Toddler Toilet Training help! (merged)

scrimpingbadger

It's down to staffing levels basically. It takes 2 members of staff to change a nappy (child protection) and the nursery may have only one teacher and one nursery nurse. That means the rest of the children would be unsupervised during that time- not allowed. Our nursery has a shower for 'bigger' accidents but as there is not enough staff it cannot really be used.
If children are not ready then you cannot force them. My DS is off to nursery next week and still pull ups but I'm not worried - if he's still in them at 18 I'll worry then. When I've taught in the nursery anyone would did anything 'meaningful' in their nappy was encouraged to play outside! The sessions are 2 and half hours yes, but sometimes a poo can sit in a nappy all night......
Sorry for the graphic image so early.

bloomin_freezing

my dd (2 1/2) would tell us from an early age that she had done a wee and then take off her nappy, or that she needed a poo prior to doing it. WE bought a potty and always had it around, made her dollies sit on it and from the day she was born i took her to the loo when i needed to go and said mummy was having a wee wee on the toilet because 'i am a big girl'. Recently we went out to get her some Dora knickers which she is very happy with.
Sometimes she asks to sit on the loo, sometimes i ask her if she wants to and she always says 'yes!' she'll sit on the loo, once she did literally 3 drops of wee which i made a huge, over exaggerated fuss over. Once she wasn'ty positioned properly so she wee'd all over the place, but i still congratulated her as some went into the loo, but now she'll sit on the loo and i can see her squeezing her tummy trying to wee, but nothing comes out. the little monkey waits til she gets in the bath then stands there and wees. I don't know how we will get past this but i know we will. I don't really want to carry her out the bath onto the loo whilst she's weeing cos it'll go everywhere. Any suggestions??

Minerva69

Just an update as I was the original poster who asked about nurseries/nappies etc.

My DD started nursery this week, it was her 3rd birthday two weeks ago and we still haven't managed to get her potty trained yet but it isn't a problem. I spoke to the head teacher yesterday and she told me, as others here have said, a nursery cannot refuse to admit a child on the grounds of them being in nappies. They have to admit children in nappies because children with special educational needs may need them. If a nursery won't take a child because they are in nappies then they're breaking the terms of the DDA and further action can be taken.

They just asked me to take some nappies, wipes etc in so they can change her if necessary. They also said they will help when we try potty training again (going to have another serious go at half term). My DD absolutely loves nursery, she's only going an hour at the moment but it's the highlight of her day I have trouble getting her to come home afterwards!!

skysky69

I am struggling to know what to do for the best. My DD is 1 month off being 3 years old and is still not potty trained. I tried it briefly last summer, letting her wet her knickers etc, but she just didn't get it and didn't even seem to have any comprehension that she was actually weeing, so we thought we would leave it a little longer. We planned a date in September, and 4 days before the planned date, she had a really bad sickness bug and didn't recover for about 2 weeks. Then we had a week's holiday planned in October so thought we would leave it till we got back. The excitement of Christmas is over and so I decided that I would have another go. I work every other weekend so needed to pick a week where I'm not working and hey presto, tomorrow I thought I would try again.

I picked DD up from her nursery today and mentioned in passing to the lady that I was thinking of giving it a go. She has kind of put a bit of doubt in my mind that I should leave it a bit longer. She said DD has no interest in going to the toilet or the potty with the other children and still doesn't seem to know when she is weeing or when she has wee'd or even if her nappy needs changing because it is full She suggested leaving it until Easter.

I just feel really pressured that she should be trained by now and people absolutely love to tell me that "children should be done about 18 months" and "I can't believe she is still in nappies, in my day, we used to sit them on the potty from 6 months". They make me feel like a bad mother for not doing it sooner. It doesn't help that being my first child, it is all a learning experience really. I feel like saying to people that at the end of the day, I don't have the time to sit her on the potty all day long because I have to go out to work!

Should I give it a go for a few days to see if she gets the gist of it, or leave it a little longer

sunday_girl

I think leaving it till Easter, especially if you have some time off may be a good idea (Easter is fairly early this year anyway). My DS was 3 in November and I decided after a couple of start-stops like yourself to go for it over Christmas. He had a few days of wetting and then suddenly it just clicked, he bypassed the potty and went straight to the toilet. When they are ready you will be amazed at how quickly it falls into place. Good luck.

thanksalot

Most children come to it when they are ready.

Don't worry about what other people's marvellous children do or what the people think... remember a few years ago when they were all boasting about how young theirs satrted walking... well guess what by the age of 3 you can't tell the early starters from the late ones.
Same for potty training.

TAG

hi skysky69,

Try not to worry about what everyone else says. All children are different.
Does she show any interest in potty training at all? If not then prehaps leave it another few weeks.

Have you tried letting her run around at home with no knickers on, with a potty close to hand? You have to keep a close eye on them and there are plenty of accidents. But it's just a question of persevering. She'll get it eventually. You never know, she might get the hang of it straight away/or all of a sudden and then you'll wonder what you were worried about.

ChasingButterflies

Hi there,

Our youngest is 3 years and 2 months. On Monday of this week I took her (almost dry) night time nappy off and told her to tell me if she needed to go to the bathroom. She is going to the toilet all day and only has a nappy when I am doing the pm school run (almost 2 hour round trip) and when she goes to bed.

I have heard loads of people say that there lo was toilet trained at a really young age (including my own mother :rolleyes:) However if you feel your little one isn't ready then leave it for now there is no point trying if she isn't ready (imho)

I do recall that at some point last year she was showing signs of "holding it in" and wodering about starting to train her then but my FIL was quite seriously ill and tbh it was probably too soon. We missed the opportunity then as when things had calmed down with regards to FIL she was not interested in the toilet. Now feels like the right time for both of us - and bless her she is doing really well

Good luck for when you feel the time is right!

jopsey

please dont feel pressured , I would wait till DD is ready , you will know when it is right , I potty trained my little boy in 2 weeks for both day and night. yet I have friends who pushed for it too happen earlier and they are still struggling some days 6 months on

midwife_twinkie

Hi there Sky firstly dont listen to how other people had their babies potty trained at a certain time as this will only knock your confidence and make you feel like you are a crap mother! when you are not, I could tell you about potty training as an experienced mother of 6 but i will be here all day why not try and look at the website www.babycentre.co.uk and type in potty training there is loads of brilliant advice there for you, there is one peice of advice i can give you take nappy off have potty on stand by and see if babe will sit on it and when she does and you can actually catch her having a wee make a big song and dance about it clap, cheer and dance around like someone not right give her loads of praise and see how that works and GOOD LUCk!!! she will do it in her own time and remember you are a good mother and dont let anyone make you feel indifferent.