MSE Parents Club Part 16

sir_monster

Well done Kai!!

Hope lo sleep improves Wendz, I know you think is going well then have a rubbish night.

Supermaiden, only thing I can suggest re baths is to maybe split his feed? Give half before and half after if want to do it at night or you could do it the morning if easier.

pigpen

I bath mine in the morning... baby wipe bath/top & tail before bed and proper bath in a morning as I have more time then. Or if there is a time he is awake and more alert bath him then.

You could bath him earlier before he is starving maybe?

supermaiden

Well see I try to catch him before he is hungry but he just seems to wake earlier! Say he will be ready for a feed in 3-4 hours, I want to bath him in 2 1/2 hours but he seems to decide before then that he is hungry lol.

wendz86

Morning all,

Jenny - hope your OH isn't working too hard, hardly seen mine this week! They are all doing a great job though.

Supermaiden - i was going to suggest same as Supermaiden and maybe split the feed so he isn't too hungry during bath.

Poppy went in her cotbed for the first time last night. It went well although had a bit of a false start as she has started rolling loads the last couple of days and she managed to roll over onto her front and then got upset. When she went down again thoght she only woke up once in the night which was fab and found her this morning turned round 90 degrees to where i had left her staring up at her mobile. Think she likes the space.

Metranil_Vavin

Morning ladies.

Is anyone here a full time SAHM?

It's looking like more and more of a possibility for me as my company have been rubbish re flexible working, and my office is an hour and a halfs commute away from where I live.

Also the nurseries round here are so expensive (£1600 a month full time!!!!), that I just can't see it being worth it as I'll have very little left over after paying fees.

I have registered him for a nursery and paid a deposit for full time, but that was more as the waiting lists round here are ridiculous, and I wanted the comfort of knowing I have a place should I need it.

Just wondered if anyone here has been in a similar predicament? Being a full time SAHM has never been on my radar, and I will be looking for p/t work. It just seems a bit daunting when all my mummy friends are going back to work over the next few months.

madnessandmayhem

Metranil_Vavin wrote: »

Morning ladies.

Is anyone here a full time SAHM?

It's looking like more and more of a possibility for me as my company have been rubbish re flexible working, and my office is an hour and a halfs commute away from where I live.

Also the nurseries round here are so expensive (£1600 a month full time!!!!), that I just can't see it being worth it as I'll have very little left over after paying fees.

I have registered him for a nursery and paid a deposit for full time, but that was more as the waiting lists round here are ridiculous, and I wanted the comfort of knowing I have a place should I need it.

Just wondered if anyone here has been in a similar predicament? Being a full time SAHM has never been on my radar, and I will be looking for p/t work. It just seems a bit daunting when all my mummy friends are going back to work over the next few months.

Hi,
I work 18 hours a week i the evenings at a local supermarket, so that dh can be at home with the kids, so I only have minimal childcare costs (I have a friends daughter to babysit for an hour or so if dh is on a later shift, but still cheaper than nursery etc), and I take home about £450 a month.
Unfortunatley we could not afford for me to not work at all, or to have a job where I would have to use a childminder or nursery, but i needed to do something, so this works for us. it's not the most challenging job in the world and can be rather boring, but i go to work, do what i've got to do, and go home again, which is what i want with having the kids. and also there is always a chance for overtime etc when people are on holiday.
maybe you could do something like that-might not seem like much but when you work out how much you would take home after paying childcare, you're probably not a lot worse off and you get to spend a lot more time with your gorgeous Josh!!!

jennynoo

I work four days but if I have a second child I'm not sure what I will do as we wont be able to afford the nursery fees with two in. One of my colleagues came back to work after her second even though it actually cost her to work because she wanted to make sure she kept her job open, mind you they tried to make her redundant because she isn't very good at her job so she probably had good reason to try and keep hold of it. (nasty side of me showing through, sorry, she is a lovely person just a bit slow to get things done).

