long term relationship v marriage

LJM

i call my oh hubby for no reason other than probs a nickname, same as he calls me wifey lol i think its just a silly thing between us, we also have other nicknames but not that i would say here lol. if you feel comfortable calling him it just do it as others have said screw everyone else who cares they are not in your relationship. i have never heard that american usage of the word before you learn something new everyday

no-oneknowsme

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

I've never heard this before - perhaps you have a link?

Would be interested to read that link myself.....

In *my opinion* (and i am talking about my own personal experience before anyone gets excited) If you are un-married and have children , introducing the father of those children always sounds better if you say "My Husband".

When i was young and had just had my first child , i was taking her to be weighed at the baby clinic and i got talking to another (older) parent who also had their newborn in to get weighed .

She started talking to me and i felt that she was looking down her nose at me because i was a young mum.

We were discussing the babies dads and i remember i said something about my babies dad and i referred to him as "my Husband" (We were not married at the time though we did get married shortly after).

I have to admit that the only reason i referred to him as my Husband back then was because i was ashamed to say "my Boyfriend".

Dont ask me why but i was . Always just seems better being able to say "my Husband" and it being the correct phrase.

jcr16

LJM wrote: »

we also have other nicknames but not that i would say here lol.

same here, you've prob heard me calling O***** loads of diff names. i think in every relationship everyone has pet names for there o/h.


( ps, did u get my text? sad isn't it )

Plans_all_plans

I think it very much depends how you're brought up. I was absolutely mortified to have had a child out of wedlock (the only people in either of our extended families to have done so) It was a really big deal to me that I wasn't married. We have since got married and I wouldn't have personally been happy to stay unmarried.

I dislike the term 'partner' intensely and I really do not like it when people refer to my husband as my partner.

However, (unless I knew a friend was unhappy with her unmarried status) I wouldn't pass comment in the way your friend has to you.

LJM

jcr16 wrote: »

same here, you've prob heard me calling O***** loads of diff names. i think in every relationship everyone has pet names for there o/h.


( ps, did u get my text? sad isn't it )

ill look on phone have a new phone so not checked old one woops lol

Hermia

Tropez wrote: »

Ah, some people just have an issue with those who choose to live their lives in a different way to others.

Exactly! It doesn't matter what you do with your life someone will disapprove. I know people who have been frowned on for marrying young, not marrying at all, not having kids, having loads of kids, only having one kid blah blah blah. There will also be some judgemental busy body waiting to give their opinion. I find that simply saying, "if you are so happy with your life choices why do you care so much about what other people do" usually shuts them up.

shellsuit

If you call him your husband, why not get married?

You could book the registry office, go in one afternoon and be married for less than £100!

Wouldn't it be worth it, just so that you're each other next of kin legally?

If anything happens to either of you, what will you do?



Oh and hubby is short for husband just as 'hubs' is, I've never known it to mean anything else, let alone mean someone you're not married to.

Oldernotwiser

Tropez wrote: »

As this is not something that I learned on the internet I don't believe it would be a productive use of my time (copious as it may be) to spend several hours searching for something in order to appease people on forums.

What a very rude reply to a simple request for information!:mad:

shellsuit

The meaning of hubby : http://www.google.co.uk/#sclient=psy&hl=en&q=hubby+meaning&aq=0&aqi=g3g-s1g-o1&aql=&oq=&gs_rfai=&pbx=1&fp=fb65bc885a9abf7


ETA : According to the American Heritage Dictionary (whatever that is), hubby means husband.

Whoever told you hubby meant something else, was having you on.

Urban dictionary LOL? That's written by normal folk like you and me so anyone could say something means anything!

skypie123_2

Pee wrote: »

It might be people who are married trying to convince themselves that there is something special about this status, and it is true that it changes legal rights so it is something people should consider properly. Mind you the amount of people who get married thinking that what is theirs stays theirs afterwards is shocking. People are just not properly informed.

There IS something special about this status - they are married and have made that commitment to each other and want to show the world how they feel.
Strikes me its the people who are 'anti-marriage' that always want to knock those who have made this commitment and yet still want to be able to refer to each other as hubby or wife.
You are NOT hubby and wife you didn't get married.
Perhaps if the term partner doesn't sit well with you maybe you should rethink your views on marriage. Maybe you aren't as cool with not being married as you think.
After all if you are committed to each other whats the problem with getting married?