MSE Parents Club Part 16

aless02

Morning all! Not usually up this time of morning, but DH feels ill so I'm being nice and getting up with our early riser baby. He's still very spotty but most of them seem to be that healing stage now, so that's good. It's amazing all the places they can get them! :eek:

Hi to all new mums! Giz don't worry too much at the moment about BFing in public, once you've been doing it a few weeks you will get the hang of things and be able to do it one-handed and such. Perhaps the first few times you need to go out, make sure DH is with you so you can practice and have him on hand if you need an extra pair of hands?

Makeit3, good to hear you had a good time at the cinema. It can feel so nice to get out of the house, even just to something like that!

MV, love the pyjamas!!

Hi Jenny, haven't seen you in a while .

got-it-spend-it

Morning all. I am very impatiently waiting to hear news of my friend's baby. The induced her yesterday morning but I cannot wait to hear!

I hope DH is better soon and you can enjoy your day off Aless.

I'm off to an all day meeting now, *yawn*.

MERFE

morning all x

I accidentally got up an hour early this morning so we've all been sat round waiting to go school since 7 grrr. Bob stirred I looked at my watch thought it said 7am jumped out of bed and took a while to realise it was only 6 opps. Bob is now sleeping again.

MDW glad little one is on the mend sounds quite bad.

Giz it was around 2 weeks that I got my infection and it was so hard then to deal with Bobs grumpiness and he was so grumpy. I was in alot of pain and couldn't hold the baby near my chest so feeding him was really hard especially if he elbowed me in the boob - I cried alot. However since its all been sorted it has been soooooooooo much easier to cope with the grumpy baby and as the weeks have gone on he has got less grumpy too. Its hard enough anyway but when you are not well it just feels like its neverending but it does get easier and quite quickly too.

OK so after all the jumperoo talk I got the door bouncer out the cupboard, couldn't remember the age they are suitable but online they say once they can hold their heads unaided so put him in it and he loved it. It was great. I can see the jumperoo going down really well now too just need to find myself a bargain one.

HV coming later and i wanted to catch up with some sleep because last night bob decided he wanted to play at 4am grr - first time he has done that, fingers crossed he doesn't do it again.

Becles

Morning

I love Josh's pyjamas - so cute and they're setting off the broody feelings again :D

Giz - breastfeeding in public takes time. You need to feel confident doing it home first, so practice doing it discreetly till you get the hang of it. Try doing it in quiet places first till you get used to it.

Pleased the mortgage appointment went well ladybird. Good luck in getting it sorted.

Hope Katie feels better soon xx

Off to Tesco with Charlotte this morning then got a couple of jobs to do for work. Got loads of typing to do once she goes to nursery.

Have a good day all xx

tsstss7

morning

I'm a breastfeeder too and I've never fed in public. In the car is the most public place I have fed and also the mother and baby room of mothercare. I'm quite big in that area and it quickly became apparant that it wasn't really possible to do comfortably without everyone around getting a good eyeful lol.

I did however bf in front of female relatives quite unself consciously and my MIL (although I would rather not have done in front of her - I just didn't feel like I could be bothered to make an issue in front of OH as he thinks I hate his darling mother) poor DS1 has seen my boobs so many times now he is prob scarred for life. He was 10 when DS2 was born and hadn't seen my body for years as he started to get body conscious around 8. I feel he is immune now however as he doesn't notice when I feed ds2.

This time round I imagine I will be much the same - feeding is so much nicer when you are in a nice quiet room anyway. It only affected me going out for the first 6 mths or so really as after that I switched to a fruit/water drink with food anyway when out and left bfing for when at home. (Although to be fair I do live very close to the shops so my trips out never had to be very long).

sharkeybabe

Hello. I'm coming over from the Pregnancy Thread, my daughter Sofia was born on Tuesday. Hope I can join you all.
I'm looking for a bit of advice if anyone can help, Sofia is 3 days old and we are having terrible trouble trying to settle her at night. During the day she sleeps and feeds well (bottled fed around every 3-4 hours) but at night time, she just screams the place down and we have had no sleep at all. I know that it is not her fault but I am getting frustrated as I dont know what is making her cry so much and I just want to help her. DH thinks she has colic as she has been getting the hiccups alot, but I thought she couldnt get that under 2-3 weeks old? Also she is slightly jaundiced - could this be affecting her?

