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BARGAINHUNTER!
BARGAINHUNTER! Posts: 848 Forumite
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  • Mojisola
    Mojisola Posts: 35,571 Forumite
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    We've never done anything special for Valentine's Day so I suppose it depends what you want.

    After telling him that it's okay to do nothing, you can't really expect him to surprise you with something! If you really feel that you would like to do something special, you need to have a chat with him, along the lines - "You took me by surprise the other night, I've been thinking about it and I would like us to do something special".
  • Auntie-Dolly
    Auntie-Dolly Posts: 1,008 Forumite
    Why did you say 'that's fine'? You must understand men are generally very simple creatures & take what you say at face value. You should have told him that you expect (at the very least) a big padded card & a bunch of flowers (not from the garage)!
  • SugarSpun
    SugarSpun Posts: 8,559 Forumite
    Next time you see him tell him you've been thinking about it and you think he's right, that Valentines Day itself is overrated and overpriced, so you two can have your own special celebration on the 16th/17th/something after all the cards and gifts are reduced. No sense wasting money :money: ;)
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  • BARGAINHUNTER!
    BARGAINHUNTER! Posts: 848 Forumite
    edited 23 March 2011 at 9:00PM
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    MFW 2011 challenge - Aim: Overpay £414.26 a month/£5,000 a year. Overpayment Total to date: £414.26:jMortgage start 28/9/07 £46,217.00 :TMortgage balance as of 25/05/11 £24,490.58 :T
    Interest saved as of 25/05/11: £2,849.84 Projected term reduction as of 25/05/11: 9 years 11 months
  • jackieb
    jackieb Posts: 27,605 Forumite
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    We've never done anything for Valentine's Day and it doesn't bother me. If it did i'd say something. Just talk to him and see why he doesn't want to bother with it.

    Personally I don't want to be told that I have to be romantic on a specific date. It just seems forced.
  • I used to feel like you Bargain, felt very left out when 14th February came and went with out a card / flowers / meal / pressie.

    But to be honest, I've come to the conclusion that the its all hype..........I know OH loves me not because he sends me flowers etc on 14th February but because he puts up with me snoring every night and all my habits that drive him crazy.

    As I said before, if OH sent me flowers I'd wonder what he was feeling guilty about!
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  • BARGAINHUNTER!
    BARGAINHUNTER! Posts: 848 Forumite
    edited 23 March 2011 at 9:00PM
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    MFW 2011 challenge - Aim: Overpay £414.26 a month/£5,000 a year. Overpayment Total to date: £414.26:jMortgage start 28/9/07 £46,217.00 :TMortgage balance as of 25/05/11 £24,490.58 :T
    Interest saved as of 25/05/11: £2,849.84 Projected term reduction as of 25/05/11: 9 years 11 months
  • BARGAINHUNTER!
    BARGAINHUNTER! Posts: 848 Forumite
    edited 23 March 2011 at 9:01PM
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    MFW 2011 challenge - Aim: Overpay £414.26 a month/£5,000 a year. Overpayment Total to date: £414.26:jMortgage start 28/9/07 £46,217.00 :TMortgage balance as of 25/05/11 £24,490.58 :T
    Interest saved as of 25/05/11: £2,849.84 Projected term reduction as of 25/05/11: 9 years 11 months
  • Britwife
    Britwife Posts: 427 Forumite
    Do you really need one day out of the year to show how much you care about each other? What happens to the card after V day? Tossed in the recycling bin (I hope).

    It's just another day invented to make people spend money. My husband tells me how much he loves me every day and I don't need V day for that. And why not make him a special meal anyway if that's how you feel about him. It doesn't matter what your friends and family think about what you did or didn't do so don't let that bother you.
  • darich
    darich Posts: 2,145 Forumite
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    edited 29 January 2011 at 3:19PM
    Everyone has their own opinion on this.......
    my partner and I do nothing for Valentine's Day.....but that doesn't mean we don't think any less of each other.
    Our rationale is why wait until one particular day a year to express your love for your other half? We do/say many other things on a regular basis so "complying" with Hallmark's calendar when prices are hiked just seems daft to us.

    EDIT : this is more likely to be in the minority but we also feel that making a show of what you give/receive is for the benefit of others....as if you're trying to prove you love each other. It's irrelevant what others think.....if it works in your relationship then it's good.

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