12 to 24 week pregnancy thread

twinklie

I'm 23+1 and I have known the name of ours since about 3 years ago. :rotfl: We found out because DH had to know...I wasn't bothered.

Wait till you get the movements, my mind has been at rest ever since because I have a right wiggler on my hands. As long as I feel him move, I'm a happy bunny. Unfortunately, he usually chooses the wrong time to do it. Ha ha. Typical bloke!

sexymouse

Mine does too twinklie - mine is a boy, and he already seems to be taking after his father - he kicks when he's hungry, and then calms down when he's been fed. The milkshake I've just drunk should be taking effect soon. lol Our names are Jonathon Ian (Ian was my grandfather's name, and I'm convinced he will arrive on my grandfather's birthday rather than my due date - 28th September).

twinklie

Awww that's a sweet name. Ours has 2 names too, and the middle name is my family middle name. I'm not allowed to say what they are even on here though or I'm breaking my deal with DH! Ha ha.

Kitten_Pie

cake4brains,

When I had my first consultant appointment with the twins it was an introduction to the members of staff I will be dealing with (although didn't really see them again)

A discussion of the additional risks. ID twins are much higher risk (I had ID) how often you will be scanned (ID every 2 weeks Non-ID every 4 weeks)

There was also quite a nice long time for any questions, so if you do have any take them with you. I know quite a few people weren't as lucky with their consultants however insist on being heard.

moneypuddle

I need a friendly ear please . I'm so down today.

Am 19 weeks and 5 days, and have noticed recently that I'm feeling really up some days and then really down the next. Am sure this is quite normal but worried I may be taking it to an extreme.

I am getting so stressed at work. I have always been overworked but just recently we've become busier than normal (I manage advertise campaigns) and the workload now is just overbearing. It's non-stop, and totally frantic from 9am till 530pm, and I'm just constantly badgered all day from sales people, printers, fixing teams and other members of staff. There are then emails all evening on my iphone, which I need to tackle the next morning. Its just question after question, and queries and problems and seems never ending. I barely get time so make a drink, let alone have lunch. Lunch (if I get it) is usually at 3pm-ish, and by the time I get home I feel exhausted, irritable and usually end of arguing with OH. All I can manage to do is loll on the sofa and watch TV, so sex is out of the question at the minute. It's really effecting my home life at a time that should be so happy for us.

I don't know what to do. I'm training someone up and she's doing the best she possibly could be, but trying to train someone whilst also being incredibly busy is so difficult, and I'm worried I'm not giving her the time she needs. She's off shortly for a month, so I'm back on my own managing it all for a little while, then we have around 10 weeks together before I go on maternity leave, and still have so much to cover.

My boss has always leaned on me heavily. I recognise now that I have always been a 'yes' person, or 'i can do that' which now means I've made a rod for my own back. I took yesterday off for my mum's birthday, and by 930am my boss was on the phone to me with an issue she didn't know how to sort. I feel like my boss is almost annoyed with me for being pregnant, and is being intentionally unsupportive (she's also the MD and Owner, so there's no-one more senior to discuss it with).

What makes it worse is that I'm not particularly well paid, yet i see people within the same company who get paid 3x or 4x more than me, when in reality its me that does 90% of their work for them. It's not a case of learning to say 'no'. I'm there to answer their queries.

Just a big moan really. I'm sorry. I just needed to get it all out. So completely fed up and feeling quite annoyed that what should be such a happy time is being ruined by my crappy job.

sexymouse

Sending big hugs moneypuddle - I hope it's helped being able to talk about things on here and I hope that things improve at work for you soon. If things are really bad at work, it may be worth being signed off for a bit to give you a break - stress isn't good for you or the baby at the moment. Hugs again.

moneypuddle

Thanks SM. I think being signed off would actually make things worse, as the other girl is only half trained up, but who knows

Hope you're ok after your gender disappointment. I have my scan on Monday and am convinced I am having a boy, but would also quite like a girl

mishkanorman

moneypuddle,

I had the boss from hell for my first pregnancy, she couldnt have children herself and was vile to me from the minute she found out (when I told her she said "why on earth you want to get pregnant is beyond me")
Anyway, after spending weeks trying to please and keep up I eventually dropped my hours by 1 day per week - best thing I ever did. I couldnt take on any extra work and she was forced to rely on others, it also meant I could hand over tasks to others myself knowing i wouldnt get to them until after my day off. No one could make me out to be lazy or slacking any more which took a great deal of pressure off,

Not sure if its feasible for you but it may be worth a try ??

moneypuddle

Thanks mishka. I'm not sure reducing my hours could be an option at the moment, but I definitely want to once the baby arrives.

I think part of the reason I was so down yesterday was pregnancy hormones. I let it all get me. Today was busy still, but a little better and that certainly helped me to catch up on some things.

My boss has asked me to work in Nottingham for a day next week. I do this from time to time (its about 2 hours from home for me) but the thought of 4 hours of driving at the minute isn't really something to look forward to, but a nice colleague volunteered to come with me and drive, which was kind of her.

Today my boss asked me to go to alton towers on a staff day next friday. I said since I would be 21 weeks pregnant it probably wouldn't be a great idea because it would mean a lot of standing around, but i was quite happy to come into work and cover anyway, and she seemed really !!!!ed off with me. Can't win!

moneypuddle

Is anyone else not feeling their baby yet? I'm 20 weeks tomorrow, this is my first baby and I haven't felt a thing yet. I heard the heartbeat four weeks ago but am so worried something might be wrong.