Toddler Toilet Training help! (merged)

misty

My friend's son is nearly 6 and still wets the bed most nights - they did have some tablets form the doctor (I think they have to be a certain age and weight before they are prescribed) however, they didn't work. My nephew wet the bed until he was about 7 - my sister I feel was fobbed off at every turn with "it's very common" and "he'll grow out of it eventually" - They did finally find out it was something that could be treated but by this time he had grown out of it! Sometimes they suggest lifting last thing before uoi go to bed but in a leaflet I got for my friend it says not to do that as weeing unconsciously is something you are trying to avoid - but they're not doing the washing are they?

I wouldn't worry at 3. My son was dry in the night before two and half but that was accidental - I ran out of nappies one night and so couldn't put one on - fully expecting an accident. When I went to buy some - he said he disn't want any so I left it. However, if this hadn't happened I would probably have left it until he was nearly 3 before attempting it. I think medical opinion also suggests that bedwetting can run in families so if you or your other half were later being dry at night - there is an increased chance any children maybe.


this explains it better
http://www.patient.co.uk/showdoc/23068688/

bonnie_2

my daughter is 7 and wets the bed spoke to peadetrician and he said not to worry but he would sort out an alarm system for her it goes of when bed wet and wakes them up so they know they have wet otherwise she sleeps through it.

auntywalker2

Keep him in nappies or pull up pants for bed until they are dry in the morning on several mornings, then try a night without them again. I have the same problem with my ds who is almost 5. Wet nappies are not such a problem as a wet bed!

HTH

brummiebabe

Sounds like there's loads of us in the same boat!!! 3 is still pretty young! My DS is 5 and has never had a dry night. I posted a thread re: this, a week or so ago and got some useful advice - might be worth a look! I'd say chill out about it for now anyway!!!!

Savvy_Sue

Dry nights - will it every happen? is brummiebabe's original post, and it is worth a read. But 3 is really no age at all to still be wetting the bed so I would if you can put him back in nappies / pullups for now. If he is distressed or reluctant to do that then we could think of some other ideas, but he may just not be ready yet!

As I said then, we don't talk about this at the school gate, but in every class at primary school there will be more than one child still wetting the bed, and even in secondary school accidents continue to happen for some children!

If you doubt me, ask your Health Visitor. You may feel she's fobbing you off, but honestly, with a child of 3, she's not!

Tightwadways

My son's nearly 3 and has been out of nappies completly for nearly a year. we've had the same problem - but he's got a lot better than he was. We started with 'angel stickers' and said that if he had a clean dry bed in the morning, then he'd get an angel sticker to wear as a reward. We don't shame him, or shout at him, when he comes and says he's got a wet bed. It's just, oh well, nevermind, let's take it downstairs and put it in the washing machine. He also still has a potty in his room which has helped, as he'll often get up and go if he needs to. If he knows he' wet the bet he also says 'No angel sticker today, I've got a wet bed mum', so there's an incentive for him to try - and he really like proudly displaying his stickers!!

It can be any sticker - it's just that I'd been on a little angels course ad had loads left )
Hope that helps someone.

mini

My eldest was 6 before she started being dry at night, youngest was 4, I have no idea what the difference was, we tried all sorts with eldest but nothing worked. I would recommend Boots machine washable mats, I think they were about £10 each, bought 2 then if she wet the bed I just had to change the mat, it has a thick cotton covering so it is ok to lie on, not plastic & sweaty, much better than changing the sheet sin the middle of the night, enabled us to deal with it quickly & without getting too annoyed, I know you shouldn't but broken sleep & lots of washing is not fun for anyone involved. I also had a pack of pampers bed mats in case she went through more than 2 mats a night, only needed pampers ones twice.

I do agree with others that 3 is very young. If you do talk about it at the school gates I discovered my daughter wasn't the only one in year 2 (age 6/7)

Good luck, mini

Cariad_3

My son is 9yrs and still having accidents at night, so don't worry 3 is very young.
My other child was 10 years old before his bladder started to grow up- we tried everything-incontinence clinic, alarm mattresses, star charts, medication spray and nothing worked long term. Children are embarrassed enough without making a big deal about it- so when we go away or when his friends stay over he wears huggies(10 to 15 years) and otherwise I just wash the bedding but the deal is my son always changes his bed. It's not an issue in our house but I think it easily could be. I think if you understand that boys in particular are later at being dry at night and that they really can't help it.After all, what child would want to be wet at night?
Good Luck and try not to worry.

bluenose1

Hi,

My husband read an article recently that said bed wetting in children up to the age of 9? can occur because their bodies aren't yet developed enough. It said there is nothing you can do about it but just to see when they start having dry nights.
It sounds like there is no point having a star chart/ chastising them as they have no control over the night time bed wetting.
Made me feel better as my son is still in night time nappies. I do not make an issue of it with him at all after that article.
Regards
Anne

Mumoffour

my sons 4 but i still put him in nappies at night because around early morning he wets himself. Because my elder two were also late learners i'm not really worried about it.
when yor son is ready he'll start going dry himself, but in the meantime keep him in nappies, its better than having a wet bed also its less traumatic for the child