Mooloo's New Home, New Year and New Start part 3

Savvy_sewing

It has just taken me over 2 hours to set up a shop on Folksy and down load 2 items! the third has been taking so long to download I have made and eaten my lunch. So I am tired, and think that i need a sleep. Anything else will have to be added another day.
I have 5 more bags, and 12 wallets and 9 purses, 3 aprons and a plimpsol bag!! I shall be there forever! Time to stop and try again later.!
Thanks Kittikins, I am quite surprised that bits of an old duvet, sheet and pillowcase can be made into something so different. With a few bits of ribbons and bells. I may even have a go at making another one!. But not now. Sleep time.

SuziQ

Mooloo I have just caught up on your thread after several months. I am so sad for you, that things just seem to go from bad to worse. I am APPALLED at the way you have been treated by social workers over the years, the lies/promises that have resulted in you always being out of money etc. I had also hoped that you would be feeling healthier by now

Thinking about your BF, I think if he had never 'committed' before all the trouble with the twins and you taking on your grand-daughter, it was highly unlikely he would do so after really. The constant uncertainty of your life, and your understandable involvement in your children's lives, the time and energy it takes from you-I think it's a lot for any man to take, that hasn't already committed to that person. Maybe he just can't face it all? You know how exhausted it leaves you, and they're your children so that you don't really feel you have a choice? If he really loved you, of course, he would want to help you with it all. You deserve so much better from every angle of your life-you are such a 'trier' with such a huge heart!

Regarding your son, I can't help feeling that he has chosen to appear as helpless as his sisters-maybe he feels that's the best way to get attention? It's very frustrating when kids are unmotivated-believe me I know, as I have a bright but lazy 15 year old who was predicted A/A* last summer and instead got 4 Bs and 5Cs-little tyke is now moaning as he is being forced to retake all the Cs in January and is taking a further 5 in June at the time he should have been taking them all by rights. He has no idea what he wants to do with his life and just drifts-which is pretty much what your son is doing, although your son is older.

I really hope that you can get some serious rest and not be in pain. Be careful how much help you give the girls-you are still sweeping in at the eleventh hour and they are still not always experiencing the consequences of their laziness.

Savvy_sewing

Time for bed in the Mooloo household. I played around and made another wreath. Plan to give it to Biggest of Mooloo for her house. (My Mum suggested that she might like one). Its very similar to the first as the rags were already there, but with different ribbons.
Although if I make another I would like to be making it out of different colours and fabrics. But it has made my wrists a bit achey tighing all those knots.
Least I feel more fullfilled then of the last few days.
Not heard anything from the twins at all this week! Nor DS.
Biggest of mooloo was not very well, so she didnt come today. Hoping that she is better tomorrow.
Tomorrows plans are rather vague. I will take it as it comes I think.

Savvy_sewing

Well took DGD to see her Mum this morning. Biggest of Mooloo took DS to the jobcentre to claim. Dont know how long it will take for him to get any funds though. Twin2 is a bit low and I am worried about her at the moment.
Biggest liked the wreath I made.
DGD is rather testing me to the limits today. We have had several temper tantrums.
My arm is sore now, with the extra work yesterday and driving today. So it looks like an early night with just some TV and not to use the arm anymore!.
Hoping to have help around the home tomorrow. Biggest is going to bring DS over to help move the furniture around so we can clean properly.
Thats a miracle in itself! Help coming to me.
My Dad is not well, and is due to go to the doctors this evening. I am a little worried as he is one of those OAP's who is never really ill so to complain and want to see the doctor is rare. I hope its not much. Always worry as he is my Mums carer, and if anything happened to him my Mum would not cope on her own.
Well the night has well and truely drawn in already. Its cosy up time.

Savvy_sewing

Well I was in bed by 8.30 again last night. This time I actually had a good night, and managed to sleep most of it. Till around 7am.
This morning I have been pottering in the kitchen, cleaning etc and then clearing up the mess that DGD was making as I was busy. She has now emptied thousands and i mean thousands, of small read seed bead all over the place, and is driving me totally nuts.
Scooby doo is on the TV and also distracting me!. I am begining to hate it!. So she has been warned that it will be the last one now.
Biggest of mooloo is coming over this afternoon. DS was going to come then realised that he was helping out at the racecourse today.
I have been covering milk bottle tops with christmas fabrics, and hope to sew them together to make a christmas tree with DGD. But she is rather more of a hinderance then a help. The glue is now empty too.
Oh well, good job I have a hoover back.
Hope that I will be able to sew on the sewing machine tomorrow, not just a bit of handsewing down here.
I am getting text messages from BF in China, but i think they are more a habit then anything else.

