Mooloo's New Home, New Year and New Start part 3

Savvy_sewing

thorsoak wrote: »

You're still doing it - you just can't help yourself can you :cool::rotfl:

Twin 1's mess ....Twin 1's problem .....NOT YOURS!!! Your poor arm & shoulder!

You really do have to think of yourself my dear!

Oh I know, but I cannot bear to see the chaos that they live in. Due to their problems they get to a stage where they do not know what to do next so Stop.! I did have her picking up rubbish etc and sorting out the front room, and then got her to dry up the dishes so it was not all my doing. But I do know what you mean.
I ended up doing a little bit of driving for twin2 this lunchtime as well. Taking her and her friend to the post office and back home again. It didnt take long, but again it was more driving, my petrol. Then in the afternoon they wanted me to pick them up to come and use the telephone. I made them walk around.
I did let them use the phone, but that shouldnt cost me anything on the package I am on.
Then they hung around for a couple of hours which did annoy me, and think Molly's Daughter who was here helping with DGD.
We didnt really have any room to do anything.!
At least they went, and had a lift from one of the BF's! I think they might have been angling for me to drive them again! But I made a point of talking about my Pain, and my sciatica, and it did actually send me one of those sharpe pains that shoots down the leg! So they got the message! Not that they should have needed to mind you!.:o
Oh well it is now DGD and myself. Bath and Bedtime for her, and then not long after its going to be my bedtime too.

EE. I have bought some black tape on the internet so that i can have a go at the turkey coats. Will catch up with you soon.:D

Savvy_sewing

Errata wrote: »

Sorry to read about the BF trouble again. TBH if he's jealous and controlling and not particularly interested in your life and only communicates by text instead of manning up and having a face to face - there may be better fish in the sea. Who knows what the future might hold.

At the moment, I can do with out any of the "fish in the sea!".
I really am not good at choosing Men! I seem to have failed dismally in this department.! Too trusting, too loving, and too hurt!
I shall decide what to do, eventually.
At the moment Anger, hurt and pride are keeping me going.!
My Mooloo sewing will keep me busy as does the family.
Tomorrow is a hectic day.
Its my turn to go and see the boys! Yipee. We get an hour with them, but then we have to go on to see twin2's solicitor. They have asked for me to be there. this means that the news that they are to impart to twin2 is not going to be good, or is very complicated.
So its going to be a very taxing time, I fear.
I will have an early night, I hope, so that i can gain the strength and the willpower to get through tomorrow. Put my relatinships on the back burner for a while.
BF will just have to wait for his fate until I am sure if I want to leave it or put up with it!.
If he had appologiesed it might have made a difference. But only texting is not working for me. Be it that i am a prolific writer, I still would prefer he dealt with this problem on a face to face basis.

Right time to sort out DGD.(you should have seen her face, as I took my eyes off of her while she ate her mince and noodles! Tomato sauce all over her face and hands! Oops!)

Savvy_sewing

Its some ungodly time of the early hours, and I cannot sleep. I have been tossing around for the last couple of hours and decided that I would be better off getting up and moving around, having a cup of tea or something and then trying again.
My brain is in a whirl. When is it not? But this time all my sleep therapy stuff is not helping me. My neck is giving me horrendous gyp. My fault from working in the morning no doubt.
This morning i have masses of driving (well for me), to do, and I am not looking forward to the resulting effects later this evening!. Especially if I am struggling now. Thursday is the one day that I do not have any help with DGD at all.
Oh well thats life I suppose. i am very very lucky that I have managed to have the Nursery and Molly's daughter, and we have sort of help from her Mum on Tuesday evenings/Friday mornings.
Cannot help tossing around thinking of what my DS is upto, what he is throwing away, and whether or not I should follow through with the threats to stop his allowance etc etc. He is already slagging me off around the town he is in. (It is worrying that the one and only proper friend he has, from the family from hell, is looking down the barrell of a custodial sentance in a few months, for possibly 3 years, for fighting, amongst other history of GBH?. what will DS do then when he is not with this lad? He has given up all his other friends, his education, and put his relationship with me in an untenable position.? I am not sure I want to pay out £95 for a bus pass next term if he is not going to college for a start!
If he is not, then I will have to work out my Tax credits, and this is playing on my mind.
I also have a few sewing things now on the go, and want to put my efforts into that, and do what I enjoy. It would also be nice to have a little spending money for our holiday. (Well I do have about £110 put away, and I can use my £300 in my ISA) but I would rather not touch the ISA be it only a small amount of money. I try and use that as my emergency fund. (Hence its so low!).

