Mooloo's New Home, New Year and New Start part 3

Savvy_sewing

Morning, I had a reasonable night and feel much better today.
Running late as have had my shower, just before DGD woke up.
Breakfast has been done, but DGD is not eating.
Time for me to get dressed and get her clothes ready. Hopefully she will eat her breakfast as she has Nursery today and she will be hungry by lunchtime if she doesnt eat!.
I hope to do some housework this morning, its sort of advancing in on me, as my sewing has sort of taken over the front room! Oops.
Although I still want to start some sample jobs today. Play with fabrics etc etc
We will see how the day pans out.

Thrifty_Sister

Just wanted to say Mooloo that I think your moses basket cover set looks lovely and the black bag looks great to. I hope you have a good productive day today - sorry that BF is being a bit tricky atm. Its just another worrying circumstance that you could well do without.

Savvy_sewing

Thrifty_Sister wrote: »

Just wanted to say Mooloo that I think your moses basket cover set looks lovely and the black bag looks great to. I hope you have a good productive day today - sorry that BF is being a bit tricky atm. Its just another worrying circumstance that you could well do without.

Thanks for the vote of confidence. I have since made a padded layer to go underneath the gingham of the basket. Then I am going to make another top layer, so it can be used when one is in the wash!.
I have quite a bit of the black fabrics that I used for the bag, so I will probably be creating with it a bit more, although at the moment I think lighter summer bags may be also the way to go.

DGD is in Nursery. She finally ate half of her cereal, but drank a glass of milk too. She said to me that Nursery was "boring" ooh dear.

I have put out the recycling into their respective boxes. They sort of take over the kitchen. I have a small box under my chair in the kitchen, but it soon overflows!.

Under the diningroom chairs and tables, (actually in my front room now as no diningroom here), are carrier bags, and boxes with fabric etc in. My Mum and Dad have been having a clear out, and its all coming my way! Curtains mainly, but they have masses of fabrics in them! Along with that, are the pieces of fabrics I have been playing with. I really need to find a better way of keeping them, so I can access them easily but then they are not taking over the front room.! I think I really need to get my bedroom blitzed (again!), and try and get more of the boxes out of the way!. I keep leaving it till I am stronger, but of course I never really am stronger. With DS talking about leaving home completely he is not about to help me!.

BF wants his independance, and it doesnt look like having a 3 year old is always suitable to the life style that he wants. I have to adapt I suppose, but I am not easily. I sometimes wonder if I was not so amenable to go there, I would probably have more time to myself as he doesnt seem to go out of his way as much as i do. But we have been here before, and worse. Everyone has disagreements after all. I suppose I have three choices, I can either like it or lump it or do something about it and walk! Which seems a bit drastic becuase I am miffed with him.
I will just have to start carving a life for DGD and myself and if I put a few noses out, then that will just have to be it.

Time to finish my cup of tea, and get on with the sittingroom. Kitchen is done. Bathroom is done.
(sort of, well good enough).:o

Thrifty_Sister

Mooloo re your BF - do you think it would help your situation if he had a bit of space? Sometimes you only realise what you have got when they are not there and it might help him to focus more on what he has got in you and DGD.

Savvy_sewing

Thrifty_Sister wrote: »

Mooloo re your BF - do you think it would help your situation if he had a bit of space? Sometimes you only realise what you have got when they are not there and it might help him to focus more on what he has got in you and DGD.

We had about 7 weeks space last year, around about June/July time. He missed my birthday (well he did still leave me a present in the greenhouse!). I am going to back off though as he is not actually helping my situation. I am going to concentrate on seeing if I can make my sewing into a business. I think that I will not go over so often, and see what happens.
If I wasnt so stupidly in love i wouldnt mind. But I have put up with so much for the last 7 years that I sometimes wonder if it is really worth it. I work so hard to make sure that the relationship is working, but I sometimes wish I didnt have to work so hard!.

supermezzo

I wonder if he's seen the recent problems with the twins and is more worried than needing his own space? He knows tha toll it takes on you and how it alters his time with you and so maybe he's just putting some distance between him and that situation, rather than him and you?

Savvy_sewing

supermezzo wrote: »

I wonder if he's seen the recent problems with the twins and is more worried than needing his own space? He knows tha toll it takes on you and how it alters his time with you and so maybe he's just putting some distance between him and that situation, rather than him and you?

he really no longer wants to know what the twins and DS are up to, and keeps his distance from all but DGD.
He seems to have accepted her, but its still at a distance, and seems to be just when it suits him.
I have decided to back off a bit. Concentrate on finding out if its worth sewing as a small business maybe. If I have something positive to talk about maybe that will help.
He doesnt seem to be interested in what I do, dispite my always trying to tell him.
He hadnt even told me until Friday that he had these two days off. When I had recently asked about time for a holiday he had said go by myself. Well Molly41 and I are going in 2 weeks time. So he will get his wish! I dont get to see him during the week anymore. Once we would see each other on a Wednesday, but not these days.
His work is intense, but then he finishes and is home by 5pm.
He only had his daughter back at home, and she is 18 in a few days. The boys are at University and the other one is working for Jamie Olivers restuarants and lives away.
So he has plenty of Time. But usually I go and see him, or he comes to me. But it seems that he would rather relax without me this time. Fair enough, its just the way he cold shouldered me this weekend, and I ended up coming home at 10am. Something is up, but he wont talk about it.
Anyway. I have spent the morning investigating or trying to , what I need to do if I want to have a small business, how it will effect my ESA, and what if any grants I could get. however Working Links are closing down in a month so cannot take me on.
Business links dont know about Benefits.
Jobcentre plus are not sure and will have to wait and see what the government puts in place as we are "all up in the air" at the moment. Well that was a pretty wasted time really.

