MSE Parents Club Part 16

Metranil_Vavin

Thank you both.

And Neph what you typed makes perfect sense.

My boss just called me and was really nice about it which sent me into floods of tears again. He wants to set up a proper leaving do for me, which will probably be really tough even though it's a nice thing to do as I haven't seen my team for over 7 months..so to meet up to say hi and bye will be hard.

Just been speaking to my mum and she said I have done the right thing for this time in my life. I think it's just surrendering that last part of the 'old' me that has been hard.

Nephthys

It doesn't mean you aren't still the old you! Still the old you - just moving into a new phase of your life! And think of the leaving do as your chance to have a good natter and to say a proper cheerio to your workmates. And then go home and give Josh a massive cuddle - cos usually that can make everything ok! (well works for me! Lol) He is your new boss now! Hee hee!

Speaking of cuddles - Isaac has leant to give proper hugs - including the squeeze! He also can blow a kiss and has started using a fork to eat meals. in fact won't eat meals without getting his fork! He has started handing it over to get the food put on it and then using the fork himself. It is well messy but very funny! Walking is improving but he will still crawl if he falls over.

Metranil_Vavin

wow sounds like isaac is really coming along! I can't wait to get my first hug
Josh just struggles to get away, but I force him into having hugs with me..lol!

How old is he now? Josh is 10 months and still immobile!

Nephthys

Isaac likes to try and get away as well (think that's normal) but if DH is playing with him and chasing him then he gets up for a hug. He has started with the hugs in the morning but he probably just wants fed! Little monkey! he will also look like he's about to give you a big slobbery kiss (complete with funny noises) but he's really just coming in for a bite! :eek:

He's now 13 months and just getting on his feet. One thing I have learned is how different they all are! I didn't walk until 16 months but said my first words at 9 months and was talking in sentences by 12 months (my dad says I haven't shut up since! ). Isaac can manage dada (and points to DH) and mama - but he has no idea who mama is! In fairness I kinda miss the days when he would stay where i put him! Now I spend my time trying to keep him away from the back of the tv! Wouldn't change it for the world.

Josh will get there in his own time with walking, talking, teeth etc! Isaac now has 12 - stings a bit when he's feeding - he's not biting just pushing me against his teeth.

Must admit - would still love another one!

Nephthys

Right - must go back to work now! Back to lurksville!

Becles

Pleased it wasn't too bad MV.

What about getting a part time job? Just a few hours a week in a shop or a bar or something? I know it wouldn't be taxing, but it would get you out and make you a bit of pocket money so to speak so you'd feel more independent.

I've been lucky as my Mam has looked after all of mine for free. I think I would have struggled if I had to factor in childcare.

tinkwings

MV - I am so proud of you and I wish I had the courage to do the same. Fingers crossed things will happen and the descion will be taken out of my hands.

Doglover

Hi ladies, I hope everyone is good.

I'm envious of you ladies who are getting to stay home with your bubs. I'd love to but we simply can't afford for me to. We're lucky enough to have free childcare in the form of grandparents. Im reducing my hours a bit though so hoping it'll prove the best of both worlds. I love my job so I'd probably miss it, esp as I have some great mates there. Another 3 months till I'm back so I'll enjoy that time.

I need a slap....I'm already thinking about number 2!! I've got to chat to DH more as he's not totally on board yet but I'm hoping to have about 18 months between the kiddiewinks so don't want to leave it too long.

Beccles I admire you with how you do everything! I must admit, I don't know why I ever moaned about being tired before!

DH is taking LO to his parents this morn so I can have a rest but I think the pit I call our home needs some attention and I've only got 4 clean muslin cloths left!! For a reflux baby that's dangerzone!!

I think we've got Christmas sorted now as to where we're going and when. Just gotta buy some presents now!

Have a great day x

MERFE

morning x

MV no point working if its gonna be stressful and you dont actually get anything at the end. That commute is killer too. When I went back to a job that was and hour away I just didnt like being that far away incase something happened. This was when they went to the Childminder who was great but now I leave them with OH to go to work only a few hours a week I feel alot more comfortable. Its so hard to find that perfect balance though, but you will get there.

Doglover Christmas is gonna be a nightmare. I've sorted all the kids presents - bought something for my mum only for her to announce she isnt getting anyone anything - not even the kids (bet my sister gets something) so not sure of I'm gonna give it to her. I know we dont give to receive but the way she said it was like no one bothers with them so she isnt bothering with anyone else but I always put thought into getting her something I think she would like within my budget. Then there is the MIL who can not be pleased. She wanted to do a present exchange before Christmas but because OH works the days I'm off and I work his days off and the kids at school its not possible for us to go down and visit. Because of the way Christmas falls with the bank hols on my days (work sun mon tues) I'm gonna have a nice break at Christmas so I suggested we went down for actual Christmas - there isnt room for us at her house so I said we would rent a cottage for the week and visit on Christmas day - there is no room for us as she has SIL round for the day. So she is coming up the day after boxing day which has kind of annoyed me as we could have gone away somewhere else so looks like we are stuck at home. - I might volunteer the 2nd bank holiday for some extra cash.

Doglover

Merfe your mum sounds a mare and your MIL even worse! We're having a family day with inlaws after Christmas so we're going to my lot but not all day. Bit worried about LO not resting enough as he'll be pass the parcel no doubt!

MV I defo would've done what you've done in your position! Esp as number 2 is being thought of. I think I read somewhere that if you have 2 jobs for long enough you get mat pay from both??? Might be worth thinking about but check it as I'm not sure if I read that right!