I am still in a quandry as to what to do about my BF.
Last night, as we finally broke communication "silence" since the early hours of the morning. Still only via texts mind you. He still doesnt see what all my Fuss is about, and that I am blowing things out of preportion, but he says that I am not seeing his point of view. How can I see his point of view if he will not tell me? What point of view can thier be in acquising me of "seeking out other mens attention behind his back" if I am no where even near any men? Except that on Friday morning thier was a man behind the bar in the club when I collect DGD from her Mum? I agree he is a man I used to date, 15 years ago. But he is there with his wife. Its just a small town. I cannot help bump into people from my passed occasionally. But I was not seeking out his company or anything sinister at all. for one i am not interested in other men. For two I am harrassed and exhausted, and the last thing on my mind would be a blooming love trist! And its not on the barmans mind either!

anyway, I would love to see what BF's reasonings are, why etc, and if he would actually tell me his point of view, and then I could work it out, maybe things would not be blown out of all proportion.
Molly will tell you, that I try to see everyones side of things before I make any decisions. That I am constantly on about my BF and that I am not a man crazy woman! Where would I find the time? energy or inclination is really beyond me.

Anyway, I am now nearly finished my cup of tea. I am off to get my heat pad and try to switch my brain off! If you know what I mean.
I may be lucky and get a couple of hours sleep before its time for DGD to wake.
Who knows?

rolo-polo1965

Hope you managed to go back to bed and get some sleep Mooloo!

I have been awake since 4am, couldn't get back to sleep so came on here for a bit! Know i will be tired at work tomorrow but there is nothing i can do about it. I just can not sleep at the moment!

Hope you have a good time seeing your Grandsons in the morning!

Molly41

Hugs my friend. Enjoy the boys and hope things go well with the appointment. Im thinking of you x

gizmo111

Everyone's sleep goes a bit odd when the clocks change even though it doesn't make sense.
Regards the BF Mooloo all I can say is he sounds just like my ex-husband always accusing me of chasing other men (not sure where I was supposed to get the energy but hey ho) - he used to be worse on days when I had to go to court etc so made an effort to dress smarter for work - the sulks and tantrums were unbearbale that's one of many good reasons why he is the ex! - Like I wanted to attract a crusty old judge :eek:

I should imagine the solicitor has final evidence from the Social worker and will need twin2 to submit a statement in response - is she planning to contest the adoption? When is next court date?

I see you are keen to get the SG through for DGD - a couple of points to bear in mind - make sure you have agreement for cash for the garden and be aware that fostering payments will stop on the day the order is made and you will have to wait for CB and CTC to make up your money - so be careful with the budget as it could take up to 6 weeks. Sometimes we continue to pay for a couple of weeks whilst you put the claims in place but there is still likely to be a gap.

Maybe with DS wait until ( a long time I know) his mate has been sentenced and if he gets a custodial then it may shock him into sense also by then the little children should all be sorted and you will know how to organise your week better.

Take Care x

Savvy_sewing

Sound advice as ever Gizmo, thanks.
I am sure that twin2 will apose the adoption but for what good it will do her. I will see what the solicitor says today. Her last meeting was about the phsycriatic report and it was a terrible meeting for us. This is the first time the Soilicitor has asked for me to attend. Last time I was told I couldnt as I was nt part of the proceedings, but had to call me in, when twin2 was such a state.
So I predict bad reactions.

I am running very late as I did fall asleep, in the last hour or so before my alarm at 7.30!!

right shower time, I dont want the boys to think granny is a smelly old granny!

Savvy_sewing

We are back from the visit to the boys and the solicitors. Alas a very bitter sweet day. It was lovely to see the boys. They are a delight. The two 3 year olds hugging and kissing each other, was endearing. The baby is walking around now, practically running. He is alert and so happy.
alas at the solicitors we have now been advised that the reports against twin2 are really rather damming and that they do not think it was worth the Pain of dragging her through the long court cases, when the end result would really be enevitable against her. So twin2 has decided to give her statement saying that she will no longer contest the council, and will give the boys her blessing to be adopted really. She was gutted but I think that a drawn out court case would really have destroyed her. We are now resigned to the story books and the letterbox system. Something that I have the books on and will now need to study.
I am now home, tired, sore and pretty drained at having to be strong for twin2.

Eager_Elephant

Not sure what to say about the solicitors meeting to make a difference but wanted to let you know that I am thinking of you all.

(((Mooloo & family)))

EE

gizmo111

Mooloo wrote: »

We are back from the visit to the boys and the solicitors. Alas a very bitter sweet day. It was lovely to see the boys. They are a delight. The two 3 year olds hugging and kissing each other, was endearing. The baby is walking around now, practically running. He is alert and so happy.
alas at the solicitors we have now been advised that the reports against twin2 are really rather damming and that they do not think it was worth the Pain of dragging her through the long court cases, when the end result would really be enevitable against her. So twin2 has decided to give her statement saying that she will no longer contest the council, and will give the boys her blessing to be adopted really. She was gutted but I think that a drawn out court case would really have destroyed her. We are now resigned to the story books and the letterbox system. Something that I have the books on and will now need to study.
I am now home, tired, sore and pretty drained at having to be strong for twin2.

I'm glad she made that decision as a court case would most likely stretch over 5 -8 days and would be horribly painful and unlikely to get a different result. Now you need to concentrate on what time you have left with the boys and do them some life story work to take with them when they go to their new family.

You take care the real emotionally harrowing stuff is to come for you all.
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