Hope someone can share some light.
Thanks, a very tired Sharkeybabe xx

gizmodo_2

Make-it-3 wrote: »

It's good to see some familiar names on here from the pregnancy thread, I have been quite surprised how quiet it is on this thread. I know getting online with a newborn can be difficult, but I am missing the support. I know there are lots of local groups etc but just getting out to them can be a challenge.

Giz, I completely agree it is hard, so hard being a mum - I guess the consolation is you figured out the BF thing somewhat earlier than me. We are now playing catch up as the MW is a little concerned as Nina is still below her birth weight and is 3 weeks old tomorrow.

We did manage to get out to a mother & baby screening at our local cinema today which was quite an experience. It was a real scream-fest but not from my one, she was as good as gold. Mainly because she spent most of it on my boobs.

I'm missing the support too. I like the facebook group but get so frustrated with that unresponsive script error. I've tried everything to fix it.

MI3 I did phone the BF support line on day 3 where I was in tears down the phone and then I went to the free breastfeeding clinic on day 4 and again on day 9. So I've had a lot of support. The clinic was just brilliant and I'm sure I will go back in the future if need be.

sir_monster wrote: »

Giz def go to local support groups, baby cafes or childrens centres with baby groups as others will be bf so makes it easier can also ask about bf friendly places to go out to, a lot of places have 'rooms' like John Lewis, Ikea, Mothercare, M and S, Selfridges, Mamas and Papas (to name but a few) even some shopping centres and museums/libraries do - may be worth asking what they are like to as the JL tend to be good but the m and s one near me is a curtained off bit in the changing room (maybe not somewhere you want to be for an hour!). This means in the early days you could plan an outing close to these if you are worried. Now I just feed wherever but prefer somewhere lik starbucks as more comfy seats and free internet if t goes to sleep so can enjoy a coffee too. Good luck and remember by bf you never have to worry about taking out bottles, food is on tap!

I don't know how to go about finding support groups. I'm also really shy and get so worked up about going to places like that. My hairdresser mentioned looking into surestart, so I will have a google at that.

Ah yes I think I remember Debenhams in town has a BF room.

MERFE wrote: »

Giz it was around 2 weeks that I got my infection and it was so hard then to deal with Bobs grumpiness and he was so grumpy. I was in alot of pain and couldn't hold the baby near my chest so feeding him was really hard especially if he elbowed me in the boob - I cried alot. However since its all been sorted it has been soooooooooo much easier to cope with the grumpy baby and as the weeks have gone on he has got less grumpy too. Its hard enough anyway but when you are not well it just feels like its neverending but it does get easier and quite quickly too.

I can imagine everything will be so much easier to cope with when I'm 100%. I had the MW round this morning, she took some blood to test my iron levels. She thinks some of the tummy pain might be from the iron tablets - so if my levels are normal then I can stop them. She also said that some of the pain I'm getting is still SPD! I thought it had disappeared Up until about 4 days ago I had no pain whatsoever and now she's brought it up, it all fits into place - it kills to get out of bed or to stand up after a long time sitting etc. I also have a bruise near my clit which might explain the pain I'm getting there So maybe not an infection at all but just a mixture of lots of things making me miserable. Either way all things are being investigated so hopefully will get better soon.

The hardest thing I'm finding with breastfeeding right now is the fact that DD won't get her arms out of the way. I'm doing the hold where she's across my tummy, lets say she's on the left breast, the MW told me to get her right arm either below my belly or in a sort of superman position. But I can't move it! She always has it bent between my breasts. And this is stopping the perfect latch as I'm not getting her as close as I could. Also her other annoying habit is she puts her left hand right in front of her mouth just as she's about to latch on!

Do babies grow out of these annoying habits? She's just so fidgety.

