Written out of parents will

Fang_3

I would start signing them up to all kinds of OAP services. A few brochures from dodgy care homes should scare them witless.

Dave_liverpool

I'vd always wondered how shallow people could be to threaten 'you'll be written out of my will' , so it seems to me that who ever threatens that can be a vile ill mannered person but the thought of some money could keep them in my life! No thanks

meritaten

fairylittle wrote: »

Thanks again for all replies, I am going to try and stop beating myself up over this.

I'm still not sure if I will phone on Christmas Day yet, I will see how I feel on the day.

I keep feeling guilty and then I remember all the issues over the years and I think why should I bother?

As for the money and the will they can keep it, I don't want a penny, I'd just like to know they are proud of me and my life and family

why? are you proud to have them as parents? respect is a two way street hun!

thorsoak

fairylittle wrote: »

Thanks again for all replies, I am going to try and stop beating myself up over this.

I'm still not sure if I will phone on Christmas Day yet, I will see how I feel on the day.

I keep feeling guilty and then I remember all the issues over the years and I think why should I bother?

As for the money and the will they can keep it, I don't want a penny, I'd just like to know they are proud of me and my life and family

Fairylittle - a wise woman once said "No one can make you feel inferior without your permission." Please remember this - and keep in your mind the thought that YOUR OH and YOUR CHILDREN are proud of you - and they are the people who matter in your life!

Be proud of yourself!

Paulie'sGirl

You don't need your parents' approval. You're a grown woman with a family of her own. Be proud of yourself and your achievements.

Sometimes you just need to accept that there's no pleasing some people. Clearly, more of us than you'd think have these sorts of relatives.

Accept that your children will have a happier childhood not being forced to measure up in the same way you were, and cut ties with these sad individuals.

Big hugs, and a happy christmas

PGxx

Steel_2

Dave_liverpool wrote: »

I'vd always wondered how shallow people could be to threaten 'you'll be written out of my will' , so it seems to me that who ever threatens that can be a vile ill mannered person but the thought of some money could keep them in my life! No thanks

Couldn't agree more.

My father's supposedly done it seriously twice - once when I refused to stay at home and go to a local college 10 minutes away. Instead I left and went to college 50 miles away (and paid for myself through uni - he thought by refusing to give me any money I might come to my senses and move back home. 18 years later and I never have.).

The second time was more feeble and he told me if I was stupid enough to get married he would leave it to a cat's home.

My response has always been the same. You mistake me for someone who gives a sh*t.

That was a few years ago.

Now and then he jokingly says I have to be nice to him or he'll leave it to a charity. I just point out I'll be the one choosing his nursing home so he better be nice to me!

henpecked1

fairylittle wrote: »

I'm still not sure if I will phone on Christmas Day yet

I would call them, just remember to reverse the charge beforehand. You dont want to splash out when they have frozen you out