Toddler Toilet Training help! (merged)

Smiley_Mum

My boys were around 3.5 before they were dry at night. My first I tried with trainer pants during the day and a nappy at night but in the end I got so frustrated because he just wet the tps like a nappy so I used cotton pants and eventually he was dry during the day. I had him in a nappy at night still although dry during the day, and after about 2 weeks of him being dry in the morning with a nappy I just scrapped them and he's been fine. My youngest one I tried with trainer pants and again just wet them like a nappy despite me asking if he needed the toilet etc so I put him in cotton pants and the message hit home for him so he became dry during the day but still nappies at night. I remember saying one time I was going to try him without a nappy at night and he went ballistic and wouldn't go to sleep incase he wet the bed. Anyway, one night I forgot to put a nappy on him after he'd gone to the toilet before bed and the next morning he was dry so after that I just carried on and he was fine. I do have the odd accident if they are really tired and sleep heavily but on the whole they are fine.

Take your little one to the toilet when you go.

Ask at frequent intervals if she needs the toilet.

If she has a favourite cartoon character etc, then if there are some pants with them on get them for her. Perhaps buy them as a surprise pressie, wrap them etc, so when she has a reasonably good day you could give them to her. She'll want to make extra effort to keep her big girls pants dry.

When I started my two with potty training I gave them a dry pair of pants and one pair I just wet under the tap so they could feel the difference between wet and dry on their skin. Trainer pants can make this difficult as they keep the skin dry like a nappy unless heavily soaked.

Good Luck. Some people have said to me that girls are easier than boys, yet I've known parents who have had real problems with girls and not with boys. Everyone's different. Don't feel upset if someone has said their son/daughter is out of nappies etc etc at such and such an age. They'll get there eventually.

Spendless

Can someone help me here.

My little girl is almost 28 months. If she doesn't have any clothes on she uses the potty without problem. Sometimes but not always when she has a nappy on she takes it off to use the potty.
When I put her in knickers she has an accident. Anyone any tips/suggestions please

atomicangel_2

Hello,

I know it can be frustrating when toilet training your 2 yr old but it takes a lot of encouragement and praise to be given to the child to make them feel like they have acheived. I bought the follwoing kandoo items to help my little girl to make it feel special for her i bousght a step up stool for £5, toiet wipes in both fragrances, and handwash with the kandoo head from boots. I was aslo sent a sticker sheet so everytime she would go to the toilet when she finished and washed and dried her hands she would et a sticker for her chart and also i would give her a mini egg or couple of smarties as a reward. You just have to persever butit takes about 6 months she is really good now and i only use a pull up nappy for the night time.

Spendless

atomicangel wrote:

it takes about 6 months

Unfortunately I got spoilt with the eldest one. He told my MIL he didn't want to wear a nappy anymore and that was it. First fortnight we had 3 wet accidents and 2 were whilst travelling and after that nothing , no soiled accidents ever. He was just short of 2 years 5 months at time. It did take him a further 15 months before he was dry on a night though. Stupidly cos I didn't know anyone else with a little one this is what I assumed they all did!

mjenn5

Please please don't worry about how quickly you can potty train your wee one.

I have gone through this with 2 girls and 3 boys and in my opinion the boys do take a little longer and there is no magic age that they should be potty trained by. My earliest one was 15mths and the longest one was 2 years and 10mths and the length of time it takes them is no reflection on you.

My experience tells me that you really need to wait until they are ready.

With my first boy I stressed about this and tried and tried then gave up for a while and just kept the potty around as part of life. About a month later he was ready to give it another go and within a week he was completely dry.

Three weeks later he was dry at night. It is easier to train them through the summer if you are ok about them running round in just a long t-shirt.

I used this with all my others and had a mostly stress free potty training with all of them.

If you get worried about it then so will he and you will get nowhere.

As for sitting or standing up they all do it different ways. My youngest is 3 and still sits down for everything he will change this when he is ready and it doesn't really matter.

Training pants and pull ups are a good way of progressing your little one away from nappies.

Enjoy your little ones.

Ticklemouse

Savvy_Sue wrote:

Now, can anyone tell me how I stop my youngest (13) farting in the car and the lounge and stinking us all out? He does it quite deliberately!

Make his life stinkily unbearable. Squirt him with some perfume when he does it - the cheaper and nastier the better I have had to resort to doing this to Mr TM, when he decides to 'perfume' our bedroom, usually just before I want to go to bed!! I now delve into my cupboard and liberally squirt with Body Shop White Musk or the like Well, if nothing else, I like my pillow to smell lovely

(Once, when we were camping, I was 'unable to breath' and reached over and squirted him liberally with what I thought was room freshener. It was Dettox disinfectant spray Didn't stop him though )

LearningToSave.

right well DD1(2.5) has decided to remove her nappy after
every little trickle or poo.
was doing my head in and after one poo incident where
it was all over her and the floor from her way of
taking nappy off i thought right well we'll go with
potty training then.
wrong mummy...oh so wrong!!!
she'll sit on the potty,do nothing then be blatantly
holding on and will cry for a clean nappy on!! i tryed
saying no wee wee in potty or toilet....at this point
she will go nuts if you try to get her anywhere near
the potty or toilet....tantrum for toilet,throws
potty. then will do a few dribbles on floor and get
really upset again asking for clean nappy....before
finally peeing all over the floor.
but sure enough if i put a clean nappy on she'll strip
naked and take it off and on and on it goes!!!
did try bribery...still nothing doing.
heeelllpppppppppp!!!!!!!! is she ready or not? what do
i do?

helen21_2

In a word, no she is not ready!
I am no expert but usually if they are not happy with the situation, they aint ready! Both my children came clean at different ages but both were happy with going without nappy. Little boy now three years and three months and although clean in day for a long time he is not happy about no nappy at bedtime but i think when he is ready i will know. There is no set age and i think at whatever age the child, both of you need to be comfortable with the situation, and you two obviously are not, leave it a little longer then try again maybe.

helen21

Eagle_1

I remember my Daughter used to do the same kinda thing. What I did with her was sit her on her potty whilst she was watching Barney on TV (she loved Barney) and i'd say to her "do a wee for Barney cos he will be really pleased"............and she did. That was how I started potty training her, it worked for us so it could for you.
I obviously made a big song and dance when she had a wee, we even showed Barney the potty so he knew she had a wee and she was now a big girl.

brummiebabe

Just a note of warning!!

Don't push the issue & make it into a big deal. If she gets upset - stop! Talk to her about using the potty and offer it as an option but never force the issue. Potty training became a huge battleground with my son at that age - but we kept trying (although he obviously didn't want to!) BIG MISTAKE!!! He's 5 now & getting him to go to the loo is still a big issue!

My youngest (now 2.5) just seemed to be ready earlier - hated having messy/dirty hands, didn't like wet/dirty nappies etc. Took it at his pace and he was dry quickly!!

2.5 is still quite young & she'll do it when ready! Talk to her, buy books for her on potty training, leave the potty around for her to get used to the idea, take her to the toilet with u, heaps and heaps of praise if she has any success, no comment if has accident!! Hard to do but it works!!