12 to 24 week pregnancy thread

kerri_dfw

TL - we had a gender scan at 17w and found out we're team pink so just need it confirming now

jemb

We're team pink!

fran-o

Hi everyone, thanks for sharing news. I don't often post but enjoy keeping up with everyones news. I'm 16 weeks tomorrow.

Had a nice weekend - went to a wedding on Saturday evening and caught up with a colleague's wife who is about 20 weeks pregnant. She asked if ours was planned - turns out theirs was a complete surprise, they didn't even think to pee on a stick til about 11 weeks, just thought the sickness was a virus. Thankfully once they got used to the idea they were delighted! So maybe all the people asking if our pregnancies are planned are the ones with experiences of surprises!

Am down to a smaller choice of work wear now, hoping the weather lasts so I can keep wearing stretchy jersey dresses and not have to try and get back into trousers. My lovely mum has washed and ironed the maternity clothes my friend sold me, so I will have to try them all on again soon as I'll be needing some comfy trousers.

I've had a few vivid dreams too, no satsumas though. On the weekend I dreamed about being stuck in a loo, my brains way of waking me up for a wee!

Went into town with hubby on Saturday and (at his suggestion!) we went upstairs in mothercare.... this is the never before visited cot/ pushchair/ big purchase area. Was good to see what they've got and get an idea of prices. Felt very positive after we'd spent a while worrying about budgets timings and plans.

Enough of my ramblings, 2012 popular baby names to inspire you:
http://www.theguardian.com/news/datablog/2013/aug/12/top-100-baby-names-2012-girls-boys-list

kerri_dfw

I've just emailed a woman on fleabay about a 3 piece set of nursery furniture...I am tempted to bid on it, although I want to check with OH first and see what he thinks (we're meant to do the baby shopping together). We were going to get a cot from my sister, but if I can get cot + changing table + wardrobe that all match I'll be super happy...especially as it looks practically brand new

starshinning

i am here, work, DIY, builders in means I have been busy plus i am still so tired Hope you are all ok

starshinning

email her kerry xxx

bigzippy

I am around but lurking mostly my M.E/CFS seems to have flared up and I'm exhausted all the time and frustrated that a) nothing's getting done in the house/to prepare etc b) it's supposed to be the time we feel the best(!) c) it could very well put the kibosh on my hopes of a natural birth followed by 6 hr discharge home :cool: Scared of going through a C section because I'm too incapable of pushing - only to then be trapped in a hospital, without DH around 24/7 to help, trying to deal with my health conditions plus recovering from surgery, and a newborn on my own

kerri_dfw

BigZ - you will be fine you just need to take some deep cleansing breathes and think about how at the end of it all you will be going home with a small human that you've created. Even if you have to have a c section it's not the end of the world, but I'm sure you'll be fine on the day xx

AFM - OH and I have just had a big to do. He's suffering with depression and apparently every single part of it is because of me. Even the bit about his job he made my fault for getting pregnant...he forgets that if I wasn't he still couldn't just quit because we have bills and responsibilities. Got halfway through, decided I wasn't going to get emotional about it anymore and took some of those deep cleansing breathes (thank you yoga DVD!), stopped me getting emotional and closed me off from him, so now he's gone away to decide whether he even wants to be with me anymore. Better now than later I guess, can't go on another 20w with feeling he's just going to up and leave can I...besides I need to know I'm either doing it on my own or someone will be there to be strong when I'm feeling weak. I did tell him that he needs to see a counsellor...his response "we both do"..."yes dear that's fine but I will go along when they say I need to, you need to talk to someone first". Eugh. Sorry for the downer guys, seem to be having lots of them with MIL and OH and things....pretty sure she's stirring still because I won't budge on little one having my surname (not a double-barrelled) because he doesn't want to get married ever.

Birdie85

Sorry to hear that you're not doing so well BZ. If it makes you feel any better about the possibility of having a c-section, my SIL had one and the midwifes were really good about taking all the restless babies to the nurses station in the middle of the night to let the mums sleep and recover, I think they enjoyed having the cuddles with the newborns too (perks of the job!)! So you won't be totally alone when your OH isn't there, you'll just have to ask for a little extra support which I'm sure they'll be aware that you need considering your health issues.

Lovely news about being Team Pink Jemb!

So sorry to hear that things are so bad between you and your OH right now Kerri. I hope he does go to counselling and sort things out in his head, and learns that you are not his scapegoat for everything that is wrong in his life! If he left you, he'd still have to work (even more so since he'd be the only wage earner!), he'd still have depression, he'd still have the responsibility of fatherhood without the 24/7 joy of being fully involved with his little girl (TBC ). I know it's difficult but can you explain to MIL how much her stirring is affecting your relationship? Or is she just a bit poisonous and unapproachable? With the name thing, is your OH's surname one that could work as a middle name? May be an option if you're not happy double-barrelling. I hope things turn out right for you.

fran-o

Hugs to both Big zippy and Kerri - and any one else struggling a bit at the moment xx