consider herself very privileged to have been invited to share in such a special occasion at all.

Evansangel

I think you have handled it very well.

My mum is very interfering at times and years ago i said she could be my birth partner if i ever had a baby and she took it to heart and was very annoyed that when i eventually met someone and did have a baby, she couldn't be my birth partner.

I would of said "If your going to be like that your not going to be at the birth at all"