Mooloo's New Home, New Year and New Start part 3

Molly41

What a pair - you worried about me and me worried about you xx

MatyMoo

Molly41 wrote: »

What a pair - you worried about me and me worried about you xx

I think it is lovely, that's what friends are for :cool:

Savvy_sewing

Molly seems to be having a good time on the course and has enrolled for the follow up one in June! Wants me to go as well, but I am not sure if I have the finances as of yet. Will need to really get my thinking cap on as I would love to go. Would also need to sort out DGD with her granddad or her aunty.
I was working on my christmas decorations last night. Well one of them. I was making another heart. This one I sewed on 300 small seed beads all around the 6 sides! It took me around 3 hours to do! Hopefully in the light of day it will look OK. As sewing at night its difficult to see well. My Mum and Dad gave me a small battery operated white light which is a bit better or I wouldnt have been able to see anything.

Its the twins birthday today. I am going to have to go back over to Towcester today, as twin1 has still not finished removing all of her stuff out of the little house.! I cannot believe that she has taken nearly 5 weeks to get around to it all. So I am going to stand over her and see that the last of her stuff is removed today.
DS still hasnt gone to sign on.!! Although I can see his worry, as he gets the odd shift working in the Pub, so he would be messing it all around when he declaires his earnings. However it is only £30 and not enough to cover his share of the rent and rates, so he will need housing benefit. I shall have to see if we can get him some advise somewhere.
Still feeling a bit low and disillusioned over the seperation from the BF and somewhat lost. But I hope that I will find a way to work through it all.
7 and a 1/2 years nearly 8 years is a long time. Although we have been on and off a lot I suppose. Ironically his was the only christmas present that I had sorted out. Oh well, I have so much to start thinking of with Christmas around the corner now.
My aims to be Christmas neuteral went pear shaped ages ago. Not sure that I can really recover it. My Tesco vouchers were used to buy DS clothes when he left the family from hell. He still hasnt got his Konnect or anthing like that. I think he will have lost them now.
DGD seems to be sniffing somewhat this morning. Think she is getting a cold.

*Robin*

Good Morning Mooloo,
Just wanted to send you a (((hug))) this morning, and suggest plenty of vitamin C for DGD and yourself to ward off that cold which you really don't need! (I always dose everyone around me with homeopathic aconite and/or herbal eccinacea if they start a respiratory bug; nine times out of ten it seems to work - ie. the sniffle disappears in a few days without progressing to full-blown snottiness, and more important - I don't catch it!). Also I double the amount of garlic in our dinner, and remove milk from the sniffler's diet as much as possible (so toast not cornflakes for breakfast, juice not tea to drink).
Sorry to read of your problems with your BF; I've often thought your relationship with him is similar to mine with my partner who is an Aspie - he needs a lot of space and can't cope with my illness at all.
Anyway I hope your day goes well; Happy Birthday to the Twins, I shall be thinking of you (((more hugs))).

Savvy_sewing

*Robin* wrote: »

Good Morning Mooloo,
Just wanted to send you a (((hug))) this morning, and suggest plenty of vitamin C for DGD and yourself to ward off that cold which you really don't need! (I always dose everyone around me with homeopathic aconite and/or herbal eccinacea if they start a respiratory bug; nine times out of ten it seems to work - ie. the sniffle disappears in a few days without progressing to full-blown snottiness, and more important - I don't catch it!). Also I double the amount of garlic in our dinner, and remove milk from the sniffler's diet as much as possible (so toast not cornflakes for breakfast, juice not tea to drink).
Sorry to read of your problems with your BF; I've often thought your relationship with him is similar to mine with my partner who is an Aspie - he needs a lot of space and can't cope with my illness at all.
Anyway I hope your day goes well; Happy Birthday to the Twins, I shall be thinking of you (((more hugs))).

Thanks Robin, I have added fruit juice to the breakfast etc. But not bought the vitamins. No cash at the moment. We have a lot of fruit so we will partake of that though.
Re BF. Decided he is a bit of a mystery to me, and so must be to others. He says he loves me, but thats just not enough really. If he cannot see that things here need more than a 24 hours a week then I suppose I had to make that choice. But its one of the harder things I have had to do, as I already feel quite fragile at times.

Having a few face problems with the nerves again today. Not sure if it was sewing my beads last night, or just sitting on here this morninng.
Off to sort out the twins!

Eager_Elephant

Hi Mooloo

Sorry to hear about you and bf.

Hope you managed to sort the Twins out today.

If you give me some more info on DS then I should be able to help with the benefit query - when you talk about rent and rates do you mean for the house he shares with Twin 1 or 2 (sorry can't remember) or does he have his own place now? If it is the one he shares with one of the Twins is his name on the tenancy or the council tax bill?

Savvy_sewing

Eager_Elephant wrote: »

Hi Mooloo

Sorry to hear about you and bf.

Hope you managed to sort the Twins out today.

If you give me some more info on DS then I should be able to help with the benefit query - when you talk about rent and rates do you mean for the house he shares with Twin 1 or 2 (sorry can't remember) or does he have his own place now? If it is the one he shares with one of the Twins is his name on the tenancy or the council tax bill?