I have now only an hour and a bit to sew.! Very frustrating.
Story of my life. I will get used to it. Well I suppose actually I have.
Twin1 rang wanting funds.?!!!!!!
Twin2 rang asking me to see the solicitor with her on Thursday.
So need to work out my days again for that one.
Time to get their respective laminated charts etc sorted out. That will be something I can do when DGD is about. I hope.

thorsoak

Mooloo wrote: »

he really no longer wants to know what the twins and DS are up to, and keeps his distance from all but DGD.
He seems to have accepted her, but its still at a distance, and seems to be just when it suits him.
I have decided to back off a bit. Concentrate on finding out if its worth sewing as a small business maybe. If I have something positive to talk about maybe that will help.
He doesnt seem to be interested in what I do, dispite my always trying to tell him.
He hadnt even told me until Friday that he had these two days off. When I had recently asked about time for a holiday he had said go by myself. Well Molly41 and I are going in 2 weeks time. So he will get his wish! I dont get to see him during the week anymore. Once we would see each other on a Wednesday, but not these days.
His work is intense, but then he finishes and is home by 5pm.
He only had his daughter back at home, and she is 18 in a few days. The boys are at University and the other one is working for Jamie Olivers restuarants and lives away.
So he has plenty of Time. But usually I go and see him, or he comes to me. But it seems that he would rather relax without me this time. Fair enough, its just the way he cold shouldered me this weekend, and I ended up coming home at 10am. Something is up, but he wont talk about it.
Anyway. I have spent the morning investigating or trying to , what I need to do if I want to have a small business, how it will effect my ESA, and what if any grants I could get. however Working Links are closing down in a month so cannot take me on.
Business links dont know about Benefits.
Jobcentre plus are not sure and will have to wait and see what the government puts in place as we are "all up in the air" at the moment. Well that was a pretty wasted time really.

I have now only an hour and a bit to sew.! Very frustrating.
Story of my life. I will get used to it. Well I suppose actually I have.
Twin1 rang wanting funds.?!!!!!! I hope you said no??????

Twin2 rang asking me to see the solicitor with her on Thursday.
So need to work out my days again for that one.
Time to get their respective laminated charts etc sorted out. That will be something I can do when DGD is about. I hope.

I'm sorry that things aren't going right with the B/F Mooloo - but I think you are right - build up your own resources - and you are doing well with that. The fact that you are going away with Molly in a couple of weeks will reinforce the fact that you are an independent soul to your B/F - and that, in itself, may reassure him somewhat.

In the meantime, carry on with your ideas and sewing - don't forget, if you really get going, you could always get somebody else to do some of the bits that drag you down physically - after all, the great designers aren't still running up their own dresses!

minimoneysaver

Hi Mooloo, I see things aren't going well with your BF again. I suppose one thing you can do is look back to your holiday last year and also to the times he takes DGD off to cook and play. Those are the good times. Family life is chaotic and maybe by listening he feels that you want him to do something about it as most men are problem solvers whereas most women are listeners. I guess what I'm trying to say is I see (from what you write) how much you love and care for him and it doesn't seem to be one sided. Give him a chance and take your space for now to see what happens. xxx

Savvy_sewing

minimoneysaver wrote: »

Hi Mooloo, I see things aren't going well with your BF again. I suppose one thing you can do is look back to your holiday last year and also to the times he takes DGD off to cook and play. Those are the good times. Family life is chaotic and maybe by listening he feels that you want him to do something about it as most men are problem solvers whereas most women are listeners. I guess what I'm trying to say is I see (from what you write) how much you love and care for him and it doesn't seem to be one sided. Give him a chance and take your space for now to see what happens. xxx

Thanks, your probably very right. His texting is very ambiguous at the moment, and I am not sure what kind of mood he really is in.

I have been intouch with Working links to be told they are closing down in 4 weeks, and dont know what is happening. Told to phone jobcentreplus. Rang them and got the fact that at the moment they do not know what advice to give me as the government is tryng to change things, and so call back next month!
Very frustrating that is.
I have been on to Business links, and they have put me some information in an email. I have also signed up using my Gateway account to the help for new businesses, and will see what I need to do to set things up. Research really is the next thing I need to do. See if there is an interest out there, etc and look at my market place? I dont know. All I want to do is be legal, and sell my bags if they are still required. Talking of them, I have to pack up 3 bags as they have been bought today. Need to wait for the payments to be cleared ofcourse before I send them.
I wasnt happy with the tissue cover I made when I tried to add a flap, so I will investigate better methods. use up some scraps while I play around.