Mooloo's New Home, New Year and New Start part 3

Savvy_Sue

Well, I have tried googling and I can't say I've got very far, so I shall have to await EE's pictures!

BTW, I was going to say that if you can't reach to clean the crayon off Mooloo, you could wait until DGD's mum comes and get her to do it. Or even get DGD to do it, not with a can of hairspray, but maybe try some of the other suggestions, or squirt some hairspray onto a cloth for her. Maybe if she has to clear up, she'll learn not to do it!

Thrifty_Sister

Eager_Elephant wrote: »

When the saddles (coats) arrive I will post a picture on and off my lovely turkeys!!!

EE

Thought nothing could surprise me these days lol but coats for turkeys....................

The mind boggles!!

Savvy_sewing

Evening All,
Finally BF braved it, and came to see me to talk last night. He did jokingly ask me to be gentle with him. However, I did give him the full breakdown of how I was feeling. Why, how it had slowly drip drip, chipped away at me, and how I felt I had lost myself along the way.
He did put up his point of view, and some of which I told him was fair enough, and others that was not. We talked for several hours. He was incredulous that his actions had made me feel this way. But give him his due, he listened, he talked, and he has agreed to proceed differently from now on.
I am warey of course, that that may not happen, but I have told him I will give it this option. If he hides behind texting, if he ignores me, or puts me down, then that will be the very last time he does it. I told him that I was not sure I was strong enough to go through anything else. He actually listened to my reasons over my family, as well. He also admitted that he had lived with his ex wife for 8 years! (not the 4 I thought), knowing she was playing around, and not discussing it, or confronting it, becuase he didnt want to loose his children. It never occurred to him, that his ignoring her, and her actions were adding fuel to the fire.
He was dumfounded that both her and I had found him trying to be controlling. etc.
He continues to not understand that I have male friends, and that they would not want me, if I was to give them the come on.
He thought I was still "behind his back" if I didnt talk about any contact I may have had. It was a long and difficult discussion at times. Late late into the night. So I will be needing an early night tonight.
Problems with the family, etc were discussed. So I said to him, that I had to put up with an awful lot of horrid stuff from his children over the years, and still I stayed at his, went out for meals etc etc with them. but that he didnt know what they used to be like to me in the beginning.
there was probably an awful lot more discussed that I cannot remember now. It will come back to me, at some stages no doubt.
Anyway we will see.
Although when he left and gave me a hug, I felt as if there was something in me, that was missing. Maybe it was just a brick wall I had started to build over the week, and was not prepared to let my guard down completely. He did explain that he got fed up of being at work, working his butt off to pay his bills etc, and here I was at home, enjoying the garden etc, and doing my running around etc, and I pointed out that I would rather be working my butt off, then to have the continual Pain that I am in.
That also brought up that he finds it annoying that I do the things that I do, like driving the twins here and there, etc, then I suffer for it later.
I said I am trying not to give in, and to just keep on going. That its my choice.

For the first time in many years he actually talked to me.

Today I actually got a Happy Mothers Day text off of DS, and then a call from twin2 followed a while later from twin1. Then twin2 and DS came around for a few minutes with a card and some chocolates for me, (from twin2). Biggest of Mooloo and I caught up at my Mums this afternoon. She gave me a card, and then DGD produced a card and a Mug, with I love grandma on, and the card was for grandma on mothers day. So Biggest had organised that.
It really made my day.

I had done some gardening this morning. So the usual aches and pains are kicking in. I see a hot bath later, and my heat pads are about to go in the microwave now that dinner is over.

I gave my Mum some choccys in a bag that I had made from one of the napkins I had, and the picture on it was of a place in Germany that I didnt know. Mum was thrilled, she and Dad had been to the exact town in Germany on thier holidays with thier best friends a few years ago. You would have thought i had given her the moon. It was really just the bag I was using as a gift bag!

MatyMoo

Sounds like an interesting and long awaited discussion Mooloo! I do hope BF has been given food for thought and that he makes some changes. He deserves some brownie points for facing up to things in person - especially if he has been reading what some of us have been saying :rotfl: :wave: Just in case!

How lovely that all Mum's and Granny's have been acknowledged in a way that makes them happy too

Savvy_sewing

MatyMoo wrote: »

Sounds like an interesting and long awaited discussion Mooloo! I do hope BF has been given food for thought and that he makes some changes. He deserves some brownie points for facing up to things in person - especially if he has been reading what some of us have been saying :rotfl: :wave: Just in case!

