Toddler Toilet Training help! (merged)

KAMRAY

Moose wrote:

Hi, Saw this and had to reply. When we went through this with my son, we found a brilliant potty (which we got rid of in the end because he wouldn't get off it!!!). When he did a wee or no.2, it used to have a clap and cheer noise come from it!(microchip in the bottom). Not sure if you can still get them but if you can it may be the thing for you!

When I was trying to pooty train my 3 year old I used the fisher price royal potty. It played a trumpeting tune when he done his thing on the potty which amused him greatly. Also this potty is shaped more like a chair than a potty, and looks more comfortable than regular ones.

I also found using a reward chart very helpful and I would get my son to put one star on the chart for a wee and 2 for a poo. He was very keen to see the reward chart filling up.

I found potty training one of the most stressful tasks to complete, so do not be fooled by all the stories of 1yr olds mastering this skill.

I myself also have a two year old who is due to turn 3 in june and I am expecting another baby in April. With any luck I will have my two year old off nappies by then as I don't think I will be able to find the time to train him with a newborn on the scene.

Heres hoping....................

Paul_Varjak

Potter training? Is that Harry?

moggins

Done the reward chart (a present for every 10 stickers earned). That has worked for the wee's but not anything else

Today yet another accident, as she is a fairly intelligent 3 year old I decided to sit down and talk to her, I explained that she is a very big girl now who will be going to big school soon and she can't go to school doing poo's in her knickers. Told her it is very very important that she learns to do this and asked her if she wanted to be a big girl and wear knickers like her best friend at playgroup.

I don't know if it's sunk in yet but tomorrow's another day. I'm going to ask her playgroup tomorrow if they will mind me sending her in in knickers and see if taking her out of nappies completely like the HV suggested will work.

frizz_head

Paul_Varjak wrote:

Potter training? Is that Harry?

No thats Quidditch.

frizz_head

KAMRAY wrote:

I found potty training one of the most stressful tasks to complete, so do not be fooled by all the stories of 1yr olds mastering this skill.

I myself also have a two year old who is due to turn 3 in june and I am expecting another baby in April. With any luck I will have my two year old off nappies by then as I don't think I will be able to find the time to train him with a newborn on the scene.

Heres hoping....................

Good luck with that Kamray, I went through exactly the same with my eldest - potty training whilst being heavily pregnant.

Fingers crossed for you.

Frizz

Savvy_Sue

moggins wrote:

I don't know if it's sunk in yet but tomorrow's another day. I'm going to ask her playgroup tomorrow if they will mind me sending her in in knickers and see if taking her out of nappies completely like the HV suggested will work.

I know not everyone will agree with what I did, but my eldest was trained, but just after he started nursery he started pooing in his pants, but only there. Still perfectly trained at home. This is a LONG time ago now, and the nursery said he could not carry on going if he was going to keep soiling his pants. And this is long before the days of pullups!

Now I was SURE he was doing this on purpose. So the second time he did it, I told him it wasn't good enough, I KNEW he could use the toilet, and we weren't going home until he had said sorry to the ladies at nursery. We just stood there. I don't think the nursery lady was particularly comfortable with this, but I said no, we weren't going until he'd said "Sorry I pooed in my pants." Which eventually he did. And he never pooed in his pants at nursery again.

Please don't ask me HOW I was so sure he was doing this on purpose: I just was. I was sure he wasn't unhappy at nursery, and he said he wanted to carry on going. And it worked.

I know this isn't a particularly fashionable point of view, but I think sometimes, with some children, you have to communicate that what they're doing isn't acceptable, in a way they can understand. I also think many of them are capable of understanding a lot more than we give them credit for.

I don't know if this will help anyone else. Please don't shout me down if you disagree, or ask me how you communicate with your child, because I can only tell you how my gut instincts worked that time with that child. But if you have your own gut instincts, try them out!

Savvy_Sue

zain wrote:

Our 2year 9 months year old boy will happily do a wee in the toilet ( unfortunately, standing up only. We never used a potty(big mistake, i know)) but will not do his number two and as a result we have to keep a nappy on him in the morning. He has a very good routine.

He is absolutely adamant he will not sit on the toilet. We have tried everything. He has seen us, his bunny and his 4 year old cousin on the toilet. But he refuses point blank. He gets really worked up about it and the whole situation becomes unmanageable!

Well, having just clicked on the link in the Talented kids post by Simpson elsewhere in this board, I just wondered what would happen if you 'forgot' to buy any more nappies? Or else agreed with him that no more were to be bought? It is only a suggestion, mind you, and worth a look at the link anyway!

marje

When my daughter and her peers turned 2, all the competitive mums stayed at home for a week and endured "accidents" all over the house until their toddlers were potty trained. My friend and I decided just to leave our daughters until they were ready to train themselves which is what happened. When they were nearly 3 both girls just started going to the toilet by choice, and we didn't have any accidents.

My second daughter did not want to use a potty at all! We eventually borrowed a potty which was like a proper little armchair in shape and that soon overcame her dislike of potties. I think she felt insecure sitting on the traditionally shaped potty as she did fall off a couple of times, and toilets were just too high for her. She was over 3 when she finally cracked it. I think people expect too much of the younger ones.

likabu_2

It is difficult isn't it?!

Started potty training my son last week (well the Friday before half term week). He will be 3 at the end of March. Took 2 days to sink in - he is great in the house with the exception of maybe one accident every 2 days. He is in playschool 4 mornings a week and no accidents there.

What I can't understand is why when we go to my Mums house the accidents start. My brothers and sisters are aged 5 (twins) and 10, he has great fun playing with them, so my Mum says maybe he is preoccupied but surely he would have accidents in playschool too then?

Savvy Sue - I think if it happens again in my Mums house I might ask him to apologise for wetting her floor and see where that takes us.

Lisa

jo_b_2

zain wrote:

Many thanks for all your support!

We were beginning to think it was only us! All we ever hear about are the ones who were potty trained at 18months ( and slept through the night at 4weeks).

And oh yes , i forgot to mention, our second one is due in a couple of weeks. .....

I know exactly what you mean. All the other children from my ante-natal cohort seem to have been potty trained in seconds! My little one's nearly two and a half now.

He will do both products in his potty but only if he is running around with nothing on his bottom. If he's wearing any pants etc he won't say that he needs the potty but will if his bum's naked!

I know that people advise waiting until summer to potty train but he will be nearly three then. Don't want to leave it too late but my washing machine is taking a bit of a hammering at the minute!

Oh...and good luck with baby number two!!!