Mooloo's New Home, New Year and New Start part 3

Hardup_Hester

Hi Mooloo
I'm sure you have done the right thing, if he wants you, let him make the effort, not you.
I love the wreath, what a fantastic way of using up scraps, what did you use for the base? I'l wondering if I could do it with a couple of bent coat hangers.
Hugs Hester

Savvy_sewing

Hardup_Hester wrote: »

Hi Mooloo
I'm sure you have done the right thing, if he wants you, let him make the effort, not you.
I love the wreath, what a fantastic way of using up scraps, what did you use for the base? I'l wondering if I could do it with a couple of bent coat hangers.
Hugs Hester

Yes it was a metal coat hanger, i rounded it up as best as I could, and then litterally just tore up sheet, duvet cover and pillowcase pieces (Not all of them of course), in strips of approx 2cm x 10cm. The instructions said 8cm but they were a bit too difficult to tie.
I then used the 3 different fabrics, and added 10 strips of each colour at a time, until the ring was complete, and as tight as i could, then I squeesed in the ribbons, and sewed on the bells.
It took me about 4 hours including ripping up the fabric, and that was enough for 3 wreathes.
My daughter loves hers and mine is hanging where I took the picture on my sittingroom wall at the moment.
I am sure anyone can do it, as there is little sewing just tying knots!.

Re BF, I will not be holding my breath waiting for him to come to his senses. he said I was a coward going and getting my stuff today while he was away. But thats his opinion. I was thinking more of while DGD was not involved in the process.

My dinner was lovely. I have enough left for tomorrow too. Result.
Have been told DGD has been an angel today????? and that she is now asleep. So all is well there.
I can now wind down completely and go to bed very soon and get comfy. (well as well as I can with that dam neck collar!).
I just hope I can stay as bouyant tomorrow.:o:D

MatyMoo

Well done Mooloo, I know it is scary to be on your own with your health and family worries but he really was never there when you needed him.

As for being a coward, I think that is the person who wasn't man enough to make a decision or make a commitment. You going to collect your things today was done with your usual thought and consideration for others - you knew it would be upsetting for DGD and you chose to do it when she was away, Good for you :T

So pleased she is being an angel at her sleepover. I know she tries your patience and pushes the limits but it is better that she behaves when she is away from you

Hardup_Hester

Hi Mooloo
Coward indeed, ballrocks, as Maty say's he's the coward for not making a commitment, he had his chance.
Hester

carpedieme

Hi Mooloo, I dont post very often but I read your diary every day. Well done with the step you have made, believe me I know what its like being on your own! It seems from reading your diary that although bf definetly doesnt want to commit he still wants to meddle in your life in a dissapproving unhelpful kind of way which is of no use or help to you! You have enough to cope with in your family and with the help from molly and her daughter you are doing a brilliant job:beer: See the pot as half full not half empty, you may meet someone else in the future, you certainly deserve to! In the meantime surely its better to have peace of mind and not all the uncertainty and negativety that seems to go with bf!:eek: Take things one day at a time, be kind to yourself, and take care, we are all routing for you on here:D On a personal note I met a wonderful man when I least expected it and certainly wasnt looking who is now mylovely hubby, would never in a million years expected that to happen! Chin up, and slowly move on, all the best, Julie:A

Savvy_sewing

Morning, Lovely words, thanks everyone.
I am still feeling strong this morning. Strange without DGD but managed to go back to sleep when I woke at the usual time. So just having my cuppa and my toast.
I plan to launch myself into making my start on the sewing thats backlogged, and free me up time to be able to make my other presents etc that I want to do. I have Physio at noon, and then some extra time after before I have to collect DGD at 3pm.

I shall keep saying to myself, Onwards and upwards!!!!

Molly41

Hardup_Hester wrote: »

Hi Mooloo
Coward indeed, ballrocks, as Maty say's he's the coward for not making a commitment, he had his chance.
Hester

That is just what I said and BF was too cowardly to face Moo face-to-face to discuss their issues, despite her asking. It was all done by text. You have absolutely NOTHING to feel guilty about my friend xx

Errata

Well said Molly. Txt's are for finding out if another pint of milk is needed, not for discussing major life issues and changes.

Savvy_sewing

Errata wrote: »

Well said Molly. Txt's are for finding out if another pint of milk is needed, not for discussing major life issues and changes.

Well he would never think to ask if I needed anything while he was on his way over or anything like that. Not even when he was told I was ill and taken to my bed. he never said I am only 30 minutes away, so I shall come over and help! haha!!!!!!!
I have given him excuses and "reasons" for so long, it was a habit.
I have managed to not text at all today. He can sit on it all while he is away in China, and be as broody and moody as he wants to be.
My daughter (Biggest) said that he is a grumpy old so and so, and that he will be the one sat on his own not you mum! We will see. But its not about tit for tat, or putting any blame anywhere really.
Its about the fact that I have decided that I have had enough. For what ever reason.
I went to get my stuff when I didnt cause distress to DGD and when I didnt have to put myself under anymore stress then necessary. My health is bad enough, without a show down. Although that may or may not come oneday.?

I have been arguing with TalkTalk all morning, over a bill they sent/took money out of my bank account for, that was wrong. So £144odd went out of the bank today, and it was wrong. Should have been about £36! So now I have to wait for them to refund!.
Its been a long morning, and I am sick of speaking to call centres who will not give a straight answer and who could hardly speak english in the first place. :mad::mad::mad:
Now we await a credit!!

On the plus side, I have downloaded an oven mitt pattern and cut one out, and started to sew it, ready for a present for my Dad who is the one who cooks in the household. I think the remenant that I am using may be enough to give me a tea towel out of it as well.

I am just back from a wasted visit to the physio. She spoke to me about the situation but will not do anymore until an MRI scan has happened. So I now have to see the doctor at the end of the week, and I will then have to push him. She said not to be fobbed off!. Great, felt as if she was fobbing me off. But never mind.
Cup of tea, and a sandwich, and then I still have a couple of hours to myself before I collect DGD from the Nursery.!

Errata

I don't think the physio was fobbing you off, she needs to know exactly what she will have to deal with before she can create a treatment program and the MRI will have that information. Do push the GP - your neck seems to be seriously affecting your ability to do things and your quality of life eg having to go to bed several hours before the 'average' adult bedtime.
And keep your fingers away from those txt keys . If he sends you a txt you don't have to respond, if he wants to talk to you he's got a voice and can phone or, given the seriousness of the situation, call round to see you.
Good luck with the refund.