MSE Parents Club Part 16

ethelsmum

Hope everyone is ok this morning, we had the sickness bug here yesterday. Fetched dd1 home from school a bit earlier as I was taking her to the drs, as soon as she saw me she burst in to tears and never stopped until she fell asleep at 7pm - complaining of her tummy hurting. About an hour later she was sick everywhere! Thankfully we had a good night without any more sick so fingers crossed she's on the mend.

OH is out all day today so just me and 3 kiddies - the mission is housework, about a million loads of washing and then ebaying (free listing weekend :money:), then tonight its takeaway and a :beer:.

Becles - hope you are feeling better soon x

Have a good weekend x

ethelsmum

tsstss7 wrote: »

Hope you get better soon Becles.

Ds2 has just come down with yet another cold - oh the joys!!

Am having problems with my oldest at the mo too <<sigh>> he's not working very hard at school these days (parents eve was awful/painful ) and now fallen out with his dad @(who is understandably concerned but slightly overbearing). Has made me aware that stuff if v. different now since when I was his age - There was none of the distractions kids today have around then and I'm never v. sure if I am being too lenient/strict enough when it comes to controlling them.

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How old is your eldest? My ds is 7 1/2 and I'm also never sure whether I am too strict/not strict enough so I tend not to be very consistent and he ends up getting away with murder lol. I have parents evening next week.

aless02

We were given Vit D drops. I never opened the box and somehow have since lost them :whistle: We're healthy & happy here!

tsstss7

ethelsmum wrote: »

How old is your eldest? My ds is 7 1/2 and I'm also never sure whether I am too strict/not strict enough so I tend not to be very consistent and he ends up getting away with murder lol. I have parents evening next week.

He is 13 :eek:.

The main problem is although I try to be consistant other people say I am too lenient generally - so then I end up wondering and worrying I am doing him a diservice by giving him too much freedom.

For example I generally relax rules at weekends as I see it as a time for relaxing and fun. I then get people telling me that he was posting on facebook past 11pm which i don't think is a massive big deal but obviously they do.

I think the main problem is he is growing up fast and I'm still used to the sweet generally good boy I had a few years ago lol. We never needed lots of rules then but suddenly he seems to need micro managing and I'm not sure how micro to beas I really want him to start to become more independant in some ways but also more RESPONSIBLE lol. HUMMM.

tsstss7

aless02 wrote: »

We were given Vit D drops. I never opened the box and somehow have since lost them :whistle: We're healthy & happy here!

After spending months and lots of agony trying (and finally succeding) to breast feed I was really offended when oh suggested I was now depriving ds2 because bf babies do not get enough vit d. As far as I am concerned provided he gets regular sun and a varied diet there is no reason why he should be deficient. I do use factor 50 etc but only about 5 days a year as most of the time I find no need.

As I'm due to have another in june I guess I'll have to try and find out more but can't at the mo. see areal need.

Make-it-3

aless02 wrote: »

We were given Vit D drops. I never opened the box and somehow have since lost them :whistle: We're healthy & happy here!

Somehow I think mine might have got lost down the back of the sofa too

Had the HV call me this morning to see if the child rearing techniques she recommended had had any impact. I put on my phone smile and was all politeness telling her what she wanted to hear. Inside my head was shouting "Back off you old witch". She even had the cheek to say that I am stuck with her for the next 5 years. Now where did I put my voodoo doll?

Becles

tsstss7 wrote: »

Am having problems with my oldest at the mo too <<sigh>> he's not working very hard at school these days (parents eve was awful/painful ) and now fallen out with his dad @(who is understandably concerned but slightly overbearing). Has made me aware that stuff if v. different now since when I was his age - There was none of the distractions kids today have around then and I'm never v. sure if I am being too lenient/strict enough when it comes to controlling them.

Does he have a planner for school?

Mine do and they have to write down any homework they get and teachers can write messages to me in it and vice versa.

Mine are 12 and 14. When they come in from school, they have to tell me what homework has been set that day and show me any notes from teachers. Notes for messing about in class get discussed and they know I'm not happy about getting them! Homework that has to be before the weekend has to be done that evening before they're allowed to do anything else. Also bedrooms have to be tidied if they've left anything on the floor etc.

On Saturdays they have to do all their homework (unless it's loads and I agree they can do some on Sunday) before they are allowed to do anything.

On Sundays they have to tidy, hoover and dust their rooms before they're allowed anything.

That way if they sit and faff about so 30 mins of homework takes them three hours, then it's three hours of their own xbox/facebook/playing out time they've wasted

I'm strict with bedtimes for James as he needs a lot of sleep and he plays up if he's tired. He's in bed by around 8pm but can read till 8.30pm. Sometimes let him have late nights on weekends and school holidays if we're watching a film or something. I'm more relaxed with Josh as he's mature enough to decide when he's tired and he goes to bed. Sometimes he's asleep by 8.30pm other nights he's up till about 10.30-11pm.

Josh wants to do an extra science GCSE next year which isn't timetabled and is a lot of work at home. Thought it best to be strict to get him used to doing the extra work at home.

delain

Becles I like your thinking.

Twins (6) have to tidy their rom before they come down at the weekend. Mostly they sit and whine 'It will take all day and I WANT MY BREAKFAST!' but we're getting there.

smartie12

tsstss7 wrote: »

He is 13 :eek:.

The main problem is although I try to be consistant other people say I am too lenient generally - so then I end up wondering and worrying I am doing him a diservice by giving him too much freedom.

For example I generally relax rules at weekends as I see it as a time for relaxing and fun. I then get people telling me that he was posting on facebook past 11pm which i don't think is a massive big deal but obviously they do.

I think the main problem is he is growing up fast and I'm still used to the sweet generally good boy I had a few years ago lol. We never needed lots of rules then but suddenly he seems to need micro managing and I'm not sure how micro to beas I really want him to start to become more independant in some ways but also more RESPONSIBLE lol. HUMMM.

My DS is 14 (nearly 15) and I can't say I have any problems with him. Internet is off for EVERYONE at 10pm at weekends... 9pm school nights. We are very consistent with "rules" not that we have silly strict rules as such. He's just recently started a volunteering job which I think is a great way to become independant and learning responsibilities. He also has jobs to do around the house for which he gets pocket money for.

I do feel very lucky to have such a lovely teenage son... but dreading when he starts going out at night:eek::rotfl:

Buttonmoons

I never got vitamin D drops, if I had I'd of necked em. Vitamin D is good for ya, we don't actually get enough of it, and people who take a lot of it are less likely to get poorly, so I've read.