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Mooloo's New Home, New Year and New Start part 3

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  • Savvy_sewing
    Savvy_sewing Posts: 11,580 Forumite
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    edited 13 June 2011 at 4:42PM
    Well the morning seemed to go by quite fast, but alas by lunchtime I was in a mess. Twin1 has had her laptop stolen, and the rumour is its one of the boys and his mates, that hang around with my son. The police have been called, as they are threatening to bring family down from Manchester to "burn her in her house" now thats been threatened to me before. Then the girl from the family also rang up and threatened to go and "smash her face in" lovely family.
    I rang DS and asked him to think about the people he is hanging around with, and the trouble that they are causing to his sisters. Of course its the last straw arguing with him, and I told him that if his so called mates harm a hair on his sisters head, then I was going to disown him for his associations.
    (I know that is not good, But its as low as I am.).
    I rang Biggest of Mooloo in tears, and we had a small run in too. Basically she told me that I am a snob, and have embarresed her by complaining in a restaurant a few years ago, when we went out on my Birthday for a meal. She said that I was a bit too "aloof" I think she meant. But it hurt that she thinks I am a snob. I am not a snob. Far from it, but I am educated, I did have a middleclass upbringing, and a priveledged life with a boarding school education. But that doesnt make me a snob.
    She is also upset and was also tearful as her BF's mother is driving her mad, she is overbearing and everything is Daddy this, Daddy that, and lovely Baby etc, and nothing Mummy.. So she is feeling dejected. Also he is not very demonstrative (bit like my BF), and she needs a cuddle or two and is not getting them. So we both had our moans, were on the phone for nearly half an hour. But we have not fallen out or anything.
    I told her that I want to take my car, empty the bank account and just go away. (Not that the money in the bank would go far, and the car really should have a service before I take it on long journeys.! ).
    So I only managed to drawer up the basic parts to the elf outfits and make 4 of the tunics. So not a very productive day.
    My arm is very bad, all that sewing etc has not helped so its time to relax as best as I can. Thought I had to go and collect twin1 for the evening, but I think that she has changed her mind and is intending having her sister stop with her. They are at the job centre again today, so they are out of the town just now.
    I dread what next with this family. Cannot anything be smoother?
    It hasnt helped that all day the road outside has been dug up while the electric board is putting the cables underground. I felt as if the house was vibrating with the pnuematic drills!

    Fingers crossed that I can shake this mood soon. I really need to rise above it, and get back on track soon. I think that I probably are on "burn out" at the moment.
    When I die I will know that I have lived, loved, mattered and made a difference, even if in a small way.
  • candygirl
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    Has she got PND hun?My DD was like that after Boo was born:o:oI'm bracing myself for when she has the next baby in Aug:eek::eek::eek:
    "You can't stop the waves, but you can learn to surf"

    (Kabat-Zinn 2004):D:D:D
  • Savvy_sewing
    Savvy_sewing Posts: 11,580 Forumite
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    candygirl wrote: »
    Has she got PND hun?My DD was like that after Boo was born:o:oI'm bracing myself for when she has the next baby in Aug:eek::eek::eek:

    She probably does have the babyblues, we will see and get her to talk to the health visitor when she comes over.
    I have been staying away so as not to interfere, but I have told her I am here for her if she needs me. I will call on her more if she needs it of course.
    I will speak to her on the skype, then I can see her, and we can keep intouch. She bites her tongue over her BF's mum as it is. Now that the baby is born she is being invaded.
    Its also a big adjustment being at home with her baby all day, when she used to be a very busy bee working, and running around everywhere with her dancing and her volunteer work etc etc etc.

