Toddler Toilet Training help! (merged)

Nile

I think I've drunk too much Smirnoff vodka. When I read the title 'Potter Training'.........I had visions of Johnny Vegas sat at his potters wheel.:D :rotfl:

Jay-Jay_4

moggins wrote:

We've just got our letter for the continence clinic, madam will be attending on the 19th May

Mine is seing a consultant at the end of April so I'm right behind you on this. As I said, my daughter is nearly 6 and still wets her knickers daily and wears a nappy at night.

Don't worry about it too much because September is still a long way off and a lot can change in five months. Just carry on as you're doing until you see them at the continence clinic and then you'll know one way or the other whether school is going to be a problem.

Once you know what's happening and how long 'treatment' will take, have a word with the school and find out how you and they are going to cope with the problem when September comes (if it isn't already sorted by then).

I know how frustrating it is but you getting upset and worrying about it doesn't help, it just makes it more difficult for you. These things just take time and every child is so different, please don't let it get you down.

x x x

TAZ

just a bit of advice from a mum of 5 boys who were clean quite early on......

for those of you with the other children that may just being "lazy" try to get them thinking about what their friends are doing, ie using the loo etc we had a similar problem with ournow 8 year old he could use the loo all the time no problem but just couldn't be bothered to go to the loo during the night(we know this cos he would tell me he was doing it :eek: but i sat and had a chat with him about how until he did use the loo at all times he would not be able to stay at his friends etc, this did change his attitude and we have had no problems since.

as for the OP in this particular post then i hope its going well and your new addition has settled in, you may find that once he becomes the "older" brother he will want to show his standing in the family by been grown up and this may be a angle to use, if all esle fails that chu chu train could always need some coals(poo) to make it work(flush)

zain

The original poster here...

Well we had a baby girl 3 weeks ago and as you can imagine everything is on hold!

Our toddler does not wear a nappy during the day and goes on his own( yes, pulls his trousers down etc and even finds the toilet bowl better than some adults!) and happily does wees.....but...get ready... when it comes to a poo he insists we put a nappy on him.

On the rare occasion that we refused he reached the evening time looking very uncomfortable and probably in pain. We obviuosly gave in and minutes later a big poo in his nappy.

We don't have the energy to battle with him and have decided to wait until the summer. He will be 3 at the end of May.

Just to let you know

FranDan

I think rarely people have a smooth transition from nappy to toilet... perhaps some people forget all to soon!!

My first boy had a fear of using the big loo for poo too. I remember it being explained to me that kids are very scared of what will happen once they 'go'. When he did it in his nappy I'd always pop it down the loo and show him, thats where it belongs. He got there in the end. Once he started playgroup he refused to use their toilets, coming out bursting for the loo and promptly wetting himself as soon as we were out the door! This continued thru School Nursery; the teachers refused to help me and insisted they didn't have the time to pay him special attention and ask if he needed to go! Wasn't until he started reception that suddendly things righted themselves.

My second boy showed early signs of being dry so I followed his lead. He was dry within a week, but a month or so later he was peeing everywhere again; specifically if he didn't get his own way! I backed off and went back to nappies. I left it several months before trying again and introduced a 'lucky dip'. Everytime he used the loo he'd get to put his hand into the lucky dip bag and pull out a treat. I used to fill it with sweets, and cheap bits and pieces all wrapped up - adds to the excitment. The older one then wanted to share the fun too! I think when they're very young they need an instant reward as they have no concept of time and waiting for rewards. Within two weeks he was dry during the day again.

However.... he is still wet at night. I've tried addressing this a couple of times but get no further than a three of four dry nights, so I know he can do it. Eventually gave up when heavily preg as the stress was too much. Now my baby girl is 8mths old and it's time to address the bedwetting situation once again. He's 4 now and I have since changed from disposables to washable nappies. On seeing his new 'nite-nite nappy' he said 'No way am I wearing that!!'.... even I had to laugh! :rolleyes: Time to get that lucky-dip bag going again me thinks!

So, the long and the short of it being, don't rush these things, it's not a race. Make it easier for yourself, if they're dirtying underwear then stop using it... I remember how my heart sank each time I had another dirty pair of pants.

Anyone with anymore advice on bedwetters greatfully received!!;)

jo_b_2

Finally took the plunge a few weeks ago and started my boy in pants throughout the day.

He's got the wet stuff sorted, no problems. Unfortunately, he still poos his pants every time. He's been using his potty for over six months in the evening and will go in his potty no problem, if his bottom half is unclothed!

Help! My laundry is going through the roof! :eek:

jo_b_2

My little boy's finally getting the hang of this toilet training business! Not quite there yet, but he's doing brilliantly - the little star! :T

zain

zain wrote:

Judging by previous posts, I am sure somebody will be able to help us here.

Our 2year 9 months year old boy will happily do a wee in the toilet ( unfortunately, standing up only. We never used a potty(big mistake, i know)) but will not do his number two and as a result we have to keep a nappy on him in the morning. He has a very good routine.

He is absolutely adamant he will not sit on the toilet. We have tried everything. He has seen us, his bunny and his 4 year old cousin on the toilet. But he refuses point blank. He gets really worked up about it and the whole situation becomes unmanageable!

I know we should have used a potty from day one and taught him to sit. But my recollection was that he refused to sit so we let me stand up and wee like an adult.

Somebody must be able to suggest something here!

Many thanks

This was my original thread and i can announce that yesterday ( when he was 3 years and 1 day old) he did his first poo in the potty!!!!!! ( & a big one is was too!)
Wow, another major milestone met.
Thanks for everyones advice. But the thing that worked was leaving it and waiting until he could make the decision. If he feels in control of it, it will happen. For several months he would happily go to the toilet and wee but always insist on a nappy for poo.
Next battle is night time dryness! But no rush there.

Bendybops19

Congratulations on your new baby girl! And also congratualtions on the first poo in the potty!!

moggins

We met with the continence nurse on Thursday and she only had one suggestion that we hadn't tried, which was to put her in knickers all day, put her pull ups in the toilet and allow her to go there and put one on when she needed a poo. Madam thinks this is a totally ridiculous idea and told us so.

Anyway we trotted off to Asda and allowed her to choose a few packs of knickers (on top of the ones she already has), Thursday she held it in all day, Friday she had been punished for being naughty and when she was sat on the naughty step, decided to go in her knickers. First pair to hit the bin and it's only been two days.

Not what I'd call a huge success so far