long term relationship v marriage

alys_fowler

why are there some people not everyone who put down couples that are not married, i have been in a relationship with my partner, who yes after 20 years plus i have taken to calling him my hubby much to some peoples disgrace. we are happy, we have children and the subject of marriage has been talked about yet we are happy as we are.i know one person in particular who has accused me personally of not having a 'proper relationship/only half a relationship' because we are not married. we do not view ourselves this way, it just annoys me that some people can go out of there way to try and put you down. sorry monday morning rant over lol

Gavin83

Accept for the added legal benefits marriage brings I don't really think it makes a difference. I really don't think it's fair to say a 20 year relationship would be any less serious or stable than a 20 year marriage. I'm not religious either which may set my opinion, I think religious people would be less accepting of a non married couple.

hoogervaaner

None of their damn business, you are in the fortunate position of having a happy family and good luck to you

LJM

i have to agree perhaps your friend is a little jealous of your relationship maybe, i call my partner my hubby and maybe i do use the term 'loosely' also but who cares if i want to call him that then so be it. do not let her or anyone else get you down if your happy then good, its not your problem the way others view your relationship it is theres

jcr16

i personally couldn't imagine not being married , but then got married at 20 very young. but right for us.

everyone is different. some wll never get married, some will get married once and others will get married lots of time's. what works for one, doesn't for.

everyone will find happiness in a relationship at various stages. some will never get engaged and perfer it like that, others will get engaged but never married and many will get engaged and then married. some some engaged, married divored.yet still be happy.

Tropez

Ah, some people just have an issue with those who choose to live their lives in a different way to others. For many, marriage is considered the ultimate goal of a relationship, or the "proof" of a long-term commitment and if they feel that way then of course that is fine. But then, of course, there are those (thankfully) few who believe that their way is unquestionably the correct way and anything different is wrong. I would just ignore them.

My partner has a very negative view on marriage due to experiences in her childhood. It is, therefore, unlikely that she will ever wish to get married. It isn't an issue for me and if it is an issue for anyone else then really, how stable can their relationships be if they're worrying about mine?

pinkshoes

If you and your partner are happy, what does it matter what other people think?

threemuttleys

Years ago, "living in sin" and having children out of wedlock, was very much frowned upon. However I (and many of my friends) have done both.

Im in a very stable loving relationship and we provide everything our son needs. Balls to what anyone else thinks!

skypie123_2

Its entirely your choice and as long as you are happy then thats all that matters.
But why refer to him as 'hubby' if you are so happy with that decision? He isn't your husband he is your partner.

borokat

No one elses business.
Out of interest why don;t you just go to the registry office and get married? It would be funny next time your friend brings this up to get out your certificate!

I am engaged to be married this year and I think marriage is the ideal, but I don't profess to know what is best for everyone! Each to their own.

no-oneknowsme

skypie123 wrote: »

Its entirely your choice and as long as you are happy then thats all that matters.
But why refer to him as 'hubby' if you are so happy with that decision? He isn't your husband he is your partner.[/QUOTE]


I think this question asked above is very important.

If you are not ashamed to tell people that you are un-married then why do you refer to your partner as your Hubby?