How lovely that all Mum's and Granny's have been acknowledged in a way that makes them happy too

I am not sure he has been reading this thread. (previous yes, so could have been lead to here if he had tried,), but last night he said that he no longer followed it. But that he used to say I would tell total strangers things I didnt tell him.
I said that I started to tell total strangers becuase I couldnt talk to him! Also that as i had been on the move so often, I have never really had a good friend base to call on when things happened. Then when I tried to tell him things, I used to write really long emails to him. He reckons that he didnt have enough time to read them so scimmed them. So I stopped sending them.
Anyway, we really did delve in quite deeply to the things that have been causing us such a lot of grief.

Whether or not he can come to grips with my ex husband talking to me occasionally, or my path crossing with another ex I am not sure. That will really be the crunch.
Why he doesnt comment on my appearance etc anymore, was a little tricker, and when i said that I no longer wore make up except with him, he was surprised, he didnt notice. Thought I neve used to wear it! And me an Avon Lady once! What do you think?

Oh well we will see as time goes by. Lets see if the phone rings and we talk. Lets see if he reverts to form if I mention a man has spoken to me.
Only then will things change.

Savvy_sewing

Morning,
Well a weird and dream full night. Dont actually feel very refreshed. Its later then I would normally be, as DGD has still to wake. I have an alarm set for 7.30 for just incase we sleep in. Well I used it this morning!.
I must get moving very soon, or we wont be ready for Nursery, but as I personally do not have an adgenda where I need to dash around like a mad thing, then I can do all but get dressed after nursery.
Just having a cup of tea, and a catch up, with things first.
Todays aim is to make some space in my bedroom. Slowly but surely the boxes have been delved into and they are now encrouching on my sleeping space far too much.!
Tomorrow hopefully my new matteress will arrive, so I will also need to makesure that there is room to manouver both matteresses up and down!.
For that purpose I have asked twin1 to change her visit day from Tuesday to today. So that she is here to help with the actually moving of the matteresses. She actually said yes without a quib!! crikey!.

When that all done, I need to play around with some material and draft up a pattern to see if I can make a bag thats been requested. I hope so, but on paper its sounding very complicated!, and practise with my nemisis the Zip!. I hate Zips. Possibly becuase when I was working in my old sewing business replacement zips were a nightmare to do. (Once a garment is fully made, its harder to put in a zip, then it is during the actual construction of something!). So of late I have steered clear if I can. Although I have put a zip in the lining of one of the bags I did recently.

OH well lets face my fears!.
Have a good day everyone.

Savvy_sewing

Ha, spent the morning on my budget instead. Had to pay off Homebase by today, and struggled to get it sorted on line, and had to call in the end.!
Not happy with myself for a start, I am not getting my spread sheet right, so the homebase card wasnt even on my budget!. but i also noticed that my final figures were in the wrong columns etc etc. So I have wasted ages trying to sort it out, and of course I am not getting anywhere fast.
I am now going to have lunch. Switch off, and I will try very hard to relax before i strangle the laptop. I hate spreadsheets.

Savvy_sewing

Oh dear, I am not such a happy bunny,
I have done quite a bit of work, paperwork and computer based today as the sciatica hit in.
I had to collect Twin1 at lunchtime. Which actually turned out to be okay, as it meant that Icould have a rest and she went to collect DGD for me.
I spoke to DS. I gave him a dead line of this evening to make up his mind if he was going to go to college etc or not. Alas the reply is not.
He also told me that he is moving in with twin2. So I have now got to change my housing benefit/council tax benefit, and my taxcredits and Child benefit. This will affect the budget even harder and I am not going to be able to help any of the family anymore.
Then twin2 rang me to tell me she had run out of electric, used up the emergency button, and was I going over there. I said NO. NO I AM NOT GOING TO GO OVER AND NO I DO NOT HAVE THE MONEY TO GIVE HER. So she could ask someone else, or use candles tonight. But of course that means that she cannot cook.
I already gave her some food yesterday. I also borrowed the change off of my Mum to give her the busfare to go and sign on today.!

So I am really annoyed today.

On the plus side, I managed to book my spa day, that Biggest of Mooloo bought me for Christmas. It runs out soon, so I have had too.
Hoping that Molly will be well enough to come with me, and we get a glorious pampering!.

minimoneysaver

Well done for standing up to her. Maybe a night in the dark is what she needs as a wake up call? I know she has learning problems, but probably all the more reason for her to learn from experience. One night won't do them any harm as it is not due to fall below 8 degrees tonight. You mustn't feel bad or blame yourself. I did have one thought about the twins.... have they ever worked? If they are able, the likes of ASDA are great with employing people with various disabilities, I know our local store does. They must be bored during the day.

Eager_Elephant

Well these are the lovely saddles Mooloo has made for my turkeys:



This is the front.



This is the back.



One of my turkeys modelling!!



My husband dressing another one!



Here are two of my stags, as you can see they are massive in comparison to the females which is why the females need the saddles to protect their backs!!



Here are a few more females - some have already got plain saddles but hopefully they will all soon have designer ones!!!

EE