Toddler Toilet Training help! (merged)

bestpud

I would give it a go over the next couple of weeks but keep very relaxed about it all. If you can get her even to start thinking about it, then going to nursery may help no end! It did my youngest anyway as peer pressure took over!

My dd2 also really enjoyed going to town and choosing some 'big girl pants' so that may be worth a try?

Another thought: my two daughters didn't like potties - they went straight to using a kiddie toilet seat. We tried in vain to get dd1 out of nappies prior to this discovery and never looked back afterwards!

Good luck with it!

Anthillmob

my sister was having problems getting her 3 year old to poo in the potty.

someone told her to buy some bubbles and blowthem at him when he was sitting on the potty then get him to have a go and that he would poo.

sounds like absolute nonsense but it worked!

Nicki

Anthillmob wrote: »

my sister was having problems getting her 3 year old to poo in the potty.

someone told her to buy some bubbles and blowthem at him when he was sitting on the potty then get him to have a go and that he would poo.

sounds like absolute nonsense but it worked!

Yep. That is good advice, as is getting them to blow up a balloon, then let it go to make "bottom noises" round the bathroom as they poo! Also lots of fun!! Its all to do with relaxing the muscles which they will be tensing if they are holding it in.

With my son, who has no special needs and trained at around 3, he went through a phase of asking for a nappy to poo in, until one day we just told him, we'd thrown all the nappies away. He never looked back, and we have never at any time in his life had a poo accident with him. Not so DD, unfortunately. I guess its a question of temperament, and you need to guage the right approach for your own child.

Anthillmob

Nicki wrote: »

Yep. That is good advice, as is getting them to blow up a balloon, then let it go to make "bottom noises" round the bathroom as they poo! Also lots of fun!! Its all to do with relaxing the muscles which they will be tensing if they are holding it in.

With my son, who has no special needs and trained at around 3, he went through a phase of asking for a nappy to poo in, until one day we just told him, we'd thrown all the nappies away. He never looked back, and we have never at any time in his life had a poo accident with him. Not so DD, unfortunately. I guess its a question of temperament, and you need to guage the right approach for your own child.

you wont believe how much my sister laughed when told about this method and then when she told me i laughed. it didt seem believeable but she has seen the results (thankfully i havent seen them lol)

geekgirl

Some littlies don't like to sit on the potty. My son was one of them, he went straight onto the loo with a childrens loo seat. He was clean within 2 days.

I also agree with the leave them to run around naked, it's the way I did it with my 3. You just have to put off any unnecessary trips for a week. It is good for them to get lots of no nappy time anyway.

Good luck with potty training, stay relaxed it makes life easier for both of you.

emmaroids

Nicki wrote: »

So because someone refused your child, and you didn't know any better, this means that the two posters, of which I am one, who know the law on this subject must be wrong

People do discriminate for all kinds of reasons in the world, and are often not pulled up for this, but it doesn't change the law. You presumably would have raised cain had you tried to enrol your child in a state nursery and been told you couldn't do so because they were black/catholic/had homosexual parents and recognised that this was unlawful. This situation is no different.

Here is a good link which explains the legal situation in detail and is categoric that a school cannot refuse a child on the basis they are still in nappies.

http://www.asd-forum.org.uk/forum/index.php?showtopic=9358&hl=nappies+school

As for not having enough staff - the staff child ratio for children of this age group by law has to be very high, and so it is frankly just an excuse to say that no member of staff can be spared to change the nappy. It might present problems if all 30 children in the nursery class are in nappies, but the worst year in our school's nursery was when there were 5, and the staff coped very well with this. Usually there are none or only 1 or 2.

when we went to the parents day (twice) so we could look round the school and ask the teachers questions, the head teacher said they cannot take children who are still in nappy's, unless they have a medical condition.

now this is not some dodgy school that make there own rules up, its been named as one of the best schools in the area and has won awards.

so like i said, i am only quoting what i have been told.

Nicki

emmaroids wrote: »

now this is not some dodgy school that make there own rules up,

Oh yes it is I'm afraid! Teachers and Headteachers aren't lawyers so just maybe they are not aware of the law, rather than deliberately trying to pull a fast one. However, if you pushed the point and spoke to your LEA, they would be put straight. This is worth doing if you are still interested in the school and your child isn't yet toilet trained.

emmaroids

are we talking about infant school or pre school nursery?

at pre school nursery they allow children in nappy's but at infant school they don't.

luckily my kids was out of nappy's but i know of someone who couldn't go until they was out.

Minerva69

Thanks for all the brilliant advice (like the sound of the bubbles & the balloons! ) and thanks for the link Nicki, it makes very interesting reading!

Well, we bought another potty yesterday, we have one upstairs and one downstairs now. We had to get a potty chair from Mothercare as the "normal" potties were too small for our DD! She chose her own pants and she's had them on but she seems to prefer running around with nothing on. We've had lots of accidents, she has wee'd everywhere except on the potty but she will sit on it when she doesn't want a wee! We're going to stay at home for a few days and see what happens.

Have had some info from the nursery school in the post today, she will only be going for an hour a day at first and we are allowed to go with her, so it shouldn't really be a problem in the beginning if she's still in nappies. I will check with them though to see what their policy is.

Thanks again for all the help, this forum is brilliant :beer:

Nicki

emmaroids wrote: »

are we talking about infant school or pre school nursery?

Both.

If you read the link to the info I provided you will see that it covers the situation up to the end of KS1 whether or not the child has a special need. Obviously by that stage it would be very very unusual for a child still to be in nappies unless there was a diagnosed special need, and in those circumstances, DDA would apply, and they'd still have to take or keep the child even if still incontinent.