Eager_Elephant

Mooloo wrote: »

This morning I have been pottering in the kitchen, cleaning etc and then clearing up the mess that DGD was making as I was busy. She has now emptied thousands and i mean thousands, of small read seed bead all over the place, and is driving me totally nuts.

I wonder if you have an under bed storage plastic crate thing that DGD can use to tip things into - it will be large enough for her to put things into piles of colours or size which might keep the mess contained a bit better or alternatively a storage case with lots of small compartments in so she can sort to her hearts content?

I know you have probably already thought of this but thought I would suggest it anyway.

You can also get sewing kits for toddlers now, I will see if I can find what I mean, that way she has her own craft stuff to mess with and can sit with Granny and hopefully won't need to touch your stuff :rotfl:

Eager_Elephant

How about this - http://www.amazon.co.uk/Early-Learning-Centre-Chunky-Scarf/dp/B0063E5OEY/ref=sr_1_11?s=kids&ie=UTF8&qid=1322316527&sr=1-11

Savvy_sewing

Eager_Elephant wrote: »

How about this - http://www.amazon.co.uk/Early-Learning-Centre-Chunky-Scarf/dp/B0063E5OEY/ref=sr_1_11?s=kids&ie=UTF8&qid=1322316527&sr=1-11

Thanks EE, she has a knitting set, alas all I get from her is the needles used as drumsticks and the wool wrapped around the house as "traps" as she calls them
I have bought her a plastic needle and some aida with embroidery thread to teach her some basic in and out stitching, to try and occupy her. alas the beads were in a tin that was on the table from my decoration makes, and it only takes a second for 5,000 beads to end up scattered!.
I have ordered her a sewing kit, for making felt things for christmas we will see.
re storage its a bit lacking here I must admit. her room has stacking shelves,which she manages to just empty into her bed!.
But one day she will get the idea, or it will be the death of me.

Trying to get her to do to sleep. I am really worried that without BF influence she is starting to take liberties and is really stretching me. I cannot give the usual threat that BF will be here etc or that he will tell her off! (Or the other one is Great Grandad).
Blackmail! I am not proud, just tired and worn out, and worried that If I dont get it nipped in the bud, my life is going to be hell for the next 12 years!
If I thought that, I would change my mind about the future. I have swapped my mind so often, can I cant I, and that is my fear.
Am I able to do this.??? Especially with only Molly and her daughter to help me?
:eek:

thorsoak

Mooloo - have you thought about suggesting to DGD that she is the "big girl" now, and should be able to help "look after" Biggest Mooloo's baby? You know the sort of thing "we've got to be very careful now - we wouldn't want baby DGD2 to hurt herself on those, would we - it's a good job that you're here to make sure everything is tidied away" - and "my goodness - its a good job that baby DGD2 doesn't know that you make those noises - she wouldn't want to come to see you" ......etc etc etc. It might work!

Savvy_sewing

thorsoak wrote: »

Mooloo - have you thought about suggesting to DGD that she is the "big girl" now, and should be able to help "look after" Biggest Mooloo's baby? You know the sort of thing "we've got to be very careful now - we wouldn't want baby DGD2 to hurt herself on those, would we - it's a good job that you're here to make sure everything is tidied away" - and "my goodness - its a good job that baby DGD2 doesn't know that you make those noises - she wouldn't want to come to see you" ......etc etc etc. It might work!

Yes did try that, and didnt get a good reply at the moment, but I wont give up. She is just testing me to the limits, to see how far she can go. She has noticed that BF is not around anymore, and so the usual threat of tidying up before he arrives, or the I shall tell BF when he comes etc doesnt work.
I am trying to remember all the tricks in the book that I used with the others. But I have to confess that when I was bringing them up, at this age I had a partner for the first 3, and a live in Nanny by the time DS was around, so it was not just me. (Actually I had my Dad coming around when husband was on nights, to help put twins to bed!). I used to live around the corner from them in those days.

Oh well, I will just have to plod on. I dont really have much choice, but the doubts that I am doing the right thing continue at times of stress. :eek:

DGD1 has a party to go to this afternoon, so some of the threats for that are keeping her in bay a little this morning. Except she is asking to go to the party now! cannot get her to understand its not until this afternoon, hours away. etc. :rotfl:
Trying to teach her the time, is fun. She is beginning to reconise some of the numbers on the clock, but not the fact that the big and little hands mean the minutes and hours.

The wind last night, blew the shed window in, so I have a few things to sort out in the garden today, and the rest of the washing to get done. At least what was on the rotaire was practically dry when I went out to retrieve the window.!
Time to get on.