MSE Parents Club Part 16

Becles

Sorry to hear about your Grandma Wendz. Thinking of you and your family xx

It was similar here - my Gran had 5 great grandsons and kept saying she would love a great granddaughter. She was thrilled when Charlotte was born and loved going out and buying her a pretty dress and cardigan, but she passed away when Charlotte was about 6 months old

Hope work isn't too bad when you hand your notice in MV and hope you feel settled when you get into a SAHM routine xx

Busy here as always with masses of work, study and all sorts to keep me busy.

Metranil_Vavin

Tinks - that's exactly how I feel! Almost guilty at giving up a perfectly 'good' job, particularly in the current climate where people can't find work for love nor money!
I am such a control freak about money and finances too, it terrifies me to think we'll have to somehow manage on OH's income alone, which isn't too bad but for London is very very average.
OH is crap with money, and came to the relationship with debts galore from his first marriage. We have slowly chipped away at those, and there is just one last loan to pay off which I am going to sort in december..it's going to hurt as it's a massive chunk of my savings, but it will save us £260 a month in repayments, which is a no-brainer now.
OH makes the debts, and I pay 'em off! :mad:;):p

I'm just so used to having my own £££, and not having to think too much about what we buy in the supermarket, the odd lunch out, baby groups etc..all that's changed now and I am counting every penny! It's so boring!!

I'm waiting to hear from a friend who works in a similar role to me at another publisher about a possible p/time role. It's a newly created role, so it's going to take time (if it comes off at all!), but keeping my fingers crossed anyway.

Btw Tinks, am stalking you on the TTC thread and hoping you get your BFP soon!

Metranil_Vavin

Becles - how do you manage to fit study and work around your 3 LO's?

Do you mind me asking what sort of work you do?

wendz86

Morning all,

Thanks for the kind words, going down to spend a couple of days with family today. Becles it does sound very similar, my OH was saying that sometimes they hang on for what they want .

MV- i would find it very hard too, will be living off just OH's wage in feb and march and i will find it so strange not having my own money.

Metranil_Vavin

Well I've had to tell OH that what's mine is mine, and what's his is mine too, so at least we understand each other! :rotfl:

Becles

Metranil_Vavin wrote: »

Becles - how do you manage to fit study and work around your 3 LO's?

Do you mind me asking what sort of work you do?

I work for several different field marketing agencies. Most of the work is ad-hoc, but I manage to get enough to fill my diary and make a reasonable income.

Usual weekday:

Up around 7am, and make packed lunches for them all. Do breakfast, get everyone dressed and off to school.

9am-3.15pm: go out and do visits for work. Sometimes walk the dogs. Start typing up reports or study.

3.15pm-6pm: collect Charlotte from school, walk dogs if they didn't get walked earlier, potter about doing housework, cook and eat tea.

6pm: sit down with a cup of coffee - aaaahhhh!

7pm: bath Charlotte, read stories, put her to bed.

8pm: finish typing up reports or study.

10pm: faff around on the net, then go to bed.

Weekends are pretty much the same with work/study/housework fitted in where I can around doing stuff with the bairns.

I always make sure I don't do anything on Sat evening and make sure I lay on the sofa and watch a film or something.

tinkwings

Metranil_Vavin wrote: »

Tinks - that's exactly how I feel! Almost guilty at giving up a perfectly 'good' job, particularly in the current climate where people can't find work for love nor money!
I am such a control freak about money and finances too, it terrifies me to think we'll have to somehow manage on OH's income alone, which isn't too bad but for London is very very average.
OH is crap with money, and came to the relationship with debts galore from his first marriage. We have slowly chipped away at those, and there is just one last loan to pay off which I am going to sort in december..it's going to hurt as it's a massive chunk of my savings, but it will save us £260 a month in repayments, which is a no-brainer now.
OH makes the debts, and I pay 'em off! :mad:;):p

I'm just so used to having my own £££, and not having to think too much about what we buy in the supermarket, the odd lunch out, baby groups etc..all that's changed now and I am counting every penny! It's so boring!!

I'm waiting to hear from a friend who works in a similar role to me at another publisher about a possible p/time role. It's a newly created role, so it's going to take time (if it comes off at all!), but keeping my fingers crossed anyway.

Btw Tinks, am stalking you on the TTC thread and hoping you get your BFP soon!

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Thanks Honey me too!! I have got a CBFM to use next month so may be asking questions!!

I have got it now that I will go back and see how I go and fingers crossed we get the sticky bean next time and it won't be long before I get more mummy time

Hope the P/T job pans out xxx

Metranil_Vavin

I've just emailed my boss and HR to tell them I am resigning.

I feel really, really upset about it, despite having thought about nothing much else for the past 6 or 7 months, and having come to the conclusion that going back just wasn't going to work financially.

I feel like I've just given up my independence..it was a reasonably well paid job, but the commute itself was costing me about £2.5k a year, and that coupled with humungous childcare costs here in London, meant that after paying everything out I would have had about £200 a month left over.

For a 3 hr daily round commute, a full time stressful job and regular international travel, it just didn't seem worth hardly ever seeing my son

Still sucks though.

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ahh hugs metranil. just enjoy spending time with little one, you could always look for something else further dow thee lline.

im lucky enough to have a job where i can drop my older boys off to school and pick them up, i dont work in the holidays either, but when i go back i know i will find it hard to leave little one but he will be with my mum though.

Nephthys

Oh MV - Good for you for having the nerve to do it! It must have been a really difficult decision. I haven't had to make that choice yet - came back to work at start of October. Please, please don't feel bad about it!

Our costs are a bit lower cos of where we live but I will have to give up work if I want to have another child (and i do - am now lurking on the TTC board ). However, with all the stuff about pensions we have now come to the conclusion that it doesn't seem to matter what we do at the moment as everything will have changed by the time I retire anyway so we will have to suit ourselves financially now. It will mean some serious cutting back and living within our means. We do anyway (no debt but the mortgage which we keep chipping away at) but would have to draw it in even more.

I empathise about the independence thing - one of my worries - but you have weighed up what is best for your family at the moment and from what you've said it just wouldn't be worth it financially or emotionally for you. Don't beat yourself up over it - you're a good mum! One day at a time! What about PT work - is there anything in your local area - even if it's not along the lines of what you usually do (unless that's really specialised).

I have waffled - as usual - and I'm not sure if what I have typed makes sense. I think what I'm trying to say is you're not alone in thinking about the hard stuff - am free for a chat if you fancy talking to a ramdom stranger! :rotfl: