Child would like unsuitable game for christmas HELP!

Caliendo

skintchick wrote: »

Children need to know what is and is not acceptable, and they learn that by seeing it modelled for them by their parents, then by their wider circle.
Quite apart from that, if you DO allow children to have things they are not supposed to have BY LAW, and by such a margin (an 18 game for an 8yo) then what exactly are you teaching them about respect for the law and society as a whole?

That laws don;t matter? That they don't apply all the time, or to 'us'? I don;t think that's a helpful or responsible thing to teach them.

That's exactly what I was thinking. What sort of an example are these parents setting about circumventing the law to get what you want?

suited-aces wrote: »

Do you really want to end up looking like the bad guy, uolypool?

Ugh. That's what it's all about really isn't it?

Weak.

Caliendo

Jamz wrote: »

You do realise that the age rating is only for the single part of the game, the online part of the game is unrated...?

Unrated is worse isn't it?

Jamz wrote: »

It's no different really to letting them watch Tom and Jerry for instance, have you seen the violence that happens in that program?

Seriously?

hitchins

Brilliant post LadyGooGoo. :A

Sambucus_Nigra

Absolutely.

[Some] people need to remember that their kids have got mates; it's PARENTS they need and that's the role they should be taking.

suited-aces

hitchins wrote: »

Think this is the problem! Parents nowadays want their children to be friends and not dislike them, the old excuse "well little Fred down the road has it....", they don't want to be meany mum and dad or in some instances, just don't give a sh*t. Children need boundaries, in fact we all do, that's why we have laws.

You misunderstood, i didn't mean it in that context, I meant it in the context of there being an ex husband on the scene who is clearly out to score points.

hitchins

suited-aces wrote: »

You misunderstood, i didn't mean it in that context, I meant it in the context of there being an ex husband on the scene who is clearly out to score points.

Oh yeh I know, wasn't having a pop.

Jacks_xxx

LadyGooGoo wrote: »

When I was a little kid I had a best friend who was the funniest, sweetest, cleverest boy ever. He grew into the most gorgeous amazing young man, and I loved him. Whenever anybody speaks about "the best and the brightest" I immediately think of him. When we were teenagers we were boyfriend and girlfriend for a while, and we were always part of the family in each other's houses..

Last year, when we were both 28, I went to his funeral.

I spent the whole time holding his weeping mother up whilst simultaneously wanting to punch her in the face.

When he was dying from HIV complications she would go to horrible dangerous places and meet with horrible dangerous people to score heroin for him "If I don't give it to him he'll get hold of it somewhere". He was supposed to be on methadone, and he eventually died of an overdose.

She used to say the same thing about giving him money to pay for heroin for years before this:

"If I don't give it to him he'll get hold of it somewhere".

She said the same thing about dope and booze when we were 14:

"If I don't give it to him he'll get hold of it somewhere".

Similarly about cigarettes a couple of years earlier:

"If I don't give them to him he'll get hold of them somewhere".

She said much the same thing about playing his older brother's games and watching his videos from about age 11:

"If I don't give it to him he'll get hold of it somehow".

My Mum used to say "If he said he wanted to jump off a cliff that woman would walk him to the edge and hold his coat for him!"

This thread has reminded me of him, and made me feel so sad.

That's so, SO sad LadyGooGoo.

sashadesade

LadyGooGoo wrote: »

When I was a little kid I had a best friend who was the funniest, sweetest, cleverest boy ever. He grew into the most gorgeous amazing young man, and I loved him. Whenever anybody speaks about "the best and the brightest" I immediately think of him. When we were teenagers we were boyfriend and girlfriend for a while, and we were always part of the family in each other's houses..

Last year, when we were both 28, I went to his funeral.

I spent the whole time holding his weeping mother up whilst simultaneously wanting to punch her in the face.

When he was dying from HIV complications she would go to horrible dangerous places and meet with horrible dangerous people to score heroin for him "If I don't give it to him he'll get hold of it somewhere". He was supposed to be on methadone, and he eventually died of an overdose.

She used to say the same thing about giving him money to pay for heroin for years before this:

"If I don't give it to him he'll get hold of it somewhere".

She said the same thing about dope and booze when we were 14:

"If I don't give it to him he'll get hold of it somewhere".

Similarly about cigarettes a couple of years earlier:

"If I don't give them to him he'll get hold of them somewhere".

She said much the same thing about playing his older brother's games and watching his videos from about age 11:

"If I don't give it to him he'll get hold of it somehow".

My Mum used to say "If he said he wanted to jump off a cliff that woman would walk him to the edge and hold his coat for him!"

This thread has reminded me of him, and made me feel so sad.

Thanks for posting this LadyGooGoo, something for us all to think about. I'm very sorry about your friend.

suited-aces

I'm not buying that.

jellyhead

vik6525 wrote: »

I'll answer that question as honestly as I can, but I know I'll probably be judged for my response, so be kind!

Im a FIRM believer, when it comes to my own child, of 'taking away the mystery' of things.
The game in question, for example, was, amongst my sons friends, hyped up to almost epic proportions, despite its content and their ages. So, when the opportunity arose for me to get my hands on a copy, I took it. I KNEW that he wouldnt enjoy it (despite, or probably because, he has access to an entire computer games shop, hes not interested in them in the slightest!) and so, for me, taking away the 'mystery' of the game taught him a valuable lesson.
I do the same with television programmes and films.
Im a HUGE fan of the 'True Blood' series, and books, and he nagged me for ages to be allowed to watch it. The show is renowned for its pretty 'fruity' content, so what did i do? I let him watch the most boring, 'talky' episode of all 3 series. And as a result, hes not interested in that now either...

I dont believe I can shield my son from a lot of things, but what I DO believe is that I can let him experience them (partly ) in the safety of our home, thus taking away their 'glamour'.

We did the same (years back) with a boring episode of Torchwood :rotfl: In a way it gave my boy even more kudos in the playground, because he'd seen it and could talk about it, but was of the opinion that it wasn't very good.

At the OP son's age (year 3) there are probably kids who aren't even allowed to watch doctor who.