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But not from his point of view. He was asked, expectantly, if he was going to bother this year. It is entirely probable, seeing as there was no effective communication between them, that he felt was in the right. The only way to have resolved this issue, would to have talked about it; not assume and guess.
Read post one again. It was him who asked. And it was more of a statement than a question.I have realised I will never play the Dane!
Where are my medals? Everyone else on here has medals!!
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Read post one again. It was him who asked. And it was more of a statement than a question.
Aah, yes, you are of course correct. However, the reply should have been, "yes, I will be getting you a card and maybe a bottle of aftershave."The greater danger, for most of us, lies not in setting our aim too high and falling short; but in setting our aim too low and achieving our mark0 -
Flyboy I agree!
But why wouldn't they be bothering with V day this year? They are only 2 years in when everything is supposed to be fresh and lovely.
Clearly OP expects more from a relationship and is the sort of lady who enjoys a little effort on a day like V day. A card isn't really a lot to ask for is it?
TBH I expect a card but I hate cut flowers, I prefer a plant. But then the relationship I am in now, every day is pretty much like Valentines day. My OH makes a huge effort for me all the time and I for him. Thats how it should be...I have realised I will never play the Dane!
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we said we wouldnt bother with a card but we both did lol. Some people believe in it some dont. Each to their own.:footie:0
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Flyboy I agree!
But why wouldn't they be bothering with V day this year? They are only 2 years in when everything is supposed to be fresh and lovely.
Clearly OP expects more from a relationship and is the sort of lady who enjoys a little effort on a day like V day. A card isn't really a lot to ask for is it?
TBH I expect a card but I hate cut flowers, I prefer a plant. But then the relationship I am in now, every day is pretty much like Valentines day. My OH makes a huge effort for me all the time and I for him. Thats how it should be...
No, its not a lot to ask for. She didn't ask for it thoughI'm not bad at golf, I just get better value for money when I take more shots!0 -
Perhaps your men are, but not all are - can we avoid these constant retreats into sexism to explain away everyone's relationship problems? Men are as different as women and pretending that you can predict what any man will do under any circumstances based on their gender is simplistic, unhelpful and offensive.
If this board was full of posts saying that women weren't capable of understanding complex concepts or couldn't possibly be expected to look at a situation logically instead of emotionally, people would be up in arms yet for some reason nobody seems to mind that men are portrayed on here as simple-minded buffoons who can't understand subtlety or nuance in a relationship.
Sorry I realise I wrote that wrong. I meant that men are very simplistic when they want to be and when it's something they aren't particualry interested in. My OH can be the most romantic person when he wants to be, but if I asked him if he wanted to swap cards for valentines day he would just not listen as he just isn't interested in it.Remember never judge someone that makes a mistake, because in six months time it may be you that makes the next mistake.0 -
suited-aces wrote: »No, its not a lot to ask for. She didn't ask for it though
Very true. OP what are you views today?I have realised I will never play the Dane!
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do you know me and my hubby have been together 16 years and in the early days would go mad on all this valentines fluff, but we did say this year we wouldn't bother at all as it was a waste of money and we could spend our money on better things, but yesterday, he presented me with a card, he had made it himself on his computer, using a picture of the 2 of us from one of our holidays a few years ago on the front and a sweet verse inside. I was so touched, it cost him nothing but his time (as it took him ages to figure out how to do it lol) but has meant more to me than any present he could have bought.Aug GC £63.23/£200, Total Savings £00
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post deletedMFW 2011 challenge - Aim: Overpay £414.26 a month/£5,000 a year. Overpayment Total to date: £414.26:jMortgage start 28/9/07 £46,217.00 :TMortgage balance as of 25/05/11 £24,490.58 :T
Interest saved as of 25/05/11: £2,849.84 Projected term reduction as of 25/05/11: 9 years 11 months0
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