    I hope your DD is not subject to the PND again Candygirl. Its just a horrible feeling.
    Another grandchild to look forward too though.:D
    When I die I will know that I have lived, loved, mattered and made a difference, even if in a small way.
  • Savvy_sewing
    Savvy_sewing Posts: 11,580 Forumite
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    Think I will be going to bed soon. Just waiting for DGD to settle.
    Molly has been around for a chat this evening. Which has helped me somewhat. I am exhausted with all the stress, headaches and the like today. I would have liked to be sewing but my arm is a bit bad, bit like frozen shoulder at the moment. Its an effort so i better not push it as I have tomorrow to do the nursery sewing.
    I am, I suppose at the point where I have to do something different, and switch off. But thats hard to be, with my lot anyway.
    It hasnt helped that BF didnt come over this weekend, and the only communication was text messages. I do wish he would think to ring me some of the time.
    The wet weather of the last few days, has brought the weeds through in the garden so thats another thing to tackle on the list thats sort of in my head, scribbled on bits and pieces of paper. They all need tobe gathered together in one place, so as soon as I feel strong enough thats what I will have to do to be able to sort things out. But not tonight. Maybe tomorrow.
    When I die I will know that I have lived, loved, mattered and made a difference, even if in a small way.
  • Savvy_sewing
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    Yesterday I didnt have an early night in the end. I was still up at after midnight writing in my diary. However this morning I did report for duty at the nursery.
    I showed the 4 or 5 other mums that had turned up, how to cut out the patterns etc, and they cut out and I sewed.
    They left at around 12, and the last two at 1.
    Between their cutting out and my sole stitching we churned out 49 elves outfits and belts by 2.45 today!.
    Needless to say my arm is in a terrible bad way. But at least the nursery will have a set of outfits for a few years yet/
    I am knackd, My arm has now siezed up.
    They gave me a bottle of wine, a free day for DGD to attend, and a thankyou card at the end of the day.
    I just hope that the mothers who have outfits for thier children will appreicate the efforts and take them to the carnival on saturday.

    I am struggling to use my arm completely now, and I will be in my bed soon.
    When I die I will know that I have lived, loved, mattered and made a difference, even if in a small way.
  • candygirl
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    Wooohoo well done on the elves outfits, but hope your arm feels better soon:A
    DD is having a boy this time, so watch this space:D:D
    "You can't stop the waves, but you can learn to surf"

    (Kabat-Zinn 2004):D:D:D
  • MatyMoo
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    Blimey Mooloo, not surprised your arms have stopped working today. That was a mammoth sewing session for anyone! But at least they are done and you got some help to get through them all. Glad they showed their appreciation for all your hard work too :T
    :j Proud Member of Mike's Mob :j
  • Savvy_sewing
    Savvy_sewing Posts: 11,580 Forumite
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    Retreating today. Arm is not good. Twins are both here so they can help with DGD this morning.
    Typing is a struggle too so I shall be off and post again later when i am feeling a bit better.
    When I die I will know that I have lived, loved, mattered and made a difference, even if in a small way.
  • Savvy_sewing
    Savvy_sewing Posts: 11,580 Forumite
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    Evening all, I have just had my evening meal. DGD wanted mince and sgetty, She actually means spaghetti. So I did some for her, and then added some onion, pepper, garlic, tinned tomatoes and some porridge oats to thicken the gravy. Oh and some mixed herbs. Was very tasty, considering there was not really very much mince. Even enough for me for tomorrow too!
    I struggled to do much today and after taking the twins back to town, I have been researching on the web, looking at my sewing books, and hoping that tomorrow my arm will be better somewhat amd I can get on with a few jobs around the house. Alas the twins help was not really very much. Twin1 did her washing, (I know I bought them a washing machine at her sisters house, but DS was using it apparantly). I have some of it here now to hang out, but it will have to wait until tomorrow as my arm isnt so good and wouldnt reach up to the line. (reminds me of last year in the cottage when i had to tumble dry as I couldnt straighten up my arm for a long while.).
    I tried not to waste the day, but i always do feel as if I have wasted the day, when I am on the laptop dispite reading up on business plans etc etc and sewing patterns etc etc.
    DGD is still eating her mince, she is doing really well, so I must have cooked it the way she wanted. (She gets a bit fussy these days. I hope that she doesnt carry on with that, as I like her to have a varied diet, and to still try things. She is highly opinionated for a 3 year old.
    When I die I will know that I have lived, loved, mattered and made a difference, even if in a small way.
  • Eager_Elephant
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    Hi Mooloo

    Good to see you managed to get some things done today.

    I know I am always negative on your thread but clearly there are some issues with Twin1 (and Twin 2 and DS!).

    How come Twin 1 needed to wash her clothes that exact moment, could she not have done it after DS - loads only take 60 - 90 minutes which is not much time out of her day and then to leave the washing with you to dry is unbelievable. (Surely she had time yesterday or the day before or tomorrow to do her washing - it's not like she has a job to fit in as well)

    Of course I don't know whether she made you keep the clothes to hang out tomorrow or whether you did not tell her how bad you were feeling but I am truly gobsmacked that you cannot raise your arm but you have a load of washing to hang out.

    I remember not so long ago that people recommended the word 'No' - I'm just wondering if you need to use it more?

    (((Mooloo)))

    Sorry for being harsh but I only have your interests at heart.

    EE
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