Sorry for the self indulgent post - I will hopefully get to know you all a bit better over time...

Oh @MV - josh is so cute

gizmodo_2

sharkeybabe wrote: »

Hello. I'm coming over from the Pregnancy Thread, my daughter Sofia was born on Tuesday. Hope I can join you all.
I'm looking for a bit of advice if anyone can help, Sofia is 3 days old and we are having terrible trouble trying to settle her at night. During the day she sleeps and feeds well (bottled fed around every 3-4 hours) but at night time, she just screams the place down and we have had no sleep at all. I know that it is not her fault but I am getting frustrated as I dont know what is making her cry so much and I just want to help her. DH thinks she has colic as she has been getting the hiccups alot, but I thought she couldnt get that under 2-3 weeks old? Also she is slightly jaundiced - could this be affecting her?

Hope someone can share some light.
Thanks, a very tired Sharkeybabe xx

Hi Sharkey! Congrats on baby Sofia. We had/have the same problem. But we did have 3 nights in a row of no screaming - so I hope you get the same break we did. But she's back to screaming for 3 hours again at night (around 11pm - 2am). We think wind as she has her knees to her chest a lot. We just hold her upright as much as possible, she'll settle but the second we put her down again she's screaming. I also read that colic starts at about 3 weeks. We've been using Infacol (as suggested by midwife). Not sure it's really working though and she hates it. Sorry can't help much - but I do know how you are feeling. At day 3/4 I had the blues too so I was balling my eyes out every 5 minutes and getting very frustrated at Maddy.

Something that helped us was having Maddy downstairs and doing shifts. It made such a difference being able to get some quality sleep. I went to bed at 8pm, OH looked after baby downstairs. I fed Maddy at about 11pm. Then went back to sleep and then OH would wake me when she needed her next feed and we'd swap places. OH would then get solid sleep from about 3am - 10am. We both felt so much better for it. It's not ideal and maybe not good habits to get into, but it's early days.

sharkeybabe

Thanks Giz - and congrats again on Madeline. Glad I am not the only person going through this then I think its possibly wind as well as everytime she screams we burp her but the minute we put her back down she starts again, so will buy some infacol today when we go out, see if it makes a difference. I like the shifts idea, might try that tonight and see if it helps. We are all just getting used to each other I think.lol.

MERFE

congrat and welcome sharkeybabe x With the jaundice I think normally it peaks around 3-4 days so should start getting better now, however with the midwife visiting she should be able to judge if it requires going back to the hospital. We took bob to see the paediatrician when he was 4 days old because of an infection and they were more concerned with his jaundice, which meant lots of trips to the hospital for them to take blood and check his levels, he was at the cut off point when they started going down so didn't need any phototherapy and would never have gone through all the blood tests if he hadn't had an infection, the midwife said his jaundice looked about right for that age so she hadn't been concerned. I don't think this is what made Bob grumpy but he was grumpy. Not sure about the nights hope it settles a bit more for you soon. Only thing I'd say was to make sure you do ask the midwife or HV about any concerns you have, they are there to advice you.

Oh giz once you are back to normal it will be so much easier, hope they sort you out soon. I stopped my iron tablets early, they were causing me havoc with black tarry poos, constipation and tummy pain, so I hope your levels are normal and you can stop them too.

Ah MV josh is lovely, so alert. Bob just slept or cried at that age.

HV been, she has no concerns. She said she didn't hear me when I said he slept on his front, bless her. She said some with older siblings do develope either really fast or really slow. DS was really fast (probably because DD was so close in age to copy) which might be why I think Bob is a bit slow. He is now 14 weeks and 14lb 3oz and 60 cm. His weight jumped up a centile for his actual age but is still on the 75th when its adjusted and his length has jumped from being on the lowest centile to the 50th which is brilliant. I knew he was growing anyway because he had outgrown his clothes but its nice to see how much and be able to compare it. The hellish growth spurt he had now makes so much sense when you can see how much his length has grown, he probably had some growing pains along with the constant hunger.