OH has been working 3pm-3am all week, he doesn't usually do nights so it's a bit new to me and I'm finding it really hard feeling like a single mum because I never see him. I feel a bit guilty that I leave LO at home with him in the mornings and he gets up and takes her to nursery when she wakes up then goes back to bed for a bit. I could do drop offs and pick up but it's just a bit of a rush and Erin is usually still asleep when I leave anyway so I don't want to wake her. Hopefully it wont be for much longer though.

wendz86

I feel your pain with the 3pm to 3am shifts, I am hardy seeing OH either.

I am really not sure what to do about work. I am not going to be making much after childcare and travel, especially as i expect the trains will go up in jan again. I am thinking of requesting to do 4 days a week but i am doubtful they will let me.

OH is happy for me to stat at home and we would have enough but it would be tight.

Jenny - i wouldn't be able to afford two in childcare either so i either have to wait a few years or not work anymore.

delain

I was messed up for work pretty much when the twins arrived... although I have had jobs since, mainly evening ones. There are almost no jobs you can do that I'm qualified for that would cover the childcare for three, now even less 4. I was offered a post term time only a while ago, but couldn't take it because it wasn't paid through the year, it was strictly by the hours you did every month and obviously 6 weeks with no wage would have played havoc with everything else (tax credits/rent etc, my mum put herself in a similar situation when we were little and it was a massive struggle every year) Plus they couldn't guarantee me set hours every month, it was an as and when sort of thing.

I intend to go back when the bump goes to playgroup, then I can help in the school and get my foot in the door and do the OU TA course. I said this the other day, apparently all the SEN experience I have will help, and I can always do further training. I'd be happy with that, because being specialised eventually would help as there will always be a demand for that, and you get school holidays off and paid all year. It'd only be inset days that would be a problem and OH could get time off for those.

That makes me sound really lazy doesn't it, but the twins and their problems says (to me) that they'd struggle with holiday care at the moment, I went to one one year as a child and it was awful. Plus they really hate being away from me, Twin1 gets really emotional if she doesn't see me, even if she's having fun at grandma's house, and welds herself to my leg for days after.

Twin2 has just told me that she wishes I had a baby girl in my tummy. She's going to think I did it just for her when she finds out :rotfl:

I am so tired. Am still chasing my tail trying to tidy the house up lol.

Twins school bags arrived today, so they've all got it packed up with the new bits and on top of my wardrobe so they can't disappear any of it.

OH has got to get the present box down actually... DD1's stuff needs wrapping

tsstss7

I'm a sahm and have been off and on since ds1 was born (I went back to work with ds1 only very part time and all jobs were around him until 7 then I used after school clubs etc as I went back part time 22hrs then before going full time) I guess I'm a bit unusual though as I had ds1 before I'd got established in any career and also before tax credits existed so even though I initially wanted to be a working mum it just wasn't viable. when tax credits came in I could suddenly afford to work but I never regretted the yrs I spent at home with the LO.

I'm a sahm again now and have just come to see it as my 'job'. As such I try and do stuff for the LO's most days and treat weekends when dad is home as time off (well a bit). I miss the work cameraderie but I know I'll be back there soon enough so just try to make the most of the freedom for now.

popping by to say hi to those who know me :-)

I had dd in june and am only just able to find time on the comp now lol. I love having a daughter after all those years of boys though. Shopping is so much more fun for a girl (not that we can afford to do too much of that lately).

Anyway I wonder if any one can help with my latest quest? I'm after two items and can't find them anywhere. I want to buy a book designed for newborns with those black and white patterns and can't find one under a tenner (waitrose - also cloth and I would prefer a regular book really)....Also I need a feeding pillow but can only find ludicriuosly expensive elaborate ones in mothercare and jojomammonbabe when all I want is a nice fat one like they have at the maternity hospitals. Does anyone have any idea where I can buy one?

Must go someone at the door - will be grateful for any suggestions.