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  • startagain_2
    startagain_2 Posts: 2,135 Forumite
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    beanielou wrote: »
    You know what you need to do & only you can do it.
    Makes it seem easy doesent it & I know its not.


    Thanks beanielou

    At least it is my own diary and I don't feel guilty for going on about it. It is quite cleansing actually. I feel a bit better already. Off to watch a bit of TV as I can't stand Elaine Paige on the radio - I may be back later.
    Thanks everyone.... and NO I AM NOT GOING TO RING HIM.... :)

    SA
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  • Aesop
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    My Poor DH is in the card in the cold taking the washer dryer apart (the old one) looking for my engagement ring.... I hope he finds it.
  • copperjar
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    Hi SA :) Another Valentines hater here! Its funny, but when I was single, I used to pine over all the Valentine's stuff in the shops, creating a romantic vision of what it would be like to be loved up and happy on Feb 14th. Then when I was in a relationship, the whole thing was an utter letdown and just added pressure on finding the right gift and the right way to celebrate (when skint just after Xmas) and I didn't enjoy it at all! Now I'm back to being single again and I have been pining for someone to share the day with - but instead I'm going to buy myself a treat. So there! :p

    I think No Contact with an ex is definitely the way to go. I haven't spoken to, seen or heard from the ex since New yrs Eve, and although I've had a few wobbles (yesterday was one), I feel so much better than when we were playing at being friends. Imagine the trauma and stresses on how to play things tomorrow if we were still "friends" and the jealousy of wondering who she is with instead? Luckily the no contact means I have no way of knowing what she's doing and out of sight, out of mind.....

    Keep your chin up SA and stay positive. You've got loads of support on this thread if you ever fancy a rant or a moan or a wail of dispair. We're all right behind you :)
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  • Wordsmith
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    Well said, Copperjar!
    "Green pastures are before me,
    Which yet I have not seen;"
    I'd love to be a good example - instead, I am a horrible warning.
  • beanielou
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  • Aesop
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    He hasn't yet. Wants to take the drum apart and smash the pump, but says he will do another day as hasn't tools. Now come in, in a bad mood.... grrrrr.
  • savingwannabe
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    I just heard from one of my heroes! Mr Vardy is happily married. I am pleased as he is wonderful. Hoooray. wonder if he has a brother??? i am soooo naughty. i just want some cake.
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  • katali_d
    katali_d Posts: 29 Forumite
    edited 13 February 2011 at 5:39PM
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    Hello, can't remember if I've posted on here before, but I've been reading your diary for the last couple of days and found it really positive and helpful to me. I just wanted to say, from experience about your "fix" that if you are really determined to break it off, deleting his number would be a good start. It's really hard to do (I've found) but makes a massive difference, knowing that actually you can't call whenever you have a wobble! I found having a relationship like that held me back from a real one, as I could just keep telling myself I didn't want a relationship and could satisfy my need with the rubbish one, but when you completely end the rubbish one, suddenly there are opportunities around you that you didn't see before, and you can move forward with life. But, like I said, that's my experience! Good luck whatever you do :-)
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  • savingwannabe
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    welcome katali. I am the idiot on this thread, everyone else is sensible. I seem to be solely motivated by cakes at the moment.
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  • startagain_2
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    katali_d wrote: »
    Hello, can't remember if I've posted on here before, but I've been reading your diary for the last couple of days and found it really positive and helpful to me. I just wanted to say, from experience about your "fix" that if you are really determined to break it off, deleting his number would be a good start. It's really hard to do (I've found) but makes a massive difference, knowing that actually you can't call whenever you have a wobble! I found having a relationship like that held me back from a real one, as I could just keep telling myself I didn't want a relationship and could satisfy my need with the rubbish one, but when you completely end the rubbish one, suddenly there are opportunities around you that you didn't see before, and you can move forward with life. But, like I said, that's my experience! Good luck whatever you do :-)


    Good morning and thankyou for that. I actually feel so much better when I can look back and realise that not one thought about him has entered my head for an hour or two. You are right, it is very limiting when you are stuck in a situation like this. Welcome to my diary, by the way.

    SA
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