MSE Parents Club Part 16

Becles

delain wrote: »

The only reason I hadn't posted on the original thread (the one that got merged in) is because my family circumstances have always been compliacted and unusual (normal is boring all right? )

So I din't feel I had much to offer the OP. Or I'd have just stuck my big nose in like usual

I didn't feel like I could add anything either as I've left mine with my parents from being small as I had to go back to work.

Metranil_Vavin wrote: »

At what age btw is it deemed ok to put a baby in their own room btw?

They say 6 months, but people tend to do what feels right. I can't sleep if the baby is in the room as I just lie dozing and listening out for them. Josh lasted the two nights in our room, then James and Charlotte went straight in their own room from birth. Others keep them in their rooms until pre-school age and beyond! Just depends on what you feel is the right thing to do.

tiamai_d wrote: »

Moonbeam, I've just spent another night in hospital with my DD after she once again decided to scare the life out of me.

Sounds awful. What happened? Hope she is ok now xx

The school has unsecured wifi and James can log into it with his phone. He got into trouble as I noticed him posting stupid comments on Facebook during school hours saying French was boring :mad:

I know it's naughty but I found it amusing too I didn't tell him that though!

Make-it-3

Couple of questions for today:

When do these crazy hormonal upsets stop please - OH found me twice yesterday just bawling my eyes out, it wasn't even about anything to do with me (firstly Amanda Holden's stillbirth baby and then the 19 year old pregnant girl who was killed) the thing is five minutes later we are having a laugh about my "hormones" and I recognise that its happening when I cry but am powerless to letting the tears come.

Also, we are having a better time of things these last couple of days but only because we have developed some naughty tactics to deal with DD's restlessness, co-sleeping at night so we disturb her as little as possible for feeding and today also started self-settling (probably leaving her a little longer than we really should to cry things out). Am I a really bad mummy, would it be better to attend to her "properly" but have the stress of sleep deprivation and OH and I screaming at each other????

tiamai_d

Becles, she had been up during the night since Thursday with a 'bad cold'. On Sunday after her nap (about 3pm) she woke up shaking, jittering, very high temperature, blue lips and harsh breathing. So I stripped her off, gave calpol (she is now allowed paracetamol after the liver incident back in Novermber) and called NHS24. While on hold to speak to a nurse she got worse so when the nurse answered I said I was taking her to A&E, nurse said she could hear her (crying and struggling to breath) and was organising an emergency ambulance. Gave her oxygen in the ambulance on route to hospital which helped her a lot. They decided to keep her in because her temperature wasn't coming down (40 at this point down from 40.5). Actually the doctor who sent her home with a tummy bug that was actually liver failure, decided to keep her in because, and I quote 'Amber has scared me once already and I'm not risking it again'. So she had a chest X-ray and blood tests (for viral and bacterial infections, general blood work and her liver function/platlet test just in case her liver was struggling again). X-ray and bloods suggest she has an upper respitary tract infection and her throat looks like she may have tonsilitis. Liver is fine (phew) and she's now home on antibiotics. She is a lot better now. She likes to keep us on our toes...

So my daughter is spoilt and precious and I don't give a flying F if people think I'm wrong to treat her as I do.

tiamai_d

Make-it-3 wrote: »

Couple of questions for today:

When do these crazy hormonal upsets stop please - OH found me twice yesterday just bawling my eyes out, it wasn't even about anything to do with me (firstly Amanda Holden's stillbirth baby and then the 19 year old pregnant girl who was killed) the thing is five minutes later we are having a laugh about my "hormones" and I recognise that its happening when I cry but am powerless to letting the tears come.

Also, we are having a better time of things these last couple of days but only because we have developed some naughty tactics to deal with DD's restlessness, co-sleeping at night so we disturb her as little as possible for feeding and today also started self-settling (probably leaving her a little longer than we really should to cry things out). Am I a really bad mummy, would it be better to attend to her "properly" but have the stress of sleep deprivation and OH and I screaming at each other????

Generally I found they got easier to deal with around 6 weeks, less frequent by 12 weeks and by now (18months) it's just dust... very dusty place, the world is. :cool: Lots of dust, making my eyes water :A

Let the tears come, it just lasts longer if you try and stop it.

Co-sleeping is awesome, it worked great for us, especially as I had two boys to get out to school/nursery the next morning. Self-settling is contraversial. Many of us have done it, many of us wouldn't do it. You do what you feel is right for you. Doesn't amke you a bad mummy at all so get that notion out you head.

It really does get easier.

Can you and OH work out a routine that means you both get a chance to nap or catch up on sleep?

MERFE

Make-it-3 wrote: »

Couple of questions for today:

When do these crazy hormonal upsets stop please - OH found me twice yesterday just bawling my eyes out, it wasn't even about anything to do with me (firstly Amanda Holden's stillbirth baby and then the 19 year old pregnant girl who was killed) the thing is five minutes later we are having a laugh about my "hormones" and I recognise that its happening when I cry but am powerless to letting the tears come.

Also, we are having a better time of things these last couple of days but only because we have developed some naughty tactics to deal with DD's restlessness, co-sleeping at night so we disturb her as little as possible for feeding and today also started self-settling (probably leaving her a little longer than we really should to cry things out). Am I a really bad mummy, would it be better to attend to her "properly" but have the stress of sleep deprivation and OH and I screaming at each other????

Doesn't sound like you are doing anything wrong to me. I've never co-slept but plenty of people do as they find it easier especially if breastfeeding. I did have to leave DD probably longer than was necessary to cry it out too, if she is settling then I think its fine it must just be an unwinding cry, I couldn't leave bob as he would get worked up and the middle one never cried but DD always cried herself to sleep till she was about 3. You and OH need your sleep so you can look after her well and don't feel guilty for getting it.
Re the tears absolutely normal especially in the first couple of weeks. I found it got better after 2 weeks but carried on being a little emotional every now and then till bobs was about 10 weeks but everyone is different and different after each baby too.

Make-it-3

tiamai_d wrote: »

Can you and OH work out a routine that means you both get a chance to nap or catch up on sleep?

We take turns during the day, but at night its difficult, if she's up and crying then neither of us can get any kip.

Also he goes back to work on Friday (which I'm dreading) so we need to find some way in which I can manage on my own during the day and also minimise the disruption at night. OH has only just started a highly-pressurised new job so I want to be able to make things as easy as possible for him to get back into that without him falling asleep at his desk in the afternoons.

Claire_Jones_3

Hi all,
I've been part of the parent club for a long while and completely lost track of it but I'm coming back if you'l have me?
My name is Claire, I've got two boys Charlie 3yrs and Reece 20mths

got-it-spend-it

Metranil_Vavin wrote: »

At what age btw is it deemed ok to put a baby in their own room btw?

Official advise is to share with parents until six months, and I believe this is based on research that showed being in the same room for that long had a positive impact on SIDS rates. We managed six months but I must admit I slept better once H went into his own room!

redmel1621

Claire_Jones wrote: »

Hi all,
I've been part of the parent club for a long while and completely lost track of it but I'm coming back if you'l have me?
My name is Claire, I've got two boys Charlie 3yrs and Reece 20mths

I forgot how close in age Reece is to my ds3..he was March 2009:D

How is he getting on??

ethelsmum

Evening all :wave:. Just waiting for OBEM at 9pm.