Toddler Toilet Training help! (merged)

black-saturn

My first DD was dry at night at about 3 but DD2 was dry both day and night at about 2 and a half and it only took 3 days.

Just a word of advice though - Dont take too much notice of what it says in any book. Every child is different and none of them have read the book. Most of them are also written by childless people. Also trainer pants tend to hinder them a bit as they just use them as a nappy. They are also designed to keep the child using them as long as possible. Companies like Pampers and Huggies want every child to stay in their products as long as possible in order to get more money out of you.

Poppy9

Buy cheap nappies from the poundshop. They will be so uncomfortable it will put them off. I used this with my DD to get her out in the day (and night) just after her 2nd birthday. She only wore the cheap nappies for 1 day and ditched them them completely. Only wet the bed about 3 times over 6 months. I never lifted her and she slept for 12-14 hours at a time. I did leave a potty in her room incase she wanted to go at night but she never used it.

purplepatch

dora37 wrote:

Our DD kept wetting the bed purely because she was in such a deep sleep - she didn't even wake up when the bed was wet!

When we went to bed at about 11pm - we used to 'sleep walk' her to the toilet, she'd sit on it,go and we would 'walk' her back to bed without her realising - it worked immediately.

Now if she needs the toilet in the night she gets up and goes by herself.

A couple of months ago when OH was away she went to the loo at about 4am and there was no toilet roll left so she stayed on the loo and just shouted (at 4am) 'THERE'S NO TOILET PAPER LEFT' - I was that tired I just got up, got the toilet roll out of the cupboard gave it to her and went back to bed. It was only in the morning that I remembered that I hadn't even spoke to her or checked that she had gone back to bed!! Excellent mothering!!

:rotfl:

That did make me laugh! That is exactly the sort of thing my DD would do.

And your response is exactly what mine would have been

MrsMondragon

I have a problem with my 3 years and 7 months old which is not quite the same. He was potty trained at 3 years and 3 months. For the last four months hes been pretty much dry all the time at night. But my problem is when he wants to do a number two he just does it in his pants. He doesnt even mention hes doing it. Most of the time I only realise after ive smelt it. Does anyone have any ideas how I could get him to use the toilet for his number twos? He always uses the toilet for peeing himself or he asks me to take him, but its the number twos which we are having major problems with. Help please!

brummiebabe

MrsMondragon wrote:

I have a problem with my 3 years and 7 months old which is not quite the same. He was potty trained at 3 years and 3 months. For the last four months hes been pretty much dry all the time at night. But my problem is when he wants to do a number two he just does it in his pants. He doesnt even mention hes doing it. Most of the time I only realise after ive smelt it. Does anyone have any ideas how I could get him to use the toilet for his number twos? He always uses the toilet for peeing himself or he asks me to take him, but its the number twos which we are having major problems with. Help please!

My DS1 & 2 were the same!!

We didn't make a big deal out of it and just reminded them (after each 'incident') that poos go in the toilet & that we knew that they could do it next time..They both stopped within a few months. The nursery told us that it can take longer for them to recognise the signals etc re: pooing - they can also be a bit scared of the toilet/the sensation of poo leaving the body etc (sorry...but you know what I mean!)

Hope this helps!!

cosmile

i am trying to get my 3 year old out of nappies at night...however my older son has renal failure,i make regular visits to the hospital with him ,he will need a kidney transplant soon..i did ask their advice about my younger son.

their advice was do not lift your child out of bed during the night as this will never make them last through the night(bad habit they said),i thought it was the right thing to do.

they also said no drinks 2 hours before bedtime,which my son loves a tea before bed..oppps.maybe he will be in nappies a bit longer.

my middle son is 10 and he still wets the bed as he has a bladder problem.

but the age to be worried is 7 years,but even then there is loads the hospital can do.

i cannot praise great ormond street enough (london) a fantastic hospital.

i hope this helps.

purplepatch

Just thought I'd give a little update on this as have had huge success [touching wood, said in a whisper:)]

Just after my last post on this, had a chat with DD and she said that she'd try going to bed without a nappy. I bought a washable bed mat from Boots and we gave it a go for about a week. To be honest it was pretty hopeless as she was wet every night but one or two! Fed up with washing the bed mat every day, I suggested she might go back to nappies and she said yes, she would like to.

Since that day she has been dry every night, and that's 6 on the trot!! I'm probably tempting fate by saying this, but it does seem possible that the exercise did help to concentrate the mind.

I've got loads of pull-ups still as I bought them after someone on here reported a mis-price on the boots website a while back - buy one pack and get three packs free!! But when we get to the end of the currently open pack and assuming they stay dry until then, then we might give it another try without if she's happy to do so.

Becles

My youngest aged 2, just decided said "I don't want to wear nappies anymore", so I stopped putting them on him both day and night. He did have a couple of accidents, but most nights he was dry and that was it!

I found with both putting subconcious thoughts in their heads works really well. Just make off hand comments during the day like "ooh you're getting a bit big for nappies, we'll have to start using pants soon", or "won't it be nice when you haven't got this bulky nappy round your bottom? We must get round to trying pants soon". It sorts of puts the idea in their head that they should think about getting out of nappies, but then they think it's their idea not to wear them anymore. I think if it's their idea not to wear them, they are more determined not to wear them!

It worked with my eldest who was dry before he was 3, and as above my youngest was just 2.

purplepatch

Becles wrote:

My youngest aged 2, just decided said "I don't want to wear nappies anymore", so I stopped putting them on him both day and night. He did have a couple of accidents, but most nights he was dry and that was it!

I found with both putting subconcious thoughts in their heads works really well. Just make off hand comments during the day like "ooh you're getting a bit big for nappies, we'll have to start using pants soon", or "won't it be nice when you haven't got this bulky nappy round your bottom? We must get round to trying pants soon". It sorts of puts the idea in their head that they should think about getting out of nappies, but then they think it's their idea not to wear them anymore. I think if it's their idea not to wear them, they are more determined not to wear them!

It worked with my eldest who was dry before he was 3, and as above my youngest was just 2.

Going to start dropping little comments into conversations - she's very likely to take the bait - quite easy to manipulate at the moment.....

modgit

I had same experience as Becles, both of my sons declared before their respective 3rd birthdays "I'm too old for nappies" and that was it, they made their mind up and it was fairly plain sailing from then on.

I can say that we always used to wake them up for a wee when we went to bed about 11 ish, and most of the time they could wee asleep! but it helped.

A friend of mine was still having problems when her daughter was 6 and the dr still didn't think that was old enough to be a problem, but advised no blackcurrant squash / ribena, and i agree, give them blackcurrant and they wee for Britain, so that's something else to bare in mind!