Written out of parents will

Caroline_a

onlyroz wrote: »

Don't be silly. Weddings are arranged for the vanity of the MOTHER, and not the BRIDE.

My mum did her best to ruin my wedding because I didn't do what she wanted, so you have my sympathies.

My ex MIL was the same. She went for a 3 month break to see relatives in Canada, returning the week before we got married. In that week she tried to systematically destroy all arrangements we had so carefully budgeted for. Luckily I managed to hold it all together, but her parting shot was that, as she had paid for the church service (I think it was around £25), that would be her present to us. My parents had given us our house deposit... To give a rough comparison, she spent £150 on her shoes alone, never mind the designer outfit that she bought...

thorsoak

fairylittle wrote: »

Hi

this is a long story - sorry

......and I had left them with no choice but to cut me out of their will.......
...They refused to come to my wedding coz they said I wanted to be the centre of attention :eek: but came in the end anyway after not paying a penny towards it

Should I just concentrate on my own family or forgive them AGAIN???

In your circumstances, I would just send a card saying "don't worry about cutting me/us out of your wills - because I'm doing the same - and we've just won the lottery !

Seriously - life is too short to waste on people like this - concentrate on your children - give them what you haven't been given by your parents - give love, expect nothing but love in return.

SailorSam

hitchins wrote: »

I think we all have one. I have cut all ties with my only sibling (brother). Used to dread having anything to do with him, birthdays, Christmas etc, horrible, selfish man, and it's the best thing I did. I no longer have a brother as far as I am concerned..

Sounds like my Sister, i couldn't care less if i ever see her again or not, trouble is i really love my nieces and miss seeing them.

BangorJane

Hi Fairylittle
Sounds like they have done this to get a reaction and to get some kind of attention by you responding, so I think best thing you could do is just not respond. You say you've already sent them Xmas cards; they will probably be expecting you to contact them and plead forgiveness for whatever it is you've done to displease them. If you don't react then they have no fuel for the fire.
The best revenge is success!!

pupsicola

Caroline_a wrote: »

My ex MIL was the same. She went for a 3 month break to see relatives in Canada, returning the week before we got married. In that week she tried to systematically destroy all arrangements we had so carefully budgeted for. Luckily I managed to hold it all together, but her parting shot was that, as she had paid for the church service (I think it was around £25), that would be her present to us. My parents had given us our house deposit... To give a rough comparison, she spent £150 on her shoes alone, never mind the designer outfit that she bought...

Bet your MIL still looked lik mutton dressed as lamb, even with the designer labels. Sorry could not resist :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

consultant31

Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

Or you could say 'that's OK, I get legal aid, so I'll be able to contest the will long enough for every penny to be eaten up by lawyer's fees in any case, so nobody will get anything'.

Brilliant :rotfl::rotfl:

henpecked1

meritaten wrote: »

but dont forget to empty their bank accounts first! QUOTE]

Power of Attorney - those fees and expenses can be a trifle expensive :beer:

Lucy1973

hitchins wrote: »

I think we all have one. I have cut all ties with my only sibling (brother). Used to dread having anything to do with him, birthdays, Christmas etc, horrible, selfish man, and it's the best thing I did. I no longer have a brother as far as I am concerned. My poor parents only put up with him for sake of the grandchildren.

i could have written this.

(((hugs)))

Stephb1986_2

Lucy1973 wrote: »

i could have written this.

(((hugs)))

Me too are you lot related to me?? LOL

Steph xx

FATBALLZ

If any relative told me they'd "cut me out of their will" that would be the last time I'd bother with them. Having said that, if they were !!!!!! like yours sound to be I'd have stopped bothering with them long ago. As other posters have said this threat is usually some sad desperate attempt to have influence over your life. Don't waste your precious time trying to please scumbags like these, spend it on people you love.

I really fail to understand the mentality that despite the fact you don't get to choose your family you should still maintain a relationship - why? There are a number of lowlives in my family and I haven't spoken to them in a good 10 years now, they add nothing to my life and I am much happier not thinking about them.