Mooloo's New Home, New Year and New Start part 3

Savvy_sewing

He had an opportunity to come and talk to me today, as he has the day off of work, and DGD is in nursery. But he has declined and is hiding behind the text messages once more.
I am flabbergasted with him now.! I think this may have to be terminal, as its just going to rear its ugly head all the time.!
I have poured out my love to him for 7 years (well nearly), and I get this on and off bad treatment too much. I have a bad enough time of things with the family. I dont need this from him. I think Molly is right. I do not deserve this treatment, and I dont think I am going to put up with it anymore.
(Mind you when I was angry last year I said that, but I was feeling as if I was drowning in all the rigmarole with my family etc and loosing him seemed I would have nothing left.). I do not feel that way today.
I have a lovely home to make here for DGD and myself. I have a garden to attend to, and I have a new business to create, and put my time into.
My love and attention can go into them.
I am as you say, going to be better off without him if this is the way things are going to be. I dont want to end it over a text message, but I may not have much choice.
We will see where my reslove takes me over the next few days/weeks?
Meanwhile I have sewing to do.

~Chameleon~

Big hugs to you Mooloo :grouphug:

Reading your last post, I think you've already made your decision, and for what it's worth I think it's the right one. As Molly said, you deserve far better than this from your BF, he's had so many chances already and he's not going to change now.

Time to move on and concentrate on you, DGD, your home & garden. Everyone else can go take a running jump and sort themselves out for once

Savvy_sewing

Thanks. Molly has been to see me and has heard the various messages that have been to and fro with my BF over the last 24 hours.
It is crazy. I think that I have as you say made my decision. Although it is a scarey one, and will I hold my resolve? I will try anyway.
I jut need to think of the previous episodes, and realise that things are just not going to be any better. How often do I forgive and forget, then get "abused" by the ill treatment when he doesnt like what he hears, makes a wrong judgement and treats me like a lepa! No I am not going to get an apology, and he will not change anymore.
I am saddened at his way of thinking., Saddened at the effort I have put into trying to keep our relationship alive while we live apart!.

Anyway, I have a few jobs to do now, and little time to do it in. So I better get on.

candygirl

Snding you massive (((huggles)))) hun:A Jealousy is an awful thing, and I think he is being v immature and selfish:mad:I am going through a bad time myself with my not so DD, and my OH is being a rock.If he wasn't supporting me i'd get rid tbh;)

supermezzo

Personally, I wouldn't do anything about him for a few days. As you say, you've more than got your hands full most of the time anyway, so try and enjoy the garden and sunshine with DGD, sew some more bags and enjoy the springtime.
Let the dust settle, then see how you feel and what you want to do about him.

Skint_Lynne

Hugs Mooloo,

I hope things get a bit better soon, men can be idiots at times, my DH threw a hissy a few weeks back for nowt, he did apologise after though so that's something.

Try and focus on your sewing and also get out in the sunshine with the wee one, that will make things seem a bit better.

xxxx

Thrifty_Sister

I too Mooloo think that you are in the right (or certainly better) place now and know what is the right thing to do for yourself and DGD. You have so much ahead of you to deal with - you need your strength and resources for your self, DGD and the rest of the family without a selfish man taking out of you as well. You need - and deserve - somebody who is strong for you to lean on when the going gets tough rather than somebody who makes your situation worse by behaving in this manner.

Savvy_sewing

supermezzo wrote: »

Personally, I wouldn't do anything about him for a few days. As you say, you've more than got your hands full most of the time anyway, so try and enjoy the garden and sunshine with DGD, sew some more bags and enjoy the springtime.
Let the dust settle, then see how you feel and what you want to do about him.

Thats probably sound advice supermezzo. I will let the dust settle a bit.
Normal everyday trouble at mill with the children has kicked in anyway. DS has not gone to college again. He answered twin1's telephone when I rang her at 3pm. He was monosylabic and was not going to be coming home. Reckons he has left his bus pass at the other twins again. So he didnt learn his lesson from the previous week.
I have told him that his money from me is going to stop. (I know I forgot to do it before yesterday!). That I cannot keep funding him, or the others for that matter.
I tried twin1 on her mobile. She wants me to still go and collect her, but she had "forgotten" and gone to town for friend of DS's to sign on. (In a mates car so she didnt have to go. She is no longer putting her daughter first.) DGD came home with a mothers day card. I feel a bit peeved that I do all the mothering and she will get the card!.
So it just shows that I am sick to the back teeth of all of my family and not so family at the moment.
Twin2 is not at home, and is not answering her mobile or her house phone.
So I am ready to spit tacks really!.
I think that I have been pushed to the limits!

Anyway there are poeple worse off then me out there, and its been good to do a few good things for someothers lately.

Time to go and collect Twin1, but only for DGD's sake!
I may retire to my bedroom early tonight. So as to avoid arguing. Well it works for BF, bury his head in the sand, so maybe it will work for me!.

supermezzo

Mooloo wrote: »

Thats probably sound advice supermezzo.

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

There's first for everything I suppose....:D

whiteguineapig

i think i would turn my phone off and let them all get on with it !