Mooloo's New Home, New Year and New Start part 3

Keeping_Motivated

Mooloo becuase it would be obvious to you not to park infront of someones house who its obviously in pain do you think that you might be making assumptions that the neighbour thinks like you? What I mean is that some people do not have the same radar for sympathy/empathy/etc than others and when pointed out nicely you never know he might start showing some sense when he is thinking where to park...sometim,es people are oblivious even though its very obviously rude to us. Maybe it is your responsibility to talk to him about it and ask nicely if he could try and leave it free whenever possible rather than assume he should just 'know' if that makes sense.

If after speaking to him and explaining your reasons he continues to park there when he has free space elsewhere then yes he is just a pig!!!

Savvy_sewing

Keeping_Motivated wrote: »

Mooloo becuase it would be obvious to you not to park infront of someones house who its obviously in pain do you think that you might be making assumptions that the neighbour thinks like you? What I mean is that some people do not have the same radar for sympathy/empathy/etc than others and when pointed out nicely you never know he might start showing some sense when he is thinking where to park...sometim,es people are oblivious even though its very obviously rude to us. Maybe it is your responsibility to talk to him about it and ask nicely if he could try and leave it free whenever possible rather than assume he should just 'know' if that makes sense.

If after speaking to him and explaining your reasons he continues to park there when he has free space elsewhere then yes he is just a pig!!!

I talked to him when i moved in, and in January when i was struggling. So no, sorry he is just a PIG.
The pair of them think only of themselves. They even deliberately park a vehicle on the road outside thier house and thier neighbours, at such an angle to stop anyone else parking there.He doesnt need to leave that vehicle on the road either. He even told me to Park mine at such a position so as to stop others parking there, when i moved in. (If I move my car forward up to the other neighbours it allows for another car to park behind me, or if I go up to the end of my property, infront of me). He said I should park between the area so nobody can go infront or behind.
I confess I have done that, only if I have known that either my parents or Molly are coming, as both My Mum and Molly have blue badges. But I thought that being inconsiderate was just not part of my ball game.
Anyway I am finally outside my own house yesterday. Lets hope he keeps his work during the day, then I get back from my outings first I only have to deal with the patients from the doctors.

Today is the day to go and see "our boys".
Molly's daughter is coming over to take DGD to her Nursery for her school photos. I decided that they were part of her history too, and so she does need to have them done. Playing with her cousins is good, but as we have to start the seperation this is one of the ways I can do that. The next visit is potentially our last, in a months time. I am also considering not taking her, as I do not think that if its got to happen and I can get DGD looked after, then perhaps having an upset Auntie in the car is not such a good idea really. Emotional goodbyes infront of her is not necesssary. Let her keep some good memories of playing with her cousin. We have a lot of general photo's taken of them playing so we have those memories.

Right I must get on.

Savvy_sewing

Went to see the boys today. Didnt take DGD as mentioned. She had her school photo's instead.
The boys were fit and well. DGS1 was asking where his cousin was, but accepted my reasons for her not to be their. But in play he mentioned her a lot. He was very much, Granny granny, and we were laughing and giggling a lot. Mum was very quiet. She did all the tending to thier needs, but hardly spoke to them. She was too choaked up to speak, and could only just hold back her feelings. Bless her.
We visited DGD2 and Biggest of Mooloo, for a quick cup of tea, before we went back to hers and then I went on to the Housing Association with Twin1.
Twin1 carried in the box of the broken glass, etc and I carried the envelope with the film and letter in.
I had left the box open, as I wanted to point things out and didnt want the housing to think I was leaving a bomb or something.
I was given a hand written receipt for it and promised that they would deliver it to the managing directors secretary as he is away at the moment.
I will chase it up next week if I havent heard anything back.
So I have finally managed to get the courage up to walk in and complain.
I also paid some rent while I was there, as I dont want to be behind and that cause a problem.
When i got back was on the computer here for quite a while but around 5ish I did start to sew. I have altered the jeans for Biggest Of Mooloo's BF's.
Next I will start on some bunting for the shop in the town.
I am a bit worried that I have forgotten someones interest in bags? I must get more organised!
I also need to have firm commitments to things, not just a bit of I want one of those.
Twin1 is here, bathing DGD at the moment. So I have the evening free, and have been doing surveys etc for the christmas neutral challenge, although I am very far behind on that at the moment.

MatyMoo

I think you are doing the right thing for DGD by not taking her to see the boys Mooloo and for the right reasons as always.

You really are a fab Mum and Granny!

Glad you got parked back outside too and I do understand what he means about parking so you take up 2 spaces, we used to do it at my Mum's to make sure we could get 2 cars parked on a Saturday The rest of the week it didn't matter.

