Toddler Toilet Training help! (merged)

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I have no experience in this, but whilst reading through someone mentioned that he sits on the toilet with his pants on just to gain confidence. Why not go back one more step and encourage him to sit on your lap whilst your sitting on the toilet lid! No hole, nothing to be afraid of, just a nice cuddle on Mummy's lap. Then gradually get him to sit there by himself, then do it with seat lid up and work up to him sitting on the loo.

zain

Spot on... There was some success today.
We spent most of the day in and basically started with him on my lap (whilst i sat on the toilet-fully clothed!)and allowed him to pick his favorite book. I guess this was a way of getting him familiar with the toilet adn not be frightened of the room.
And later on today, we started referring to the toilet as the Chu-Chu train. He liked this. So we have paid several vists to the toilet and in some cases he said he wants to sit on the chu chu train!

Tomorrow or the next day ...., the big step of trying to get him to sit on the toilet -fully clothed.Perhaps he can be the train driver!

Gosh, there really are so many stages to this and it takes a lot of effort and perseverance.

Thanks for all your ideas. It really got us thinking that potty training is rarely easy.

System

This brings back memories for me. My daughters were a joy to potty train. Once they were told what to do they never had another accident in their pants. However, the boys were a different matter. My eldest was good at doing his wees sitting down on the potty but come to do a number 2. He just stood there. I gave up for a few months as everything had become a battle and when i started again, he took to it a lot better. My other sons, were a little harder to train than the girls, but i didnt even attempt it till they were much older which i think helped. If i were you i would give it some breathing space and try again in a month or so.

frizz_head

Glad you have had some success Zain. I think the key word here is patience. With my eldest, I started to train her when I was 6 months pregnant, and patience was in very short supply.

Good luck.

Savvy_Sue

Have to say I think a lot of this is to do with comfort and feeling safe. Had no problems with my older two, but for the youngest someone had given me one of those step-ladder type toilet seats, which he used very happily ... at home. However, getting a poo out when were weren't at home was a complete and utter nightmare! Shopping trips - in and out of every flipping loo in town, hanging on to him for dear life in smelly toilets, but "No, can't do it."

But I refused to take it on holiday with us, and eventually nature took its course. I made sure the special seat had disappeared when we came back from holiday, and returned it to the donor a few months later when she was expecting another. It was spotted and recognised, but there was no turning back then!

It's all quite reasonable, really, because none of us would find it easy to 'perform' with our rear ends disappearing down a large hole and our feet dangling off the floor.

So all the best, but you will get there eventually, and seem to be making progress already.

Spendless

frizz_head wrote:

Glad you have had some success Zain. I think the key word here is patience. With my eldest, I started to train her when I was 6 months pregnant, and patience was in very short supply.

Good luck.

I was totally having a dim moment there - i was wondering how you were potty training her in the womb!!!

Anyone got a copy of march mother and baby? On pg 17 they are talking about potty training from birth!!! based on what are ancestors did and that babies go nappy free in other parts of world.

Then further on in the mag they talk about competitive mums! LOL


Anyway back to subject - how you getting on Zain - any more progress? Good Luck

zain

Yes a little bit more progress.....
We have now got him sitting on the toilet. He refuses to do anything on it. But at least he sits on it. The only way he will sit on it is if we promise to tell him a made up story about his favorite red mini cooper....
Not sure what the next stage is?
I guess for him to tell us when he feels like doing a number two. He does usually tell us but asks us to leave the room or wants to go to his bedroom...

What lengths we go to!
I can see why some parents decide its not worth the hassle...

moggins

There's some good ideas here, my youngest will be 4 in June and she is still in pull ups due to her refusal to poo on the toilet.

She can get to the toilet, remove her clothes, get on to it for a wee but that is as far as it goes, the only thing the health visitor could suggest was get an ample supply of cheap knickers and just hope that it feels so unpleasant that eventually she gives up and goes on the toilet

Moose_2

Hi, Saw this and had to reply. When we went through this with my son, we found a brilliant potty (which we got rid of in the end because he wouldn't get off it!!!). When he did a wee or no.2, it used to have a clap and cheer noise come from it!(microchip in the bottom). Not sure if you can still get them but if you can it may be the thing for you!

frizz_head

Spendless wrote:

I was totally having a dim moment there - i was wondering how you were potty training her in the womb!!!

Anyone got a copy of march mother and baby? On pg 17 they are talking about potty training from birth!!! based on what are ancestors did and that babies go nappy free in other parts of world.

Then further on in the mag they talk about competitive mums! LOL


Anyway back to subject - how you getting on Zain - any more progress? Good Luck

Talking of competitive mums, I have a friend who insisted that her son was potty trained at 18 months. Basically her definition of potty trained was the fact that he was nappyless. He would wee everywhere, everyday - many times a day. I never once saw him use a potty/toilet. She would leave my house with a carrier bag full of wet clothes, and I would be mopping up wet patches with my 1001 for ages afterwards. I once asked her if maybe he wasn't quite ready, but she insisted that she couldn't possibly backtrack after all the progress they had made. Which was??????