Toddler Toilet Training help! (merged)

Anthillmob

weve started training chops who is 22 months. theyre doing it also at her nursery.

what she does however is tell you 'poo stink' (wether its a wee or a poo) after shes done it. which is good.

however, how do you or can you explain to a 22 month old that its better to tell us before she does it?

sometimes she will take her trousers down and say 'appy' (nappy) which you then take off and she goes and gets the potty but looks at it then says all done and puts it back again.

she weed once in the potty and we made a big fuss and im wondering if the fuss we made confused her. she looked at us like we were both mad and has never done it again since.

shelley24

Hiya,

Im in the same boat by the sounds, my son is 24 months and he will tell me he wants to go on the potty so we'll take his nappy off and he'll just look at it and go back to playing, even with encouragement he will sit on it and then get up and go yayyy even if hes done nothing.

I left his nappy off recently and he was playing on the floor, next thing he starts crying because hes wee'd on the floor and he'd scared himself, that say to me that he isnt getting the sensation or he isnt linking it to doing a wee quite yet, lol

He has wee'd on the potty twice now and we make a big fuss but i still dont think he is ready. My friend advised taking your child to the loo with you and getting them to go on the potty at the same time as you, after doing this for 2 weeks, take their nappy off the next day and if they have learnt to go and sit on it when they need a wee its a result, if not give up for a while and try the same thing again.

peachespeaches

Mics_chick wrote: »

My dd usually wears pull-ups at night but last night I said she could be a big girl and just wear pants to see how we got on...she wet the bed and woke up in the middle of the night coz she was cold - poor thing so we changed her bed but she was wet again when she got up this morning.

My mum said that she got us up every couple of hours until we got the hang of it but I don't know if I could cope with this sleep deprivation coz I'm on anti-depressants for PND and need a good night's sleep to stay awake during the day :rolleyes:

Any advice would be gratefully appreciated...:D

Earlier this year we night trained our 4 year old. I have issues with sleep deprivation too but I wont go into that. This is what we did. Cut down on drinks in the evening gradually. Stopped the cup of water at the side of the bed. Put him to bed without nappy, read story, sent him for wee. Then before husband went to bed he lifted him (sometimes still sleeping) onto potty in bedroom and asked him to wee. Then put him back to bed. We continued this for a couple of weeks and we did have a few wet beds. Sometimes he wet then woke up and came and told us. We calmly changed him and didnt mention anything more. After a few weeks more he became reliably dry and we havent looked back. He is a difficult, nervous child generally and we thought we would have more trouble. Pick your time though, not when major disruptions are on the horizon eg school or new sibling.

helen81_2

Ive posted in loads of threads on this subject before..we are just about there with ds,who is 4 and a half after 2 years since he was dry during the day!
Weve tried him without pull ups on a night countless times before..doing all the usual things like restricting drinks after tea time,making sure he wees before getting into bed,getting him up for a wee when I go to bed..some nights he didn't wee in the night,other times he weed the bed 3 times a night! We decided to wait a few months then try him again..its looking good this time. We told ds we had run out of pull ups so he'd have to be a big boy and go to the toilet if he wanted a wee..it worked that night and another 3 nights after. I think the pull up was his saftey net to be honest.They will only be dry when they are ready,don't worry about it,it really isn't a big deal,no one has to know,if you don't want them to!
Helen x

TAG

DS wasn't dry at night til he was over 6. He slept so deeply (still does) he just wasn't waking. Don't worry too much if she's not quite ready.

I also used to have a spare quilt and pillow made up for mine every night when I was trying to get them dry. Easy then to just pull the wet lot off, shove it in the bathroom and sling a clean load on.

Anthillmob

cheers. im wondering if perhaps using the toilet instead with the seat i brought might be an idea. if im in the loo she comes in and always says 'bye bye wee wee' when i flush bless her.

or maybe she isnt ready for the next step yet.

fishingcinema

hi my little girl is just over 2 and she would wee on the potty but never poo in the potty prefered to do it on the floor and i was reading on the net what other parents had done to overcome this problem and in the end i choose the method of when she had a poo in her nappy to take it off put it into the potty show it to her then take it to the toilet and flush it down so that she understood that this is how it works and i was luck i only had to do this once and she has been doing it ever since and if she wees or poos we do the potty dance wich she loves and is highly amusing for any visitors that we have round at the time

bloomin_freezing

My DD (27 mths) has just done her forst wee on the toilet, woo-hoo!!! We have had a potty around for ages so she can get used to it, we make dollies wee on it etc. Since birth she has been with me when I go to the loo so she fully knows what its for, we also flush poo's down the loo and wave them goodbye! A few months ago we bought a mini loo seat to sit within ours incase she preferred that to a potty. Recently she has sat on the loo but not done anything, just made noises and then got some tissue lol! But today she told me she needed a wee as she had no nappy on, i asked if she wanted to get a nappy and she said no, so i asked if she wanted to sit on the toilet like mummy and she said yes. She wee'd the tiniest amount but a wee is still a wee! I guess this shows they will only do it when they are ready. But i feel fantastic that we have made a step in the right direction. We made a huge fuss of her so she knows she's done well.

I just had to share this with someone!!

thriftmonster

Don't worry about school - ds2 is 8 and is still only dry about 5 nights a week - major progress for us. The only person at school who knows is the other child in his class who still wets - because we met them at the enuresis clinic - and neither of them is going to tell on the other!!!!!

nikki&asha

Hi, at 22months she may not be physically able to tell if she needs to go to the toilet. Children need to reach a certain stage in their physical development before they can 'recognize the feeling' and hold it until they get to a toilet - which is why when they first train you have to leg it to the loo at a moments notice! It sounds like you have made a good solid start to the process as she knows what the potty is for and lets you know when she has 'been', so as soon as she is ready it should be relatively easy and pain free!

nikki