Savvy_sewing

Well this morning I was running around a bit late to post. I think I posted on a different thread, but had some work to do.
I spent time looking through my stash of fabrics, looking for the mix i wanted to make some bunting for the little shop that may sell my stuff for me. But I spent so long trying to find the fabrics I wanted, and to make up my mind as to what to do, it was 11am and time for my doctors appointment.
Again it was not the one I had booked in to see, she had been called away or something. Anyway, alas I was with the doctor for about 40mins! Must have annoyed the woman waiting after me! Oops. By recounting all the problems, the things I was asking to have help with etc etc, she asked me about the ages of my family, and the reasons for my having DGD etc and I broke down, once it got to explaining the situation with the boys, the stress levels etc. I burst into tears. She said it was obvious I needed to let go, and let it all out. I felt I was being a silly old fool. But anyway, she said she would chase up about the physio, prescribed the various medications that I needed, and gave me some exercise leaflet for my neck, to do while we await the physio. She also told me that I really need to get to know one of the main doctors, as my ailments and situation are complex and really someone needs to get to know me, as of going to see different ones who are available. I will have to book further in advance for Molly's doctor, and then get to know her I suppose. Anyway, DGD was with her Mum at my house. Think she wondered where I was considering my appointment was just accross the road.
After that I took twin1 and DGD to the supermarket to get her shopping, and i ended up spending nearly £30 myself with a bit of this and a bit of that, milk, cereals, and a bit of cold meats really. Ooops. I knew there was a reason that I do not go shopping but get it on line normally. Although I did get some prawns on the reduced section, that are now in the freezer awaiting a day when i do a nice meal for BF and myself.
I dropped her back home, DGD was fast asleep in the car, so I detoured a few miles and dropped of Biggests of Mooloo's BF's jeans that I altered yesterday. I just caught her going out. Good timing. As DGD was asleep I didnt stop, just came home.
Had a bowl of Special K for my lunch, and having a cuppa.
Then I hope to cut out some triangles for my bunting, if DGD will play quietly or watch a bit of TV.
I would have liked to mow the lawn but its too much for me after the shopping and driving.
The post has heraleded a reply, automatic one from the Housing to say that they are treating my letter as a stage 1 complaint and a leaflet as to what to expect next from them. That was quick as I only dropped it off yesterday lunchtime.
My expenses for the petrol for March/April have come through at last. So I will put that in the post to my bank, and hopefully it will be just in time for the dip in my accounts from the car service next week! phew is all I can say as the bank was getting very very low. Not that it will last long, but evey penny helps.
I am stressed somewhat but trying to deal with it.
Not as bad as I was the other week. I at least have a good number of plus's to focus on.
Right off to check my emails etc while I drink my tea.

Eager_Elephant

Hi Mooloo

Glad things are starting to get sorted for you.

It is great that the Housing Association are treating this as a complaint because if the complaint is not dealt with appropriately you can go to the Housing Ombudsman who take complaints very seriously and can award compendation and basically make the HA do something.. but I am so sure that this will have the right outcome that there is no need to think about this.

Hope you have a good weekend - even with the rain today!!

EE

MatyMoo

Sounds like a lovely Dr Mooloo, more interested in giving you the time you needed than the patients coming behind you. One of our old neighbours used to book her next appointment as she came out of the last to ensure that she got the Dr she wanted at a convenient time. I think it will be a great idea to get to see a regular Dr too, and as you have inside info Molly's Dr sounds a good starting point

Great news that your complaint has been acknowledged so quickly, lets hope they are as quick with some proper action to resolve the issue.

I am pleased that you got your expenses, just in time by the sound of it!

Have a good weekend

Jo4

Mooloo wrote: »

I am a bit worried that I have forgotten someones interest in bags? I must get more organised!
I also need to have firm commitments to things, not just a bit of I want one of those.
Twin1 is here, bathing DGD at the moment. So I have the evening free, and have been doing surveys etc for the christmas neutral challenge, although I am very far behind on that at the moment.

I am sure that those who are waiting on bags will be delighted to receive the bags when ever you have the time to make them. As for needing commitment when I say I want one of those I mean it is as a commitment, otherwise I would say I'd like one of those, maybe it's just me. :eek:

I must do a search for the Christmas neutral challenge although I have a lot of presents purchased and I have most if not all of the money saved.

Savvy_sewing

Jo4 wrote: »

I am sure that those who are waiting on bags will be delighted to receive the bags when ever you have the time to make them. As for needing commitment when I say I want one of those I mean it is as a commitment, otherwise I would say I'd like one of those, maybe it's just me. :eek:

I must do a search for the Christmas neutral challenge although I have a lot of presents purchased and I have most if not all of the money saved.

Hi Jo4, thanks, you reminded me that one of the bags was for you!:eek:Sorry. I will get on with it. I will look for the measurements, i wrote in the front of my last notebook.(Journal).

Have you found the christmas nuetral challenge?
if not I will add the links in a bit.
This is one of the threads that I sort of follow. Although am not a complete slave too, it moves fast, but the ideas at the start are a good place to begin.
https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/2940122

Savvy_sewing

Well as you guessed I am back from the weekend at BF's. The day was not so wet over at his, although still cloudy. But we were able to sit in the garden for some of the time.
We ofcourse only stay in and watch TV, but shared a bottle of wine, and relaxed together.
Today we had a lazy start, and after sitting reading in the garden, we went out for a picnic by the locks at iffley. Stopping for a beer in the pub there, reading newspapers and watching DGD collect up the little apples that had fallen off of the tree, and collect them in her sun hat.
It was a lovely relaxing time, and I really didnt want to come home, but of course it was time too.
The Book about Codependants had arrived yesterday morning, exceedingly quick delivery!, so I was reading that after I had finished my Carol Drinkwater one. It was funny as in the newspaper at the pub, there was a double page spread about her, her home and her books. So I got to see a picture of the place that i had been reading about all month.
The book about codependants is an insight. I think that quite a lot of the traits may very well be me after all? Which is sort of scarey to see, and to read, never mind to admit!. But first I am reading it through. Then perhaps I will reread it with the activities, suggested, as I am good at writing down my feelings, frustrations etc, and have used my journals, and this thread to sort my world out.
This coming week, I have grabbed some time for me.
Tomorrow I am having my hair done. Its been months since I had it done.
Tuesday I have my food delivery coming, so will stay in and sew.
Wednesday the car is being serviced, and I will visit the charity shops etc and enjoy a leisurely trip back from the garage, probably broke but at least the car will be fit for purpose. (or at least I hopeso.).
On Thursday I am possibly going to visit a village near by that has a charity shop and a craft shop that I have been told about. Molly is hopefully coming with me. We have been saying we would go for weeks, and so its time to act.