Toddler Toilet Training help! (merged)

emmaroids

well, you learn something new every day.
thanks for setting me straight :money:

i guess i assumed the head teacher was correct, i just hope someone challenges her in the future with regards to this issue.

geekgirl

I forgot to say as well that if you do nappies and potty it can get confusing for them. I would say if you have to put a nappy on them try using pull ups so that you can still whip 'em down if needed.

Stargirl_3

When it was time for my daughter to start being potty trained, we gave her the choice each day as to whether she wanted to wear a pull up or knickers. Some days she was lazy, other days she was happy using the loo.

This went on for about a month, but because we let her do it in her own time, I think we only had a couple of accidents. And of course with pull ups she can always change her mind if she wants to use the loo (she never really took to the potty and wanted to use a proper toilet instead).

Some of my friends took a week off to get their children potty trained, but guess it is just down to personal preference as to when and how you do this. But they all get round to it at some point so unless your nursery wants the child to be dry, my advice would be to let your daughter decide when.

Hope it all goes well.

scrimpingbadger

My boy (3) is starting nursery in January and is still in nappies and as far as I know (and I teach in the school where the nursery is) they will take him in pull ups but will not change him during the session (presumably they would encourage to play outside if he did something solid!). Fair 'nuff I s'pose.

Obviously I'd love him out of nappies (we tried goddness did we try) but we're taking it in our stride and I'm confident that when he sees the othere children using the loo he may want to too.

Put it this way - I'll panic when he's 18 and still needing a nappy!

scrimpingbadger

Oh the mistakes in the last post are due to typos not because I can't spell!!

missyg_3

Hi Minerva. This is what worked with my son who was 2 1/2. We were away for three weeks and I simply told him at every nappy change during those three weeks, that the day we got back home, he wouldn't be wearing nappies any more and that he would be going to the toilet. I didn't do it in a pressurising way, but more like something for him to look forward to.

Obviously I didn't know at the time how successful it would be, but on the day we got back he went immediately to the toilet (skipped the whole potty stage), and not a single accident from day one.

Not suggesting you take a 3 week holiday at this short notice Good luck with whatever you do try, if anything.

Nicki

scrimpingbadger wrote: »

My boy (3) is starting nursery in January and is still in nappies and as far as I know (and I teach in the school where the nursery is) they will take him in pull ups but will not change him during the session (presumably they would encourage to play outside if he did something solid!). Fair 'nuff I s'pose.

They really are supposed to change him too! Definitely if it's solid, but also if he's excessively wet. As you work in the school, you might not be too bothered as presumably you could change him yourself if it was needed, but other parents might need to know this.

scrimpingbadger

I'm not sure I could swing leaving my class to change my son's bum!! If I'm being paid then I have to have my 'teacher head' on... I can't even swing getting them to hang on to him whilst I see my class out at the end of the day (boss is very particular..)

Minerva69

Stargirl wrote: »

When it was time for my daughter to start being potty trained, we gave her the choice each day as to whether she wanted to wear a pull up or knickers. Some days she was lazy, other days she was happy using the loo.

This went on for about a month, but because we let her do it in her own time, I think we only had a couple of accidents. And of course with pull ups she can always change her mind if she wants to use the loo (she never really took to the potty and wanted to use a proper toilet instead).

Some of my friends took a week off to get their children potty trained, but guess it is just down to personal preference as to when and how you do this. But they all get round to it at some point so unless your nursery wants the child to be dry, my advice would be to let your daughter decide when.

Thanks for that, I think this is the approach we're going to take now. We tried letting her run around with nothing on all day yesterday and we just ended up with damp patches everywhere so we couldn't sit on the settee last night! :laugh: Last night when she was getting ready for her bath she came running up to me shouting "Mummy Mummy" and waving her arms about wildly. I took her in the bathroom and sat her on the potty and she did a wee, she was very pleased with herself I could tell she wanted a poo later on but she held it in until she had her night-time nappy on :rolleyes:

I bought some pull-ups yesterday (Pampers ones are BOGOF at Sainsbury's, very moneysaving!) and she's wearing them this morning. She hasn't done anything in her potty yet but she has been pulling them up and down herself and sitting on the potty occasionally.

Anyway, back to the nusery school. Spoke to them yesterday and they don't mind if she is still in nappies. They actually said they advise children to be in nappies at first if they are potty training or only recently potty-trained, as being at nursery is stressful enough for the child at first so there are bound to be accidents. She will only be going for an hour a day at first and we are allowed to go with her too (they even have a parents room!), building up to 2 and a half hours a day eventually

Nicki

Minerva69 wrote: »

Anyway, back to the nusery school. Spoke to them yesterday and they don't mind if she is still in nappies. They actually said they advise children to be in nappies at first if they are potty training or only recently potty-trained, as being at nursery is stressful enough for the child at first so there are bound to be accidents. She will only be going for an hour a day at first and we are allowed to go with her too (they even have a parents room!), building up to 2 and a half hours a day eventually

Fantastic! I'm sure it is a weight of your mind to know you aren't going to have to fight this battle with them, and it sounds like a lovely nursery. Hope she, and you, will be really happy there.