Thanks EE.
I am trying to keep cheerful. Its hard though.
Finally got twin1 out of her old place. apart from yuk carpets, (which they were when she moved in anyway) the place was in good order when I shut the door. She had cleaned up the kitchen etc before I got there. I just gave the bathroom a quick going over and stuck some Dishwasher tablets down the loo to try and get that a bit cleaner. But I dont think that it was that successful.

DS is currently stopping at the flat with twin1. However he is not on the tenancy, but they did tell the Council Tax people that he was going to be staying there. So she needs to get something sorted out.
I would have prefered he had his own place, but the council will not help him, and the English churches refused him. So he is really homeless. Sofa Surfing. Like a lot of kids these days.
He doesnt want to come home, and I am not sure I could really cope with him here. I think it would mess up DGD and the dynamics here.
He has been doing £30 worth of work once a week, ish, at the pub his girlfriends family own. He has to sign for the money, but its not giving him a wage slip. So I am worried about his pension and NI contributions for the future.
He has not been back to the arm with the information he needed. He doesnt seem to be being proactive about anything, and I worry that its the rest of us that end up picking up the pieces.
I have run out of funds at the moment, and am now in rent arrears through all the changes that have been happening to my benefits, and really need to get myself back on track before I really loose the plot.!
In fact I am just going to pay off some of that rent arrears with the ESA I got on Thursday.

Have a bit of a head ache this morning. Have been sitting in the wrong position, curled up in the chair while writing my diary, and its upset the old apple cart.
DGD is driving me to distraction. Whats new. Not only has she now emptied the button tin all over the floor (again) she has now added the contents of the piggy bank to it. Siad its her treasure!. But will she collect it up? Nope.
Arggggh

Savvy_sewing

~Struggling through today, alas, DGD is into everything and I am struggling with neck pain today, so not able to dash around after her as I probably should be. So my nerves are getting to me in more ways then one!.
DGD will be the death of me today. I shall be so glad when the day is over.
Trying to focus enough to just get through the rest of the afternoon. Missing BF alot, even though we would have been home anyway for anothe week if we had been seeing each other still

Savvy_Sue

Mooloo wrote: »

He has been doing £30 worth of work once a week, ish, at the pub his girlfriends family own. He has to sign for the money, but its not giving him a wage slip. So I am worried about his pension and NI contributions for the future.

Well, on £30 pw there wouldn't be any tax or NI to pay, so the lack of a wage slip isn't making any difference to his pension or NI contributions.

As for DGD, if she won't pick up the buttons and her treasure, I realise it's something that you can't just leave, which would be the usual advice. So I'd start by picking up the a few coins and putting them in your purse. Let her see you do this. The money is now yours, not hers: she doesn't want it because she has left it on the floor. Now get a small bin bag, pick up the first handful of buttons, tie the bag up and put them in the bin (one you can retrieve them from later but which she can't get at, in an ideal world!)

Then put the button box where she cannot reach it.

Of course she's probably been put to bed long since, and you're probably worn out, but hopefully that will 'encourage' her.

Eager_Elephant

Mooloo wrote: »

DS is currently stopping at the flat with twin1. However he is not on the tenancy, but they did tell the Council Tax people that he was going to be staying there. So she needs to get something sorted out.
I would have prefered he had his own place, but the council will not help him, and the English churches refused him. So he is really homeless. Sofa Surfing. Like a lot of kids these days.
He doesnt want to come home, and I am not sure I could really cope with him here. I think it would mess up DGD and the dynamics here.
He has been doing £30 worth of work once a week, ish, at the pub his girlfriends family own. He has to sign for the money, but its not giving him a wage slip. So I am worried about his pension and NI contributions for the future.
He has not been back to the arm with the information he needed. He doesnt seem to be being proactive about anything, and I worry that its the rest of us that end up picking up the pieces.

Can I just clarify that they told Council Tax that he is living with Twin 1 so she does not get 25% discount or did they tell the Council Benefits Team who will adminster Housing/Council Tax Benefit?

If they have told Council Tax only then it won't be long before Benefits pick up that Twin 1 does not have a single person discount and will wonder why.

If Benefits have been told they will make a non dependent deduction for him once he turns 18 - this amount is based on how much he is earning so if he only earns £30 per week they will make a deduction of £9.40 per week from the Housing Benefit and £2.85 per week for Council Tax Benefit......but if he claims JSA (I will come to how this will work with him working in a minute) they will not make any deduction until he is 25!!!
So Twin 1 will either have to pay this or make DS pay it which does not leave him with much or he could claim JSA to make things easier.

It would be better to sort this sooner rather than later otherwise there will be money to be repaid which is the last thing she wants.

If DS is only getting £30 per week then he can claim JSA (providing he is over 18 - I think he is but can't remember), every fortnight when he signs on he needs to sign a declaration to say that he has done some work - he will need to say what hours he worked and how much he earnt - if they don't give him a wage slip could he have a receipt book that he asks them to sign and this would be enough proof.
JSA for people up until 25 is £53.45 per week so if we deduct what he earns each week less £5 earnings disregard he would get £28.45 per week and there will be no deduction for him staying with Twin 1.

If you have any questions give me a shout as this will need sorting before Twin 1 gets into rent arrears.