MSE Parents Club Part 16

gizmodo_2

rach wrote: »

Giz - can you phone? dh always tells me off for emailing about stuff as people can ignore them much easier than if you phone! I hate the phone though! with dd do you think she could be overtired? how long has she been awake when you try to put her to bed? what's your bedtime routine? maybe we can suggest some things to try xx

well one application finished, just waiting for a referee to confirm she's happy to do it and her details.

giz - i do think that nursery sounds really expensive. Around here they seem to be £50ish per day in bromley, which is more than enough! until we've exchanged on the house i don't really want to look for anywhere, the downside being if i do get a job and have to start quickly it might be harder to find somewhere

I'm the same! I hate phoning! Strangely I'd rather speak to people in person than on the phone Also I had wanted it in writing too.

OMG I wonder if you are right. OH is home and yesterday we went out she hasn't had any daytime naps in 2 days except for in the car. She had a freak out around lunchtime today too. This is one area I struggle with DD. When she's at home alone with me she probably has about 3 half hour to an hour naps in the day and she sleeps on the floor. I've struggled to get the timing right and if I put her upstairs she just freaks. I did try filling in that sleep pattern sheet you posted a while back and there was absolutely no pattern at all for during the day. The only thing it proved was if I go out, or OH is home she doesn't nap!

Bedtime routine is about 6:30 - 7pm I take her upstairs, change her nappy, clothes, put in sleeping bag and then I feed her in her room, and then I put her down and 9 times out of 10 she goes straight to sleep (and I don't put her down sleeping - she's been great). On a 'normal' day she'll either sleep right through to about 6:30 - 7am which is when I change her nappy and feed her, then put her back in cot and I have a shower and usually she'll fall asleep again till about 9am. Or she'll wake the once sometime between 1am and 2am and I'll feed her, and then she sleeps a little later - to about 8am and then I'll change and feed her and she'll nap again but to a max of about 9:30am.

But tonight I took her up, did the routine, but she was wide awake (but eye rubbing) and too fidgety to want to feed. So put her down without a feed and then she starts crying. She had a crying fit for about 30 minutes (nothing consoles her). Eventually she calms, I offered a feed, she gulps down and then I put her to bed and so far she's been fast asleep.

When is it looking like you'll exchange? I don't envy anyone buying a house. It was a really stressful time when we did it. Can't imagine what it's like having to sell one too.

rach

sounds like she is probably overtired on those nights giz! me and sir m could talk til the cows come home about naps....they are important and in my experience better naps=better night time sleep, but for us it has naturally improved.

we're not selling a house, we currently rent but we had a good deposit saved, need a garden now L is growing and if we are paying almost £1k a month rent it may as well go on a mortgage. DH is dealing with most of it tbh as he's better at all that than me...i just did the initial searching and have phoned people like solicitors, surveyor etc

pigpen

Our nap is great she goes down about 12 and we wake her for the school run at 2:45.. The days she misses .. like today.. she is an absolute horror!!!! She sleeps 8-8 most nights too.. I am very blessed.. this new one will never sleep you watch!.. it can stay up with OH!!!

I seem to be forever chasing gutter blokes, plasterers and from tomorrow decorators and window people too!!! I am starting to think I need a PA!!

I will be so glad when this room is done it is the bane of my life the last couple of years!

aless02

Morning all, nice to see some chatter yesterday. :T

Poor you giz, it's amazing how much a difference those daytime naps make? Speaking of sleep, last night I woke up at 1:30am to the sound of happy babbling coming from Finn's room. He carried on chattering merrily for about 30-40minutes before falling asleep again! Such a nutter

rach

that's sweet aless! L is currently in the corridor shouting dad in the general direction of the bathroom (dh has just gone in the shower!). He's also trying to say 'Homer' lol, we have a homer simpson teddy type thing that he loves as dh always makes homer 'talk' to him when he's in his door bouncer before the bath!

Giz hope she slept ok once settled, at least she sleeps through, i'd have given a lot for that at her age lol.

our 5.30 wake up call didn't wake til after 6.30 today well, i heard him at 5.30 but he seemed to go back to sleep...why is it always when it's dh's turn he sleeps later?!

does anyone have any contraception advice? i hated the (mini) pill as it made me down and have no sex drive, but condoms are pricey and horrid. anyone had a coil? how do they work. Main reason is really heavy periods are back

Becles

£1K in rent :eek:

Josh was looking at uni websites and was shocked to see that it's around £70 a week for a room in a block with shared bathroom and kitchen and self catering. I think he's keen on living at home and going to to uni now

Never really found any contraception that I got on with. I was on Cilest for a while which was ok, but it made me really tearful at period time and I just needed loads of hugs which was a problem. It's much easier now I don't need any

*BigBird*

Rach, I can't take the pill or have the injections as I had a blood clot caused by the pill a few years ago and my Dr said the only option for me now is a coil. But of 3 friends I know who had them, 2 had problems - cramps, heavier periods than before, etc. However the 2 that had the problems hadn't had kids and my Dr did say she wouldn't fit one originally (just after I'd had the clot and been told I couldn't take the pill again) as she won't do them for women who've not had kids - maybe that's why. Probably best to discuss it with your Dr or contraception clinic. You can also normally get free condoms from contraception clinics. I've been toying with trying the "natural" method since I did OK at taking my temp and working out when I was fertile, hopefully shouldn't be too tricky to work out when I'm not fertile. But so far I've been rubbish at remembering to take my temp in the morning... Maybe I'd better just go and see her about the coil!

Giz, it definitely sounds like a lack of naps to me. Joe is an absolute horror if he doesn't get enough nap time. We had problems with him screaming if I tried to put him in his cot for a nap when he was around your DDs age. I just had to persevere with it as he was rapidly out-growing his carrycot, which was the only place he would nap. The first couple of days he basically screamed til he wore himself out and then fell asleep, but he got better and better from there and now always naps in his cot if we're at home.

pigpen

rach wrote: »

does anyone have any contraception advice? i hated the (mini) pill as it made me down and have no sex drive, but condoms are pricey and horrid. anyone had a coil? how do they work. Main reason is really heavy periods are back

Get condoms free from the clinic? (I have some on ebay lol)

coil.. hmm... after all the STI's combined it is the primary cause of female infertility. They often cause heavier bleeding (I'll get to mirena in a minute) massive cramps and infection.

mirena.. well.. they cause more infections than the usual IUD, Are reliable for about a year in larger ladies (which why I was not given the option at size 16!) they are more prone to removing themselves.. my friend woke up with hers in bed next to her only a couple of weeks ago.

I can't take the pill.. combined is a no chance due to famiy history of heart, bp and kidney issues.. increases in risks for certain cancers etc is also a consideration.. Minipill doesn't work.

injections completely fluff up your body and it can take years to sort.

Implant.. they are having an increased failure rate at the moment for some reason but it is still one of the more reliable methods .. personally I would go for this option though.

rach

I think my GP would advise implant too, I remember she was surprised my old GP hadn't suggested it rather than mini pill. I was on micronor which was useless, periods all over the place, then cerazette which was better as there's a 12 hour window. I had no bleeding on it for over a year which i found odd, and the endocrinologist advised me to come off it.

Sounds like coil is out, free condoms suit

**confuzzled**

Implanon sent me wappy when I had it(approx 7yrs ago):( Got so depressed GP tried to put me on Anti-Ds:eek::mad:

Hopefully they're a lot better now!