Toddler Toilet Training help! (merged)

skylight

Shes not ready.

Nearly - but not completely! She knows when shes wet/dirty, so you are half way there!

Does she have anyone she can copy from??? Has she seen you use the loo? older brothers/sisters? Cousins etc?????

She needs a little coaching, but don't do it blatently as she'll see that as forcing. Have you taken her out shopping just to (and really only that) so she can pick some big girl pants to wear?
Leave it for a week - don't mention potty etc at all. Then casually drop in to conversation (not that difficult with toddlers!!!) about the big girl pants. Shes DD1? DD2 - how young is she? Young enough to be a baby still? When talking about the pants tell her that DD2 is a baby and babies wear nappies.

As long as you talk about it all matter of factly, she'll get used to it. Seeing others using the toilet helps (but dont let her see Dad - OH forgot to lock the bathroom door last week and that created more questions than answers!!!!!!!!)

MrsMondragon

Mentioning the words potty training terrifies me. My 3 years and 2 month boy is a nightmare to potty train. He just wont train and the problem is he starts nursery in September and they wont take him with a nappy. Im using Huggies Pull ups right now, but he just uses them as if its a nappy. If I take the Pull ups off, he wont even pee for a few hours, which is obviously not healthy. :idea:

helen21_2

MrsMondragon wrote:

Mentioning the words potty training terrifies me. My 3 years and 2 month boy is a nightmare to potty train. He just wont train and the problem is he starts nursery in September and they wont take him with a nappy. Im using Huggies Pull ups right now, but he just uses them as if its a nappy. If I take the Pull ups off, he wont even pee for a few hours, which is obviously not healthy. :idea:

It is healthy and it shows that he is in control of his bladder.

helen21

jo_b_2

helen21 wrote:

It is healthy and it shows that he is in control of his bladder.

helen21

I was just thinking the same. My little one goes for hours without weeing and it's not a problem. Don't forget at some point you'll be wanting him to go all night without having a wee, so if he can manage a few hours during the day so much the better.

Personally, I'd ditch the pull-ups and put him in normal pants.

helen21_2

When son came out of pants the first few times we went out we used pull up's and even if we were out 4hours he never wet pull ups, so stopped using them! Next step when he ready is night time but at mo he still asks for nappy so no big deal!!

helen21

jo_b_2

helen21 wrote:

When son came out of pants the first few times we went out we used pull up's and even if we were out 4hours he never wet pull ups, so stopped using them! Next step when he ready is night time but at mo he still asks for nappy so no big deal!!

helen21

A few months ago my son (nearly three) took off his nappy when I was putting him to bed and said "I don't need this on." He hasn't worn one since!

The only time he has wet the bed has been when he has got into my bed in the middle of the night! Typical! :rolleyes:

I think all Mum's get a bit anxious about potty training but you can only go at the rate that your child is ready for.

helen21_2

jo_b wrote:

A few months ago my son (nearly three) took off his nappy when I was putting him to bed and said "I don't need this on." He hasn't worn one since!

The only time he has wet the bed has been when he has got into my bed in the middle of the night! Typical! :rolleyes:

I think all Mum's get a bit anxious about potty training but you can only go at the rate that your child is ready for.

Yeah thats exactly what my daughter did and never had one wet night with her, son not ready yet but he has now said no nappy but he wants pull-ups on for night so on them now and hopefully he then go for nothing, but it will be at his rate, as is everything Typical male

LearningToSave.

thanks for all your responses.
i dont know if i quite came across right in my first post.....im not desperate to potty train her at all,i know its more down to her....i'd only began to think about it when she started doing this.it made me wonder wether she was or not.
i dont want to force the issue.i know its not right if shes upset,its just confusing as its her that srips and gets the potty happily then changes and goes mad!!
i think i'll just carry on as normal....letting her take it off etc and casually mentioning potty etc and maybe start taking her to the loo with me so she see's me,to who ever mentioned daddy-no she definately wont be seeing hin use the loo!! she's never seen daddy or any man for that matter naked so yes it'll be major questions!!!
charlotte......DD2 is only 14 weeks so yes still a baby and definately in need of nappies!!
thanks again

mjk_2

Do you think all the drama re potty etc might be some sort of attention seeking ploy due to the arrival of her little sister? Don't know what the solution is but I'd definitely say don't push it.

My DD1 is 2.5 and my DD2 13 weeks so v. similar ages to yours. My eldest has just about (fingers crossed!) finished potty training (in the day) but she just seemed to be ready. She has a friend slightly older and she saw him go on the potty a few times and I used to say how "he was a big boy, wears proper pants, goes on the potty etc" and soon she wanted to as well. We made a big deal about a shopping trip and bought knickers (let her choose) and a potty. She got the idea really quickly but I think she was just ready. She very often (too often!) comes to the toilet with me and again from copying me she will happily sit on "Mummy's potty".

So not sure whether I was just lucky (I suspect I was), but my advice would be to give her loads of attention (I know it's hard with a baby as well!!), and let her see other people on potty/toilet as much as possible. Hopefully it'll just suddenly click with her.

Good luck!

MrsMondragon

My little boy who is 38 months is due to start nursery in September, but they have told me they wont take him unless he is out of a nappy. I dont know think he will be ready by then. He just doesnt seem at all interested in potty training. Does any one know what the legal postion regarding children in nappies and nursery is? I heard somewhere that they couldnt discriminate against a child that wore nappies..but im not sure if thats true.